Submitted by Qbase11 t3_yfmycu in Connecticut
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deceptacle1980 t1_iu4i8yr wrote
Well it’s on MSN, so…
Embarrassed_Union_96 t1_iu4ihyq wrote
Your comment is an assumption more major than most people’s depression.
The actualized part just sounds like board room talk.
ZestyItalian2 t1_iu4pleb wrote
What the fuck are you talking about
Embarrassed_Union_96 t1_iu4uw84 wrote
You can’t confidently claim that those searches are connected to people actualizing (board room talk) and able to actually properly care for their mental health.
giant_toad42 t1_iu591ac wrote
Self actualization. Do you know what that is?
Let's step into psychological theory, namely, Maslow's hierarchy of needs. We have basic needs, security needs, some higher level needs.. then, there's this:
Self Actualization.
This isn't boardroom talk. This is mental health talk.
What is it?
It's the top tier of needs. Namely, the stuff that makes us feel awesome. Dreamed of owning a Tesla for the longest, but you don't need it - your brand new Tesla is self actualization. That dream vacation. The veblen handbag. Designer Jewelry. Gourmet dinners. Etc.
How much of the above do you enjoy frequently? How much of the above do I enjoy frequently. How do we feel in that space, are we truly content.
Without actualization, we feel less than whole. Incomplete, and we constantly stress over what we are lacking in our lives.
In short.
More of us are miserable and don't achieve our dreams.
Embarrassed_Union_96 t1_iu598xt wrote
If you knew what Maslow’s is you’d know it’s not something psychologists rely on 100% because it isn’t accurate enough to help address people’s needs.
I actually do research on addressing this issue with Maslow’s.
Also there’s a cultural disconnection between fulfilling needs and actualizing to experience transcendence. Such disconnects manifest in you belief that people are actualizing under the circumstances described in the other comment.
EDIT) You’re also describing actualization from a materialistic perspective——extrinsic motivations. Which isn’t accurate for all people. This is why I’m saying it’s board room talk. Executives often see people in this light. It’s a cultural projection symptomatic of a disconnect with humanity’s complex motivational nature. It’s short sighted.
IndicationOver t1_iu5f573 wrote
People complain about taxes and utility rates all the time in our subreddit yet people in this very subreddit are acting like this article is total bullshit?
giant_toad42 t1_iu5gaby wrote
Nah, poverty can't make you miserable and impact your mental health. No way. The freshman who took psych 101 said so.
Embarrassed_Union_96 t1_iu5gj5y wrote
What he said.
giant_toad42 t1_iu5fblh wrote
I literally defined maslow's and "if you knew what it is" .. I know exactly what it is, and I described exactly what it is. It's a tool to judge how different needs are met and how they relate to an individual's personal situation. EG: A marketing tool based on psychological impact. I wonder what I do. You yourself also said in your "response" that "they don't use it 100%". But, it's used. Why? Becuase it's a holistic picture and a component of the whole picture. Who said it's the whole thing? Not me, but you. Why? In your head - I'm some narrow-minded non thinking person who you feel you are superior to. Who you feel you have more knowledge than - and you have this need to prove to me that you know more than I do. Do you? Maybe. I don't know. But do you honestly think that a single post on a public forum is the full extent of my knoweldge? What type of arrogancy is that to approach another person with that type of thinking?
Anyways.
Money doesn't make you happy but it's easier to be happy with money.
I have a feeling that the people in our state who struggle to find affordable housing, struggle to pay their eversource bills, get screwed by comcast, get screwed by high food costs, worry about how their kids will survive ... etc etc etc etc - will really give one flying shit about your transcendent medetation bullshit that is "self actualization" in your books.
Reality is simple. In your academic mind, you're making it far more complicated than it actually is.
Are you a sociologist or related somehow to sociology? Because you're ... really out of touch with reality - and it screams pseudoscience.
Just like psychology .. where "talk" helps "heal". An entire "profession" that could be replaced completely with parents or friends. Pseudoscience.
Embarrassed_Union_96 t1_iu5g1kv wrote
You can’t tout your support of Maslow’s and then turn your back on it at the same time expecting to win with your assertion just because it’s not working out for you when you need it to.
