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internetisnotreality t1_itmlrd6 wrote

Negative feelings are inherent tools to motivate you to things differently next time. Not hate yourself.

When you feel bad, try to make a plan for what you will change next time, and how you will take control by being prepared.

Too many people direct shame, embarrassment and sadness inward, which results in a vicious cycle. Instead, take those feelings as a message to review what you could have done differently, and think about how you can implement those changes in the future.

If you touch a cactus, the pain is a signal to not do it again, not to hate yourself. This is true with emotional turmoil as well.

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bekindorelse t1_itnyj9e wrote

Sometimes emotions just happen in your body, or are magnified or altered by trauma, or aren't relevant to the situation at hand at all. A lot of the time a particular emotional experience a person is having doesn't have any inherent meaning at all. You can also just allow those emotions to pass through you without attaching anything to them as they go.

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DataSquid2 t1_ito2mem wrote

I used to be exactly like what's described in this comic only it turned into stress and anxiety rather than self hatred.

I learned to completely let those types of negative feelings just flow out of me rather than holding them and then shift my attention towards improvement. It's not that I'm holding onto those to propel myself to success, but that I recognize them briefly and then problem solve.

I guess I just personally don't like the framing of using them to motivate you because it's this idea of holding on to those things which is how I was in such a negative mindset for so much of my life. I much prefer the framing of recognizing them and moving to the next step.

Using your pain metaphor, I recently cut myself doing dishes. I recognized the pain and then applied pressure and found a first aid kit to patch myself up. I did not focus on the pain, but solved the problem. After that I moved on and was a bit more careful handling knives. Next time I didn't stop and remember the pain of the cut to not do it again as motivation, but instead just remembered to be more careful.

Maybe my brain is broken or different, but for me that subtle difference was the life changing part.

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delvach t1_itob58a wrote

My demons have yokes, wear little jumpsuits with my name on me, and call me 'sir' while they do my bidding.

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Penguin_luvr t1_itlzcec wrote

You always do something…sometimes that something is just surviving! If you are you did good!!! I’ve been working on this myself for a while now. Some days are harder but I’m still here!!

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asinglecommodity t1_itnnfzz wrote

Keep going, friend! You are crushing it. Your record thus far for getting through tough days is 100%. You're battin' a thousand!

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Torewin t1_itmh5p3 wrote

Sometimes being a sloth is fine. Society demands things of you like taxes but it’s fine to just be a consumer. You don’t always or at all have to produce.

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Rattus_Baioarii t1_itmlkp4 wrote

This. This indoctrinated feeling of only a productive person is a good person is poison. You exist. That’s enough.

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Torewin t1_itmm0q8 wrote

Just, make sure your slothness doesn’t effective others. Sure, consume off others but only minimally. Try to consume off yourself which in turns makes you productive.

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oceansunset83 t1_itmrqe3 wrote

This is exactly something my cat would say, if she could talk. She’d prefer if I spent all my time petting her or letting her violently rub her head all over me.

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PurrND t1_itmmvs3 wrote

As long as you pet your cats (& other pets) and take care of them, you've had a good day.

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MegaPiglatin t1_itngoso wrote

This is pretty much exactly how I tried to remedy this feeling of not being "productive enough" and being generally frustrated yesterday: got home, took the dog for a nice long walk, then came home and played/hung out with my cat for a while. It really helped!

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importstar t1_itms1ta wrote

Look at the entire rest of the universe.

Do you think the sun and the moon and the stars are worried about how productive they are?

Do you think the wind and the oceans are worried about how productive they are?

Do you think the plants and the trees and animals and the insects and the birds are worried about how productive they are?

The entire universe seems to get along just fine without worrying about this nonsense.

We are the only species in the universe that has our self-worth so wrapped up in being a productive member of society.

You have intrinsic value that is not measured by your productivity, the same way that everything else in the universe does.

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dezprofresh t1_itnov52 wrote

Unfortunately your landlord still wants rent and becoming unemployed because you're burned out doesn't help :(

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importstar t1_itqdljz wrote

That’s true, but it still shouldn’t affect your own perception of yourself.

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orangepinkman t1_ito32u7 wrote

Too bad none of this applies because we live in a world where capitalism exists and if you aren't productive you die. Sure would be great to just enjoy life every day and never have to worry about money or a place to live or food...

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ValyrianJedi t1_ito9sto wrote

Pretty sure that humans needing food and shelter to live predates capitalism by a solid few hundred thousand years.

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importstar t1_itqe14s wrote

What I mean is, sure we have to work and be productive but don’t let other peoples expectations of you affect your own perception of your self worth.

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Digital_loop t1_itmvaf3 wrote

Holy shit, a talking cat!

