What about the crippling guilt and regret from past misdeeds?

Understand that you were probably not a good person but you don't have to remain that person. Guilt and regret is at least an acceptance that you were wrong, a lot of people don't even get to that point. The next step is to try and become a better person, and forgive yourself for the person you were and the things you did.

It's not wrong to look back sometimes then, objects can be closer than they seem. As long as you know where you are going or not, you are always moving forward.

I needed this today, thank you.

Me too

My pleasure

create habitsss. but how to be consistent 🙁

True. I take the never look back as meaning 'dont go backwards'. Even that's not realistic, there will be times you fall back, just remember to rise up again.

Start small. If you want to develop the habit of reading for instance, start by reading one page a day, but do not skip it. Gradually you can bring it up, though reading a page a day is also good. If you cannot read a page a day, maybe reading is not for you and try a new habit.

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How do i go back university for another 3-5 years to do what i should’ve done 10 years ago? How do i pay for it?

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You can think new thoughts, but how are you going to change your thinking completely and permanently?

If it's not realistic for you to go back to university, you have to look at the best option for you now. Everyone makes mistakes. I wish I did a lot of things differently when I was younger. I know it's easier said than done but you have to look ahead.

Is that disco elysium?

Is this about Jesus?

I want to go do a medical degree or a phd but both seem impossible

I'm not sure you can do that. You can't change your entire thought process but you can think new thoughts and focus on them. If you focus on different thoughts, you almost become a different person, gradually. I think that's what's implied here.

No clue. Sorry

I don't think so

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Love

Is it a money issue? I don't know your situation but there must be some way to get funds to study. And if not, maybe work until you can and save on other stuff if this is really what you want to do. Sorry I can't be of more help.

Same. After going through some things I wanted to help others, but I already set foot on the engineering side so it's impossible

I’m not in the medical field, but when I dropped out and then returned to college after a couple years I had way more financial aid available to me (I’m in the US). Because I had been lower class $8 / hour during my hiatus, suddenly I was eligible for Pell Grants, subsidized student loans, and additional grants through the state Workforce Agency. My degree was a BS in Engineering. I still graduated with loans, but the balance was much lower than it would’ve otherwise been. Plus, I basically lived off the loans while attending college such that I didn’t have to juggle a part time job and classes/studying.

What about age? Is that a factor?

Healthy striving over perfectionism: Value progress over success and enjoy the process

Me three. Thank you for the inspiring words.

I needed to read this today thank you

What if one is dead? How do they rise up from that?

If you're younger it's probably easier but age shouldn't stop you from learning or trying new sensible things.

My pleasure

Weekend at Bernie's

Thanks, I needed that today

My pleasure

Got kicked out of art school?

Not the end of the world.

Rise up above and go into politics.

You can rise up from anything!

Some things that are permanent:

Blindness

Deafness

Paralysis

Brain Damage

A Life Sentence without the Possibility of Parole

Death

and sexual orientation

As u rise u will only get stronger and wiser!

Add onto that race, unless you're Rachel Dolezal.

Thanks. It's so easy to forget this.

Guilt is a very volatile fuel for self harm

Shame as well

Give yourself a break, you deserve it 👍

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What about crippling debt from doing this exact strategy over and over?

Good idea but we monetized skills and knowledge and insisted that humans can only exist when they interact with the economy successfully. If you "remake" yourself and that self isn't a working cog in our economy you're homeless...

Determinism is the true way of things. Your entire life has been set since the beginning of time.

It's a nice way to absolve yourself of any responsibility

Pay attention to your thoughts.

If there is an overall theme to thoughts (like "fuck everyone" or "I suck") then there is likely an underlying emotionally charged event feeding them all. Deep introspection can expose and help release that event, causing the "related" thoughts to become weak and not arise nearly as often.

Grabbing or pushing away thoughts are habits, and both actions reinforce those thoughts to arise again. Often people will grab at thoughts that bring them pleasure and push away thoughts that bring them discomfort, then check out into fantasizing when all seems neutral.

The more one indulges in anger, the more anger one craves and the more likely one will habitually jump into anger without forethought. The more one rejects certain life realities, the more one will dwell in fantasy and become at odds with reality, needing fantasy (or junk food or drugs) to cope with consequences of their disconnect.

Note there is a ton of nuance: every person has different triggers and hangups, so I'm just speaking generally here.

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Open your eyes, at what point do humans buck the laws of physics?

Thanks!

Oh fuck yeah let’s regrow some body parts!

Especially that

What about the laws of physics imply complete determinism? In fact, the Uncertainty Principle essentially says the opposite, at least at the quantum level. Even if you built the most powerful computer possible, you couldn't predict events with completely accuracy.

That doesn't of course, equate perfectly to free will, but saying everything is set in stone is fundementally wrong.

My guess is that the uncertainty principle can be solved, but due to humans very limited capacity for observation, we simply cannot see it yet

Same

Except this extremely comfortable bed with two weighted blankets and a smart thermostat that turns on when I hit the snooze button!

There’s lots of ways to work with this. What’s helped me is Somatic Experiencing therapy, deep breathwork, plant medicine and NLP.