Completed Maslow’s includes transcendence. My work doesn’t support the transcendence in his style. Which is what you said. The meditative stuff. My work is practical and more focused on the bill paying to survive perspective.
Happy to share more. Just let me know.
simplsurvival t1_iu45ql9 wrote
I blame eversource
Flylatino24 t1_iu4bpxs wrote
Lol and heating oil companies
simplsurvival t1_iu4cug1 wrote
And the gosh darn CT mountain lions
Purple-Blood9669 t1_iu4f1um wrote
#GoSluttyCougars! Have pride in our mascot.
Purple-Blood9669 t1_iu4f75d wrote
I don't even know how I made that bold...
dreemurthememer t1_iu73wma wrote
“#” makes things bold
Purple-Blood9669 t1_iu74u9g wrote
Ah, I was trying for an ironic hashtag but the bold was kind of fun.
happyjammy123 t1_iu6rb0m wrote
Damn mountain lions, their everywhere
giant_toad42 t1_iu592ma wrote
Fuck eversource.
jaredsparks t1_iu4vsgn wrote
That's both a riot and a commentary on those who continuously complain about Eversource.
Determined_Cucumber t1_iu7xon9 wrote
How much are you guys paying EverSource. Lots of comments in the entirety of this subreddit here are acting like they’re paying $400 a month on them.
My excuse is that I quite literally just moved here, so I don’t understand the sentiment.
MonicaRising t1_iu45bn7 wrote
While it's not particularly surprising, if you read the article, the data used is not exactly the most scientific or exhaustive method. Web search terms are not the most scientific way to go about determining this. For instance, the same person can search the term many many times, several different ways, on several different days, repeatedly over the course of time until they either find what they are looking for or seek professional help, skewing this methodology
kppeterc15 t1_iu4e5mo wrote
The study was also conducted by a luxury rehab clinic in Thailand, which the news article (and I imagine hundreds of others) links to. It's less a study than an exercise in link building for SEO.
AhbabaOooMaoMao t1_iu4moc8 wrote
>If you read the article, the data used is not exactly the most scientific or exhaustive method.
No shit? The headline didn't give that away immediately?
triguywalker t1_iu99fya wrote
Are you stressed?
AhbabaOooMaoMao t1_iu9ds00 wrote
Yes, I am definitely stressed about corporate media jamming pseudoscientific bullshit down the public's throat.
alexcarboni11 t1_iu483pe wrote
Fuck ya, CT finally gets the gold !
wrinklyweenus t1_iu5p8i1 wrote
This article is nonsense.
HarryMcDowell t1_iu492ko wrote
Based on internet searches for the subject. Could be we're less stressed because our people are proactively investigating, or searching for ways to reduce it in others because we're so goddamn conscientious.
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"Study" is too strong a word for what this was.
Darondo t1_iu4awez wrote
Connecticut has the tallest and best looking people in the country: Study*
*based on quantity of internet searches for “Stefanowski”
AvogadrosMoleSauce t1_iu46ii8 wrote
Good thing weed will be be for sale... at some point.
Glissy02 t1_iu4h163 wrote
I am living this every day.
Big-Pond t1_iu4tysr wrote
Don’t click the link. Click bait for a bs “study”
Here’s the summary;
“The study, conducted by addiction specialists at Diamond Rehab Thailand, analyzed Google Trends data for a selection of stress-relief terms to see which states were more stressed-out compared to others.
Connecticut took the No. 1 spot as residents searched for “psychological stress” the most. Additionally, the state had the highest score for searching the term “stress,” as well as high rankings for “depression” and “anxiety.”
The state scored 85 out of 100 on average for the searches of each term, the study found — a stark difference from Wyoming, which ranked 69 on average.”
X_LCH_X t1_iu4wcds wrote
Yeah because it’s expensive to live here
wrinklyweenus t1_iu5q1dv wrote
Because CT has an educated and self-aware populace that understands the fundamentals of self-care and psychological treatment.
I now live in suburban DC and this place has more stress by orders of magnitude than Connecticut. Not for me--I'm a nobody--but yesterday I was driving through the city at 11pm and I saw some young guy in a suit--undoubtedly an attorney or staffer--emerging from the office to get on his scooter. Everyone here is super Type-A, and it's not healthy.
