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polywha t1_j2l8n6v wrote

I survived a toxic relationship and years later I found out what I went through was called the narcissist empath abuse cycle. I've met so many other empaths who've gone through the cycle and my experience and knowledge I gained from it has helped them understand what they went through also.

Sometimes you have to experience something truly understand it.

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mclearen1987 t1_j2lcffb wrote

Thats the most motivational kraft single ive ever seen

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FinnishArmy t1_j2lo0u7 wrote

I am currently paying off $14k of credit card debt. This week I managed to make $1,300. Same thing will happen next week. And the next, until it's gone. I can do it. It's just $14k. Two jobs and it'll be fine.

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LandeJunior t1_j2lzcuo wrote

Can I get my survival guide now, please?

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k4b0odls t1_j2m0wz9 wrote

I suspect I'll end up the subject of a cautionary tale.

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CPiano21 t1_j2m5xbs wrote

Such wisdom couldn't have come at a better time. Thanks OP for sharing

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nostalgeek81 t1_j2m63v4 wrote

Doubt it! I’m pretty sure I’ll go down fighting :)

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suggestiveinnuendo t1_j2m69iy wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#1,262,237)

You could play it like that, but putting ethical considerations aside for a moment, even from a purely selfish perspective it would probably result in a lot of missed opportunities and who knows how many simple misunderstandings left unfixed.

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PutStuffInMyDickHole t1_j2m6iea wrote

I intend for my entire life story to serve as nothing more than to be a warning to others

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milksockets t1_j2mbbi7 wrote

when I became paralyzed I was told shit like this. now I definitely understand it better

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heavydisme t1_j2mdap0 wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#1,262,117)

My brother did that.

I forgive and actually respect him for it. I understand why he went that route.

He did leave two children and two extremely grieving parents behind, who I still catch randomly sobbing for him even 10 years later.

Ultimately it’s your call, and while the grief of the living shouldn’t be a hugely motivating factor, at least maybe consider writing your survived by’s personal letters of goodbye and explanation. It’ll mean so much to them.

Take care.

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sailorjasm t1_j2mdnzs wrote

I can’t tell if this is cheese or not

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2rfv t1_j2mfab6 wrote

Replying to mclearen1987 (#1,261,539)

For some reason it bugs the shit out of me that they only used one hole punch....

It seems like it would be easy to flip over. I'd love it if the other side said something like "Sometimes a journey of a thousand miles ends very, very badly"

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gutsmanrarr t1_j2mfwt1 wrote

Or you won’t and your story will be told by others as a cautionary tale of what not to do

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[deleted] t1_j2mhyid wrote

Replying to FinnishArmy (#1,261,925)

Good luck but don’t burn yourself out with two jobs😁Make time for yourself and be sure to spend a littleee bit of that on your own enjoyment/pleasure. You got this!! People have walked away just fine from much much worse

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Somasizer t1_j2mifmg wrote

So no shit there I was, barbecue suace on my titties.......

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throwawaygen10 t1_j2mjlw4 wrote

Or look back and say “nothing changed”. “Shit got worse as I adulted”

Signed

Me

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pipboyover9000 t1_j2mlz75 wrote

Started as a deans list student only to slowly fail out due to mental illness before I could get my engineering degree. I fought it hard in the trenches for a couple of years, somehow found the strength to fight back.

Came back and am now a deans list student 3 semesters running, got my gpa back to a 3.0 and I graduate next December. I’m really ashamed of it but I’m also really proud of myself for not staying down after getting knocked in the head.

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dazedandcognisant t1_j2mnpf2 wrote

One day you will find a note written on a price of cheese, and then you will make a sandwich

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me047 t1_j2mo56l wrote

Does that motivate people? Honestly?

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smdx459 t1_j2mpkoe wrote

Ah yes how I made it out of the royal family

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Thatotherguy246 t1_j2mqrpv wrote

I mean, either that or it goes horribly wrong and the next person now knows what NOT to do.

Circle of life ig.

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kimchi01 t1_j2mt0fj wrote

I already have a few times. And Im glad I was able to help them.

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siler7 t1_j2mu3xq wrote

Or they'll ignore it because they're just as stupid as you were back then.

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alexchrist t1_j2mu84x wrote

I was severely depressed. Then I did a whole buncha drugs (mostly a mixture of LSD and MDMA) one weekend, and after that I started getting better. It worked for me, but I also recognize that it definitely won't work for everyone else

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LINDMATT t1_j2mu9h3 wrote

I’m the midst of this right now. Fired from my job in October. Huge interview tomorrow. LFG

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[deleted] t1_j2mw3pr wrote

My story basically guarantees that there will not be a second one. If there is, they would've had full access to my playbook

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DCL_JD t1_j2mxe8b wrote

Replying to polywha (#1,261,392)

> Sometimes you have to experience something truly understand it.

Isn’t the whole definition of an empath that you don’t have to experience something to understand it?

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Vazhox t1_j2mxjbs wrote

“There I was, pushing the payload by myself. It was almost time for dinner and the kids were on the verge of WWIII. My team was nowhere to be found, all wiped mere moments ago. I used the payload as a cover so the enemy team couldn’t poke at me from the distance. I smelled the left of lasagne on the brink of overcooking. I bursted from behind the payload and in an instant, hit Q ,NERF THIS’ I yell and pray for a miracle. The other team had grouped. Fools. I push the payload through their dead corpses and win for the team. I overcame with my wits and pants still in tact”. Someone’s future story

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Autumnlove92 t1_j2mxmis wrote

Replying to A_Muffin_Substantial (#1,262,705)

Sometimes it just takes 1 emergency. My car was totaled in November. I had exactly nothing extra after paying all my bills and whatnot (AND I work 2 jobs by default to get by) I had to put my down payment on a credit card because I absolutely can't go without a car (single, live by myself, no family, America where there's no public transportation) 1 emergency was all it took for me. I'm lucky in that I got the value of my old car back from my insurance (all whopping 7k of it) but then my cat got very sick and there's more shit that went on a credit card. 1 emergency for most Americans. It sucks

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ElMoselYEE t1_j2mxn9s wrote

Except my kids won't listen to shit. They think they know better, rip up the survival guide, then have to redo their chores 3x because it turns out the steps they skipped were not just there because dad chose to make it more complex than it needs to be.

