munkymu

munkymu t1_ja1dlhm wrote

One thing you might want to do is to ask yourself whether what you're thinking about or feeling is useful.

We can't always control what thoughts and feelings pop up, so you're going to have periods where you think back to things you did and feel guilty and ashamed. But ultimately, sitting there and wallowing doesn't actually help anybody or anything. Nobody's life is improved by you feeling shitty for extended periods of time.

So when thoughts like that come up, acknowledge them. Yes, you did some awful things and that sucked. Addiction is an awful thing. But you are living in the now, not the past. What are you going to do next? What kind of people do you admire and what do you think they would do right now if they were in your place? What kind of world do you think you'd like to live in? What do you think is good and important and worth fighting for? What do you think sucks and is worth fighting against? And is obsessing about the past the most useful thing you could be doing right now? If not, what could you do instead?

It doesn't really matter if you used to be horrible or not, because you have choices NOW. You can choose to not be horrible now, and to not be horrible in the future.

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munkymu t1_j68q7lx wrote

I've bought my last few pillows at Ikea. They've all been good quality and durable, and Ikea isn't about ripping people off so I don't think their prices are unreasonable for what I'm getting. Plus you can go to one of their stores (if you live near one) and prod at the pillows yourself, and even try one out on one of their beds (they're all in plastic packages if I recall correctly so you're not going to be buying a pillow other people have gotten dirty).

Plus if a pillow doesn't work for you, you can return it. Although I think they have to destroy it at that point so maybe consider keeping it for the sofa or as a spare for guests or something.

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munkymu t1_iyfdpe2 wrote

I'm pretty fond of my Osprey. I've had it for a few years now and it still looks and performs like new. They likely have some day packs for under $100 US.

If you're looking for very basic and inexpensive, though, Jansport is a good choice.

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munkymu t1_ixar6ae wrote

I have a pair of down booties I wear in the winter. I also drink a lot of tea.

If both these things aren't enough, I usually get up and do a few dishes. Hot water + moving around does a great job of warming me up.

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