The same probably applies to Silicon Valley and Manhattan.
Connecticut is a cake-walk.
Antique-Regret6162 t1_iu648j2 wrote
I'm glad connecticut is a "cake walk" to you, hats off my guy. As a single guy here, paying 1250 a month for rent on top of all of the increasing bills, I'm working a 60 hour week 7 days a week majority of the time. And I'm doing all of that just to be able to make bills and keep a roof over my head. I save MAYBE $1-150 a week.
If something unexpected comes up with my car or at the house (which they have recently) well there goes pretty much all of my savings! Life is just so swell over here
wrinklyweenus t1_iu8moo6 wrote
This is a national problem. Blame 40 years of Reaganomics.
moosestuf t1_iu44kza wrote
I’ll take “things that couldn’t be less surprising” for 100…
poboy212 t1_iu4drek wrote
Lol this is beyond stupid
GoPikachuGo1 t1_iu4w12f wrote
I'm extremely happy between May and October.
And I'm extremely depressed between November and April.
Retirees who snowbird to Florida for the winter are doing it right.
Pig_Pen_g2 t1_iu69yd1 wrote
Let them all think that CT, MA, and VT are the most stressed states… it’s sucks here in New England, STAY AWAY
Waramaug t1_iu6ll7s wrote
It’s the damn traffic
captkeith t1_iu7n69g wrote
What bullshit. Why would people be more stressed in ct then NY or Texas ? Vermont? Come on. That story is hogwash.
ChiliRainbow83 t1_iu4bj30 wrote
YOU THINK I DON’T FUCKING REALIZE THAT?
SuckaMc-69 t1_iu4bnob wrote
Don’t need anyone to do a study to tell me that….
AJH05004 t1_iu4cyt2 wrote
I feel this.
deaddabrain t1_iu4qcjq wrote
Hartford claim to fame is the “Insurance Capital of the World” what do you expect?
Superdeduper82 t1_iu4rofu wrote
Garbage article/study
FireyToots t1_iu4uli3 wrote
you're welcome.
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IndicationOver t1_iu5enku wrote
According to this subreddit CT is the best state
Pinocchio226 t1_iu5o83u wrote
RELAX!
WonderChopstix t1_iu5rogv wrote
Looks like a bogus study and honestly not reading it .. BUT... I have read other similar studies and one of the main driving factors is that compared to other states we have the worst commuting time. Between how far people travel (like Milford to NY or Middletown to Danbury) for thier jobs ... and then add our horrible traffic and accident rate.
I know this improved for some with WFH but not all
coolducklingcool t1_iu6dgf8 wrote
Lol this “study” is a joke.
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Irish_Blond_1964 t1_iu724n9 wrote
No shit. NY and Massholes on the roads. Rhode Island is your neighbor. What the fuck!?!
numitoke t1_iu75lki wrote
You couldn't tell by the posts on this boohoohoohoo subreddit? Typical CT mindset, we need a study for that!
Impossible_Watch7154 t1_iu8aj81 wrote
From a luxury home operation in Thailand? Take this with a grain of salt.
[deleted] t1_iub03i7 wrote
The cities are in rough shape, don’t remember them being this bad , Waterbury is getting bad , crime, drugs, homeless, sad situation
shaunben17 t1_iu480ao wrote
If based on searches…Think of the other things some of those southern states are looking up. “Can I marry my cousin?”
CaptServo t1_iu48qgo wrote
You can marry your cousin in CT
mkt853 t1_iu4qh5g wrote
NY as well. Otherwise Rudy Giuliani would still be single after his 3rd divorce.
shaunben17 t1_iu4amjg wrote
I had no idea!!! Haha. Thanks for the knowledge.
Whaddaulookinat t1_iu6xyy5 wrote
That's one of those "not needed laws here" like of you go to a park and see a sign urging you not to engage in amateur zoological husbandry... You know something happened that required that law
mythofinadequecy t1_iu4bjff wrote
When are JFK Jr and Michael Jackson coming back
Ornery-Confusion-920 t1_iu4c806 wrote
Did anyone hear they are limiting the amount of heating oil you can buy at one time ?
