Submitted by Overall_Amoeba2353 t3_1156fkt in LifeProTips
When there are times where you don’t want to talk to someone, what is a polite and indirect way to avoid small talk?
Submitted by Overall_Amoeba2353 t3_1156fkt in LifeProTips
When there are times where you don’t want to talk to someone, what is a polite and indirect way to avoid small talk?
#2 - that burns
Pretend you are on the phone and politely walk out the room
Usually I find a way to simply excuse myself politely. Say I need to use the restroom, or tell them I need to step away for a moment. No need to give a reason. You can still be gracious in speech but tell them in a honest way you need to step out.
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Hey, I totally get it - sometimes you're just not in the mood to chat. It happens to all of us! If you want to avoid small talk, there are a few things you can try.
First, you can give a friendly greeting and then quickly excuse yourself. Maybe say something like "Hey, good to see you! Sorry, I gotta run."
If that doesn't work, you can always say you're busy. Like, "I wish I could chat, but I've got a ton of stuff to do right now."
Another option is to change the subject. Maybe ask them about something interesting going on in their life, or mention something you're excited about.
And if all else fails, you can just be honest and tell them you're not really in the mood to talk right now. It might be a little awkward, but at least you'll be true to yourself!
Just remember to be respectful and kind in whatever approach you take. Good luck!
Thank you ChatGPT
Yep!
I was wondering how obvious it was. There you go!
(or am I still a bot???)
It really wasn't that obvious. I just ran the same question through ChatGPT and got a similar answer. You just beat me to it!
There’s a certain formality and professionalism that it brings that is just uncanny. even when you tell it to be fun, it’s still sort of like a robot.
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Listen, its been nice chatting, but will you excuse me? I need to (use the restroom/make a phone call/get this project done, etc).
I use a similar phrase to yours or simply tell them immediately after their greeting that I don't have time to chat at the moment. Polite, but firm is the way to go.
Try not to expand on what they’re saying, and then validate (summarize) every single thing they just told you. “It sounds like you had a great time over vacation, going to the beach and seeing your family”
That’ll immediately tie up any conversational loose ends, and probably create a short silence (after the person says “yeah” etc.) for you to jump in with an excuse to leave.
I usually say in my most redneckish voice "Olright, no more TALKIN. Back to work!"
Then walk away like a movie star from an explosion.
If someone you know is close, call them over and say "hey Bob, have you met Cindy" and walk off :)
Cindy would love to hear how your cat whiskers isn’t really liking the new food you got him. Poor whiskers has diarrhea because of this and isn’t making it to the kitty litter box
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That's a good question. I'm terrible at being subtle and usually just point blank say something like I'm sorry, but I don't really feel like conversing right now and proceed to ignore them. I'm hoping someone is able to provide some good suggestions.
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The good old phone and walk always works for me.
I always act like I'm very distracted or very busy thinking and try to avoid eye contact.
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Say, aw shit and quickly walk out of the room with your phone. If they ask later whey happened just say it turned out to be nothing
“Well, that’s all the time I have”
No reasons mean no chance to try and change your mind or talk you out of “reason”.
Maybe not so polite, but my resting bitch face usually works without fail….
"Whoop. Gotta go shit."
Put on a mask and start coughing
I usually tell the other person that while I'd love to chat, I have something important and time-sensitive that needs my full attention right now; mind if we chat later? For me, the important/time-sensitive part has the benefit of the truth about 8 times out of 10.
Politely tell them that there are times that talking isn't the best option and avoiding small talk is uncomfortable for you. Then ask how they'd like you to inform them indirectly that you want to end the conversation.
Something confusing like that should do the trick.
Gotta poop, see ya
"Ain't nobody got time for that..."
and walk away.
If they ask how you are (common conversation starter), say it's been better, and that they'd probably don't want to know the details. Chances are they don't and will leave you alone.
Start coughing, a lot
Stare deeply into their eyes and start picking your nose. If you have to, stick your booger picking finger in your mouth.
skav2 t1_j8zy6a5 wrote
You can directly say that you dont feel like chit chatting. Or indirectly with one word responses and seeming disinterested.