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BagBeneficial8060 t1_j2myxib wrote

Yooo I've got like 9 different stories and currently working through 10 and 11 lol no more stories please

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SCUMDOG_MILLIONAIRE t1_j2n0s5z wrote

Ok but why didn’t you just punch two holes in the paper and thread the zip tie through both so the paper lays flat

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DrZaff t1_j2n13qq wrote

It’ll be a great guide for those who are looking to validate their preconceived notions on what strategies work and utterly useless for those who are locked into bad habits and perhaps need it most

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sexelent t1_j2nan43 wrote

That is a very wise slice of cheese

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onewhoknowsnone t1_j2nazne wrote

I broke my back 10 years ago, worked hard on recovery. Surfed 4 different countries since and still riding

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fragglerockerpoo_22 t1_j2ncv32 wrote

I got through my suicide attempt because my IBS shat out all the pills.... So inspiring

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MuricanA321 t1_j2ne92i wrote

One day, someone will make a stupid meme for the internet, and the spelling and grammar will be correct.

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Khazahk t1_j2niwhl wrote

Replying to A_Muffin_Substantial (#1,262,705)

Wife and I just took out a personal loan for 10k to pay off a credit card which has gotten up to 11k. We understand finances and pay attention to it. But 2 kids demand a lot more attention and money. Paying twice my mortgage per month for daycare. $600/ week for 2 kids attending daycare 3 days a week. Spent $25k on daycare in 2022, dependent care FSA only let's you save $5,000 pre-tax. Meanwhile churches operate tax free in this country.

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halfassninja t1_j2nnqit wrote

If someone can use this shit as a survival guide I’m gonna be real impressed…

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equalsolstice t1_j2not5p wrote

“That stick note looks like cheese haha. Oh.”

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youknowiactafool t1_j2nq7sd wrote

Survival Guide: How I Overcame Late-Stage Capitalism.

Step 1. Stopped buying avocado toast.

Step 2. Created unions.

Step 3. Supported grassroots political campaigns.

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LukewarmJortz t1_j2ntq6c wrote

I don't want to be someone else's learning experience or their reminder to remain humble, thanks.

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ramzesich t1_j2nzpvc wrote

I’m from Zaporizhzhia, Ukraine, and I hope my survival guide won’t be needed when I tell the story.

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Fuqasshole t1_j2o48ng wrote

Yes, how I overcame adversity and make every pizza a personal pizza

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Albert_Lamba t1_j2o6f79 wrote

Don't waste money on midnight snack. Drink water or something until full.

Wake up early and take care of yourself. Even though it's boring and sickening. It will paid off some day.

Care for your surroundings, they'll take care of you.

Greet first don't be such an arrogant sob.

If you think you're smart, don't find less smart group just to brag something you thought they will appreciate on. Find smarter group to learn from them. If you're stuck on their arrogance and gaslighting. Find group that doesn't.

Just be helpful, don't interfere with other people's lives just To satisfy your ego or envy.

Pay attention to the little things, maybe it's big thing for them. You'll never know.

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rabb1thole t1_j2o8n97 wrote

Actually, nobody cares about your experience. Sad, but true.

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wrewlf t1_j2ob7ig wrote

Viktor Frankl; that you buddy?

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[deleted] t1_j2oede3 wrote

Replying to Trips-Over-Tail (#1,266,016)

Tbf Paladin Danse was such a bitch, just caved when he found out he was a synth. But I just naturally have all the skill trees maxed out bc I’m just naturally that great so I’ll be fine and start the best cult ever.

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supportcarpet t1_j2okttq wrote

Can someone suggest a book with this kind of survival-like story?

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LazyShelter4824 t1_j2okua3 wrote

This is true but even that has been recorded and play with so when you go extinct keep in mind one being did all that should be a fast extinction

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Prussian701 t1_j2on8m9 wrote

My #1 Rule: If you meet someone on the street and they ask for a ride or money, just make sure you don't give them your phone number if you do decide to help them.

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joyfall t1_j2oon3k wrote

Replying to polywha (#1,261,392)

Same here! It was absolutely the most soul crushing painful thing I ever experienced. It ruined my self confidence and didn't know if I could ever recover.

Now after extensive therapy and learning as much as I could about what happened, I'm able to help people in all the support groups that originally helped me.

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Calibeaches2 t1_j2opg5n wrote

Thank you. I keep wondering how in the world my life became so unhappy and all my horrible luck, loneliness, and depression, last night I just sat there at the dining room table trying to figure out what purpose does any of this have?

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keylimerye t1_j2orxnx wrote

One day I will tell the story of the day I read a piece of cheese on a telephone pole.

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moham225 t1_j2oz06b wrote

Damn I'm in the beginning of a huge challenge

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jerzd00d t1_j2p2t3u wrote

So someone watched the most recent episode of Yellowstone, then wrote what Dutton said on a piece of cheese?

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Ardudes t1_j2pue8c wrote

Why does it look like it was written on a packet of cheese?

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