It’s about releasing the energy in your nervous system that is keeping you stuck as well as requiring the connections in the mind and body that are being activated.

It's never too late to become the person you want to be.

The idea that people can think new thoughts is a new thought to many people. Just because what you’re doing now works doesn’t mean it’s the only way.

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Determinism does not absolve from any responsibility.

It simply suggests that what you find to be responsible for and to what extent is determined.

The "remaking of self" is possible, yes. But for whom, in what way and to what extent is determined.

What difference does that make? Go "determine" yourself a better life then

Look up determinism bro, then you'll actually know what I'm talking about

I've done it this year. Beautiful feeling.

Yessir!

Doesn't determinism suggest that your every action is predetermined by other factors? If you have no free will since birth, you're not responsible for your actions. I'm not an expert on the topic and would like to learn more tbh.

Indeed!

You got me there 😅

It's my pleasure

Indeed!

Can we rise up to never use the words "rise" and "up" ever again?

Sure. But what do you have against rise and up?😅

Some things are permanent. If you get your leg amputated, thats permanent.

Except a spinal cord injury. Good luck.

Ah yes but what about people who are stuck in crippleing debt and live paycheck to paycheck?

I did this about a month ago.

Best I’ve ever felt, never going back.

I mean some situations are obviously really hard but it's better than giving up isn't it?

That's great!

What about cancer? My dad couldn't "rise up" from cancer when it hit him the second time

I'm sorry about your dad.

This post is just meant to motivate people who are feeling stuck/hopeless at the moment. Apologies if it upset you.

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Hmm

No. After a certain point of constant failure you become too burned out to try anything anymore.

This is a better message than the post lol

https://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/gilligan-violence

> "Of human beings, none are good but all are sacred."

I was thinking of dismemberment/amputation as well.

Really, I believe everything we do has some form of permanence. There is no going back: time runs one-way.

This is not to say that we can't learn from our mistakes or that we cannot grow or become better people. I believe that we all have that capability to some extent. It is a core tenet of mine.

But I had a music teacher say once about playing a wrong note, once it's done, it's out there -- there's no going back.

I believe it is true of everything. Good or bad.

I feel like a lot of people who don't believe in free will use it as a way to offload all the mistakes they've made and ultimately not be responsible for their own fate.

I've had hard times in my life and I feel like I am where I am today through perseverance and determination. I've chosen to sacrifice things in order to achieve goals I've set for myself.

I used to think those who don't believe in free will were saying that my sacrifices were pointless because no matter what choices I make, it was determined to be exactly where I am today.

But I suppose I could look at it as that I never really had a choice in any of it , I was determined from the start to put in the time and make those sacrifices to get here.

Each time you fail at something, try to work out what went wrong and take steps to get better at that. I know it's not easy. But nothing worthwhile comes easily.

I like the quote "The only way you can fail is if you quit"

Yeah because you determined that making the sacrifices was ultimately the most rewarding path. Great answer btw

Thanks I'm cured.

Crispy cured bacon? Mmm

Couldn't I have just as easily determined sitting on my computer every night, holed up in my bedroom was the most comfortable path and continued to do that? I feel like I had a choice in the matter.

Yeah but your advanced human brain realized that your life would ultimately be better if you made money. That feeling of choice is very important, because if everyone felt like they had no power, nothing would happen. So people feel like they have free will so they continue.

Much like many other constructions, determinism also consists of a few separate "layers", or "levels". Hard determinism totally excludes free will as nothing but an illusion. But there's alfo soft determinism that does not exclude free will, merely sees it as influenced by many different factors.

Personally I'm thumbs up for the soft determinism.

Reddit has come to the conclusion being gay is a choice.

Soft determinism I can sort of get behind too. Thanks for sharing.

Great question! There’s a great book titled, I May Be Wrong, written by a Buddhist forest monk. After spending a number of years in the forest, he was asked when he got home what the greatest lesson he learned after all that time in the forest as a monk. Essentially, he said something like he learned not to always trust his thoughts. I found that very telling. Our thoughts are the result of years of the cake being baked—our past traumas, failures, losses, and even positive experiences; a number of things. But the idea is that when we have a thought we should pause and take a minute. Really think about whether the thought reflects our essence—our authentic self. If so, then we should go with that thought. If not, then we should reevaluate. All this, of course, is related to consciousness and other concepts around self-awareness.

Your advice is worthless. I'm nearly 50 years old, and here are the lessons I have learned:

· Being poor as a child hurts you for the rest of your life. · Hard work never results in reward, only in more responsibility and aching joints. · It doesn't matter how smart or good you are at something if you have a personality disorder. · No one listens to you unless you are rich or attractive. · Cherish your imagination while you have it, because once it's gone, it's gone for good. · Never engage with depressed 50 year old burnouts.

That last line... I'll engage one last time.

I know my advice will be worthless to a lot of people. Life is just shit sometimes and you can't do anything about it. People who make it just get lucky.

I needed this today, thank you <3

My pleasure 😁

This doesn't apply to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or trauma.

A one-size-fits-most approach is not the right approach to motivation.