yep. me, SIL. Similar situation. Lucky for me, wife and sis in law are aware of their similarity in height and build, and they have now agreed not to wear similar outfits.

Its about the fantasy, I understand the probability just fine. I earn enough to get by. Life is good.

The idea that I could never have to work is appealing. Just not appealing enought to buy them all the time.

This exactly. I can't say I'm immune to it either. It's so pervasive, us guys, don't even realize it. This AM I found myself apologizing and explaining to my kid for a similar statement.

I said "I'm helping momma clean the house". Unwittingly implying that house cleaning was mom's responsibility and I'm merely helping. Even with the best of intentions, that shit is hard to combat.

There was a guy who did a paper on this and had a better explanation.

So TLDR men are higher risk takers and get into larger, deadlier accidents. Women are more cautious drivers but seem to get into numerically more smaller less expensive non deadly accidents.

You psyched yourself out. You were so concerned with performing well that you entirely put yourself out of the mood.

Instead try to just have fun, it will happen.