Violence against women is so normalized that you refuse to see it as wrong or preventable as evidenced by your claim that men are the true victims here. Yes, toxic masculinity exists and prevents men from seeking mental help, which then results in women dying. He's a rape victim who plans to rape and kill his ex and you appear to be in support of that with your whataboutism. You can choose to help prevent a murder and get this guy the help he needs or you can keep scrolling, but defending this him is gross.

No, have you? He made it clear that the rape/murder will take place at her home in rural Maine. If you're concerned for her safety then do something. Telling me to do more than I'm already doing isn't a good look.

If you were truly concerned about her situation then you would have done something instead of nitpick and minimize. Leave me alone.

You're hung up on finding a comment where he says she lives in rural Maine because you refused to take my word for it. The comment is so devoid of detail that it isn't worth posting. If you don't want to be called a minimizer and an apologist, then stop acting like one and move on or do something useful. Women don't need to stroke your ego to prove they don't deserve to be raped and murdered. You can dismiss it as hysteria, but all that shows is that this situation isn't real to you and you don't take it seriously. Please stop wasting my time.

Downplaying someone's violent words is indirect defense of those words. Demanding proof that this is in Maine when I explain up front that there is very little detail other than it's in rural Maine is an attempt to invalidate the situation. Your intent may not be nefarious, but the outcome of ignoring the bigger issue to focus on the smaller ones, will be the same. It shows you're not taking it seriously, and this is why so many women die. Calling it hysteria is misogyny in action. You don't have to take any of this seriously, but why keep going? If it's not important to you, keep scrolling.

It's here .

I'm not dodging anything. I say in my original post that the only details he gives are that she lives in rural Maine and that he lives 150 miles from her. It not enough information to go by, really, but it's all we have. It's up to reddit and law enforcement to get his IP. And to think I'm assuming the worst of someone's intentions when they lay out explicit plans to rape and murder is sick. Someone is in danger and you're here defending the creep.

She lives in Maine. Presumably he does too. Ask yourself why you're doing the whataboutism and minimization of a man with explicit plans to rape and kill. You could have kept scrolling, but here you are working on his behalf.

In one comment he mentions that he lives 150 miles from her and in another he says he's 3 hours from her. In the quote below he says that she lives in a small rural town in Maine. I suppose he might not live in Maine, but the rape/murder will take place there. >Ik for a fact the sister is the dad's daughter (they look alike) but I also know my ex is his stepdaughter not biological. The mother is his wife. Idk about sex trafficking but I can tell you they live in a small rural town in Maine.

Completely different stories. Nothing matches up. Very neckbeard of you to minimize a guy's explicitly violent post.

Thank you. Violence against women is so common that it's been normalized. Claiming some dude's explicitly violent post is fake is misogyny in action.

If it's the Broke up with my girlfriend and now she might sure for mental abuse post, then no, it's not the same user nor the same circumstance.

I don't live in Maine or belong to this sub. The guy sounds real and reddit seems to think so too. Why dismiss something when someone's life could be in danger?