AJH05004 t1_iu4d1py wrote
No. Source?
Ornery-Confusion-920 t1_iu4db5x wrote
CNN it was on while I was at the dealership.
[deleted] t1_iu5rmaw wrote
When it's against CT then everything is bullshit. Typical democrat way to ignore things.
Prudent-Ball2698 t1_iu8koij wrote
I blame Ned Lamont. If we had a governor who cared about the state instead of leeching it dry we'd be in a better position
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LazyUpvote88 t1_iu495eg wrote
Go for a walk outside. CT is 60% forests.
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rabidpirate t1_iu4ac73 wrote
Forests you can't have fun offroading on without risking heavy fines
wrinklyweenus t1_iu5qp4q wrote
Thank God. Some of us actually like to enjoy nature.
LazyUpvote88 t1_iu4hplh wrote
Right because off-roading fucks up the land. People go to the forest to enjoy nature and peace and quiet. Off roading and ORVs etc., fuck that up. When I’m in the woods and the ORVs come thru it’s usually a bunch of mouth breathing fat slobs who litter their shit everywhere. Stay home and beat your wife instead.
Sorry that was rude. I shouldn’t say this but if you look hard enough there are lots of forest roads in the middle of nowhere CT that you could have a good time at, probably without getting in trouble. But I’m still gonna thumb my nose at you if you fuck up my nature bath.
rabidpirate t1_iu4ihuy wrote
Yes, that was rude as hell. Go fuck yourself.
LazyUpvote88 t1_iu4zlop wrote
Go drive your truck into a ditch
Ambitious_Brief1874 t1_iu4q8b9 wrote
Classic battle of order vs freedom
LazyUpvote88 t1_iu50mlb wrote
Well freedoms can conflict sometimes, no? I want to be free to be outside in a quiet natural environment, but Joe Schmo wants the freedom to run his truck all over the place because that’s what “men” do I guess.
wrinklyweenus t1_iu5qk7j wrote
90 minutes to Boston. Two hours to NYC. One of the best regional theatre scenes in the country. Toad's Place is a nationally famous venue for music. Real Artways in Hartford. The Atheneum is an astonishingly good museum for a city the size of Hartford. Weed is legal. Northampton is 40 minutes away.
What is is that you want to do that you can't do?
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wrinklyweenus t1_iu5swm7 wrote
I still don't understand what you want to do that you can't do in Connecticut.
I actually do find Connecticut a little slow--I moved away--but looking back on my time there, I realize that I simply didn't take proper advantage of the opportunities I had.
If I moved back, I'd be at Real Artways everyone weekend, buy season subscriptions to the Hartford Stage, find some weed-and-music buddies and my life would be full.
[deleted] t1_iub06w4 wrote
I blame liberals and I was born and raised Democratic
RudeNarwhal8 t1_iu4ftzq wrote
It's the GOP's, Eversource's, Trump's, "Anti-Vaxxers'", Climate Change, Lack of NHL Team, Traffic, Slow Left Lane Travelers, Lack of retail weed fault...
Did I miss anything ?
Edit: /s
EarthExile t1_iu50qbr wrote
Yeah, the article. It doesn't really make a case for CT being the "most stressed" at all
RudeNarwhal8 t1_iu5e0p0 wrote
I should have put a /s at the end of my post. Was just going off most of the complaints in this subreddit LOL
Knineteen t1_iu4lwj3 wrote
Look who’s running the state. I’d be worried too.
wrinklyweenus t1_iu5qed2 wrote
What the hell are you talking about?
Swimming_Area6016 t1_iu4e4g6 wrote
It is stressful trying to be politically correct all of the time and constantly being offended, and forcing it on others.
TrashPandaShire t1_iu4jcvz wrote
And the same lousy politicians getting elected over and over again…
ZestyItalian2 t1_iu460w3 wrote
This is hilarious nonsense.
The ranking is based off of frequency of internet searches of the terms “stress” “anxiety” and “depression”.
All this indicates is that people in Connecticut are taking care of their mental health and are self-aware enough to recognize signs of various types of psychological strain. If anything, this makes us less likely to be stressed and more likely to be happy and actualized.
How do they get away with publishing this shit?