raised_by_groening
raised_by_groening t1_jbimmwy wrote
Reply to [Image] This photo has helped me greatly with my low self esteem and social anxiety by meteoricBolbitis
This comic has given me solace for a long time....
raised_by_groening t1_ja03r6z wrote
Reply to [Image] Trashy Motivation by ToonKiller
Come on, if they are taking back the word slut, by refuting it by shaming people for slutshaming, can we please shame people that call each other white trash or human garbage?
I mean, calling people human garbage is a horrific way to undermine the dignity and value they have...
raised_by_groening t1_j8n2cbj wrote
Reply to [Image] The world will ask you who you are, and if you don't know, the world will tell you. by crm_expert
Yea maybe the 'world' use to be a bully, things be a changing...
raised_by_groening t1_iuezfd0 wrote
Reply to comment by DuskyDay in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Oh, you are one that studies logic! Me too!! Which study of logic do you subscribe? Do you have a favorite professor of logic?
Oh and I absolutely disagree with your statement. My argument is an incredibly small claim.
raised_by_groening t1_iuewgrr wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Did you say asceticism was one of your principles?
raised_by_groening t1_iuduccs wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
My friend I am so sorry for whatever you are going through. You are going through a lot and need a lot of emotional support to keep going.
I am hoping nothing but the best for you, I take you at your word and I hope you can have harmony within your family in the future.
Please take care of yourself
raised_by_groening t1_iudn26w wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Absolutely! I forgive for things like this. I usually forgive people when I have an expectation for someone, when they have made a commitment to me, and they fail to make good on their commitment. Instead of having hurt feelings, I just forgive them and move on.
Can I please have a definition of accountability? a specific situation?
I'm sorry I don't know your definition of accountability in another response. Could you please provide one?
raised_by_groening t1_iudk5ba wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Would you care to please define accountability in any particular context, just something that isn't general or abstract. Just a specific situation please?
raised_by_groening t1_iudiyu7 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
I appreciate what you are trying to articulate, but umm. I beg your pardon, did you address any of my factual arguments?
Maybe there is a miscommunication going on.
What is the precise definition of an individual with a cluster b personality disorder? Why are they acting like that? Did they have childhood trauma? If they are overwhelmed how do we prevent them from being overwhelmed and how do we help them to be virtuous people in society?
I literally studied existential philosophy and I literally hold myself accountable for all things, things I have done and things I have not done. So I don't think it applies to me, but maybe you are talking about a hypothetical person in society?
How does this relate to your database of memories? And your identity as a person?
Also this seems to be contradictory. You say there are people out there somewhere acting this way:
>“it’s not me, it’s YOU, YOU refuse to let go of the past”. But In every instance, they refuse to be held accountable.
But people that hold others accountable without forgiving them, seem to be doing exactly this on the small scale. They aren't saying this explicitly but you are literally thinking it and it manifests in those that are overwhelmed.
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Thanks for coming to my ted talk
Sincerely
~Homer Simpson
raised_by_groening t1_iud8c78 wrote
Reply to comment by DuskyDay in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Oh I truly disagree with this. And I think this is quite the opposite of the evolutionary advantage of forgiveness.
You see when you have a negative thought about yourself or others, it is actually a burden. A person overwhelmed is full of negative thoughts that they can not handle, and can not deal with. So they lash out, in their community or inward (depression).
Anyway.
You see, when you identify someone as toxic, just a little bit you actually identify yourself as being toxic. Here is how I know. The process of identification takes the same neurons you are using to read this sentence, and when you identify someone as toxic, that label in of itself as a memory, you hold and retain that memory. If you are not your memories, uhh I don't know who you are.
Anyway, if you want to purge yourself of all toxicity, you forgive all people and yourself of all negative behaviors or things that have hurt you in the past.
If you do not do this, you are literally slowly, building up negative memories one by one, slowly over time. Until you get overwhelmed or 'lose your cool'.
Evolutionarily forgiveness gives a person the ability to accept people where they are, not take offense of minor inconveniences, and gives them the opportunity to be good. Which makes the community better for the self and others.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk,
Sincerely ,
Homer Simpson
raised_by_groening t1_iud7at4 wrote
Reply to comment by DuskyDay in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
My friend I just believe in forgiveness. And that the people that forgive, have more empathy to love those that are hurt.
Hahah, I wish I was missing the life experience you are talking about, but truly I am not lol!!
raised_by_groening t1_iubrzx2 wrote
Reply to comment by maiteko in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
I just don't believe in fundamentally broken people.
Hoping whatever is going on you can heal with grace and can integrate in your community.
raised_by_groening t1_iuah45a wrote
Reply to [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle
Well in the book, "American Scapegoating and Social Isolation", this would be evaluated as such.
1). Don't identify anyone as toxic
2). Analyze your own emotions, when you can be positive around others, try to share that positivity.
3). Don't label anyone as crazy, yourself or others.
4). Accept yourself and your own flaws, and the flaws of others and have solidarity over what it means to be human.
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~Sincerely Homer Simpson
raised_by_groening t1_jd7a7ql wrote
Reply to Man who calls himself "Dolphin Dave" cited for allegedly harassing humpback whales and dolphins in Hawaii by wallstreetegg
No, what I have is a romantic abnormality--
One so unbelievable it must be hidden from the public at all costs
~Troy Mcclure