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rabbitwonker t1_itnjeyz wrote

He wants to go to Florida. Where they don’t ask questions.

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hellopomelo t1_itp2gyb wrote

obey Talking Cat and continue doing nothing in your life. Talking Cat has spoken.

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sparkywon t1_itmhsji wrote

I needed this today. Was half crying, half complaining about no apparent forward movement in my life. This helped me so much.

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greatgourd23 t1_itnn8k9 wrote

We all have days where we feel we are just spinning our wheels. Hope you have good day, and an even better one tomorrow.

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projectingbitch t1_itmxpyk wrote

It’s about 2PM and I can’t get out of bed. I’m so depressed.

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MIGHTYKIRK1 t1_itod91l wrote

It's ok. Get up when you're ready. Wash your face. Do teeth and hair soon. Eat. Repeat. Add a shower tomorrow. You can

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projectingbitch t1_itrbezi wrote

I hope something really lucky happens to you today. Thank you, friend.

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MIGHTYKIRK1 t1_ittn97l wrote

I hope you felt bit better today. Today was my birthday and I went out to dinner with a few family members. I did lay in bed for 2 hours prior to having a hot shower and a little talk with myself about how it would be good to get out. How was your day? It was sunny here and that always helps me even if im indoors all day ✌️❤️. Let's check in daily ok. We got this. One step at a time

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projectingbitch t1_itva4h4 wrote

Happy birthday!! I’m glad that you were able to get out and celebrate it with loved ones. I was able to door dash for a couple hours but I started to panic and headed home. Wine was my friend. I’m scheduled to try again tomorrow. I got this. It’s rainy today for the first time in like 6 months so I’m happy and cold. Finally got to turn off the ACs for the year ha. I hope you slept well. I don’t think I’m leaving today, but I opened the curtains, which I didn’t do yesterday so better than before ha (sorry for rambles!) thank you for being so kind. I’ll be keeping positive thoughts for you. 🖤🎃

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MIGHTYKIRK1 t1_itx1mzj wrote

Haha about the rambles. I'm happy to listen. I just leave bedroom curtains open. Does help me with day and night. And ty for the comments. I like my beer and blunts. Apparently neither good for depression but what can I say. I go to sleep at night, or early in the morning, hoping, just almost praying, that I will feel better when I wake up. The whole covid crap has been terrible for my anxiety. I still know that I am going to get better, in my own time and way. This is not the way I want to live. I never surrender but sometimes the lows really suk. Enjoy your day k peace and love

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NTX2329 t1_itnwu30 wrote

I can relate to this. You want to do something?

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projectingbitch t1_itrbitf wrote

I ended up going out this morning finally to get some stuff for the first time in almost a month so I can actually eat. Did you end up doing anything for yourself?

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NTX2329 t1_itrcc6b wrote

Dang. It feels good to hear you did that! I went on an hour long walk this morning, had a really productive phone call, and now I’m doing some intense but rewarding work on a big project I’ve been working on for a while. Today feels different.

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projectingbitch t1_itrdaag wrote

That’s all fantastic! I’m happy to hear you’re being so productive! Today does feel different. In a weird way I agree with you there. Something is new. Idk. I’ve been in a rut for almost three years and I feel it coming to an end. The air feels lighter idk

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NTX2329 t1_itrfexb wrote

I’ve been struggling a lot, professionally, relationally, and mentally. But I can feel a slow shift under my feet. I’m going to push this fuckin train in another direction, one inch at a time.

Keep hangin tough. I think we’re going places!

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digital_wino t1_itmhhqe wrote

My Hippo was a grey and white cat with that pattern, even the white stripe on the bridge of his nose. He was the bestest boy and always did a good job of taking care of me when I was having a really bad day.

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Aldermere t1_itn2az7 wrote

Thank you for attributing the artist. His work is so relatable and he deserves credit for creating it.

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theDart t1_itlz31r wrote

Just learn where you could improve for next time and move on. No problem is worth dwelling too long on.

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HellsMalice t1_itmz6pm wrote

Wut. Literally some of the best days are when you can just lounge around. Love sleeping in hammocks outside in the summer.

Most people's goals in life are to get to retirement and be able to do nothing for a living.

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fubarspeaks t1_itntjpc wrote

You take care of your cat, and thus are an inherently worthwhile human being. Never believe otherwise.

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Dreidhen t1_itneg6j wrote

Do nothing produces no harm. Your attitude towards it, however . . .

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bfraley9 t1_itok90h wrote

I learned something that has changed my life, truly. Your subconscious is always listening and learning, especially to what YOU say. Instead of saying "damn I'm an idiot, I shouldn't have done that", if you say "Well i learned that wasn't the right move, next time I'll know better and I'll try again in a new way", it can have a dramatic change on your mental health! Such a simple concept, but remarkable 🙏 I hope this reaches someone

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iMin3Ra1n t1_itm9teq wrote

Yeah I struggle a lot with this. Doing nothing feels so good but so terrible all at the same time.

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Lazygenius101 t1_itn4y45 wrote

Been feeling like garbage for doing nothing on my days off when I've told myself repeatedly that I would learn some new skills so I can get out of this rut. Been getting back into it recently and this comic really hit me in a special place

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WraithSucks t1_itn6ne1 wrote

Ok I'll finish my essay, thank you random internet cat

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momentoirl t1_itm9a7q wrote

I like this cat’s attitude.

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Kendertas t1_itmii78 wrote

Yep the person you should be the most understanding and kindest to is the person you spend the most time with......yourself

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cnxd t1_itmxrq0 wrote

currently at panel 2, looping between the first and second. in other words, I don't have a cat. haha

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action_lawyer_comics t1_itnabnx wrote

Print out this comic out and put it somewhere you will see it often.

Also, if this resonates with you and you want more help and/or affirmation, check out r/nonzeroday

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borislavvasilev t1_itm97yz wrote

Been feeling photo 1&2 for over a month now

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Doakungfu t1_itmmmlg wrote

I needed to see this really badly. Thank you

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vajootis t1_itmnk1z wrote

I’ll try to always remind myself to be on my own team

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XiaomiFanBoy t1_itmovon wrote

Cats are masters of doing nothing lol

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twofacetoo t1_ito8ds2 wrote

‘Surviving’ is doing something. That’s more than enough, most days.

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pjdubbya t1_itocegn wrote

i think i just wanna be a cat

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Rwby23 t1_itmf8aq wrote

Honestly I really needed this thank you for posting this

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rezpector123 t1_itmfdqn wrote

Hang in there kitty 🐈‍⬛

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lingering_POO t1_itmy9oo wrote

“No reason to make an enemy of yourself” - sage wise kitty

Well if I knew you could talk, I might of talked to you about it sooner… jerk..

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Lurofan t1_itn3vaw wrote

Of course a cat would say that

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eelmonger t1_itn68g4 wrote

"I swear I’m going to bite you hard

And taste your tinny blood

If you don’t stop the self-defeating lies

You’ve been repeating since the day you brought me home

I know you’re strong"

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schmo006 t1_itn719r wrote

You will amount to nothing , nothing is something sometimes

Yearbook wisdom

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theonedeisel t1_itnbblw wrote

You are a product of the thoughts you choose to focus on, it physically changes your brain. There's no reason to engage in unhelpful thoughts, and not doing so reduces the strength of those negative pathways

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mr_raven_ t1_itnc34w wrote

Reminds me of a micro story by Daniil Kharms: today I wrote nothing.

That's the whole story.

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Bigge245 t1_itndfea wrote

I needed this today. Thank you.

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fadoxi t1_itnf8e3 wrote

Ima lazist.

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Klappan t1_itnf9d2 wrote

> It's not a reason to make an enemy of yourself. Nothing is.

Thus, according to mr. Cat, nothing is a reason to make an enemy of thyself. By such, isn't doing "nothing" a reason to make an enemy of ourselves?

Sorry it's late

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AngelFrag t1_itniib8 wrote

Thing is, I'm not doing the best I can. I've been wasting 12 years of my life doing nothing instead of studying. Wasting my parents' money on lesson to help me improve.

I'm still at home wasting my time doing nothing instead of studying for the one thing that'll help me get out of here. I'm smart enough to do it, I can understand everything perfectly if I actually tried to, I just don't do it.

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skobeloff_pasta t1_itnlfrz wrote

The swatercolor cat reminds me of my partner, BC they're always supportive

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ares395 t1_itnpe6i wrote

Well, yesterday someone I opened up to and considered friend basically shat on me and my feelings and today I had to endure my parents talking shit behind my back because they think I'm deaf or they just don't give a fuck, calling me names and what not. Yeah, I fucking wonder why I have depression and why I'm suicidal from time to time. I wonder if I were to jump the gun if my parents would finally take a look at reality or just be delusional as always and blame it on everything but them since we are such a model family. Ngl I don't really have any connection to my parents and never talk with them about anything that's important to me. If I'll end up moving out before dying I'll cut all contact with them. I'll miss my dogs thoroughly though.

The best thing about it all is that I went through a year of therapy and meds and was finally a lot better. But back into my hole I go I guess. I fucking hate life.

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maxheartcord t1_itnqsk0 wrote

I force myself to do at least 5 minutes a day of the things I dream of doing. So if I don't feel like doing anything, I can at least force myself to do 5 minutes and feel accomplished.

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GardevoirRose t1_itnwwfz wrote

Thank you cat! I sure did nothing of value today, besides email my professor about office hours.

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eezy_eez t1_ito0f2n wrote

I needed this today, thank you

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Historical-Ad6120 t1_ito7kw6 wrote

Wow, all my cat says to me is "Hey, Dinner Bitch, my plate is empty"

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rkcaccount t1_itochz9 wrote

I feel like this is /r/adhdmemes worthy

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Gelflingscanfly t1_itog75x wrote

Thanks, I really needed to hear this. I regret that I have no awards to give but I hope you have a great life 💓

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sidharthv1 t1_itokd2o wrote

Love yourself accept failures and try to find improvements so that next time you achieve success

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Quantentheorie t1_itoomiv wrote

"Gary, Im a cat. Im not gonna give you some cheesy, meaningless motivational quote - my entire existence is doing nothing and feeling like the King of the world regardless. Now either feed me or get on my level."

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Pixel_Nerd92 t1_itop7rh wrote

I'm fine with "do nothing" days and truthfully could use more of them. Anyone could. Productivity is usually forced anyway in a work setting. If anything, work makes people feel guilty about doing nothing because your energy 100% goes to work if you let it.

Priority was shifted into my life outside of work and I've felt better overall.

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P3ACHTEAS t1_itor9lv wrote

I havent gone to school in 4 weeks because i cant move or get out of bed in the morning to get ready. My entire body is so exhausted every day. I dont know what to do anymore because i don’t have any income and how am i going to get a job when i cant get up. I feel like ive wasted my best years, im 18 and I have a couple friends but they live far from me. My friends at school are nice but i feel disconnected from them. I still feel so lonely and i feel like i wish i had a friend group like the movies. My mum walks away from me when i talk to her and she gets distracted all the time and i feel like i have no one that really wants to talk to me.

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LordPubes t1_itosqt4 wrote

Says the cat physically blocking him from getting that paper started

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blackknight_101 t1_itouahv wrote

It's okay to relax and take it easy sometimes. You don't have to consistently be productive. We should take care of our mental health and have fun too.

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BoltorSpellweaver t1_itowrum wrote

Always remember these wise words:

“Doing nothing often leads to the very best of something.” – Pooh.

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Duckfoot2021 t1_itoziuq wrote

I mean he loves that talking cat and it did fuck-all today too.

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lRhanonl t1_itozqvv wrote

Doing nothing is still better than approx half the people who do negative things.

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Mammoth_Comb_5055 t1_itp09b3 wrote

This was what I needed today, sometimes I don't realise I might not do much , but a small gesture can change someone's path. Even with your kids.

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Chaosgremlin t1_itp0ppi wrote

A response based on compassion. I often think I could have done with an approach not based on compassion but on responsibility. The more masculine focus vs feminine. You have a duty to yourself and the people around you, stand up straight, deep breath and go do the things you need to do.

Or something like that.

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Zee_tv t1_itp59a3 wrote

Needed to read this — thank you

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youngruler t1_itpc86m wrote

I used to work all day, I used to have many interests. Now I have more time, no hobbies, no motivation, and dont know what to do with my life.

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Tarsiger t1_itpd47p wrote

Needed this today, Thank you.

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ReptileBat t1_itpdxdy wrote

“Its ok your a loser… no need to better yourself”

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r4plez t1_itpl01v wrote

Said Cat who s sleeping 20/24h a day

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CraaazyPizza t1_itq12ch wrote

Wait so the last panel is saying doing nothing is a reason to make an enemy of yourself?

I know it's not intended that way but I'm surprised I'm the only one that read it that way

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KoburaCape t1_itq9cb9 wrote

As an extremely driven person currently with a severe spinal injury of absolutely zero fault of my own...this hits hard.

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ChristieFit t1_itqanhe wrote

Thank you for this message! I needed it

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bigchiano t1_itqco5t wrote

Is anyone here struggling with adhd and just wondering if it's adhd or just laziness?

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drdre398 t1_itr27vy wrote

I really, really needed to read this. Thank you

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weirdslytherin t1_iudm2hs wrote

I really needed to hear this today. thank you :)

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remembertracygarcia t1_itmihxd wrote

You have no more reason to be than the birds in the sky. Use is for tools

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sneaky_squirrel t1_itnrcnp wrote

I prefer dogs.

Also, cats don't think about anything other than hunting, whether it be mice or string.

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Fayarager t1_itmcnbv wrote

Love it. I feel like I have the power to summon an army of giants and trample over the world in giant form to protect my homeland

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