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Arthur__Dunger t1_iuca6rm wrote

Yes, but don’t worry about them, you need to kick out the squatters in your own mind!

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S-Vagus t1_iucbreu wrote

I live in other people's minds in order to spread fear and only fear!

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HxHposter t1_iuceawk wrote

I've come to think that one of the squatters in my cranium just wanted to be my friend. He, more extroverted, interfered with my business in a way that sparked my flame.

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knurien t1_iuchicp wrote

I really don't think than anyone actually thinks that much about me tbh

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3D20s t1_iuci3dx wrote

Nope. Pretty sure I'm invisible to everyone's mind. Can't imagine even my own parents think about me more than once or twice a year for anything more than a few seconds.

Collectively, it's probably quite a bit of time across a lot of minds, as I'm a teacher, so it's probable that I pop into a lot of heads with overdue homework kids and ex-students lol.

I kinda feel bad when I think about that reality but I've lead a pretty blameless life, been attached to the same woman for most of my adult life and I don't hold onto people who can't treat people right (hence parents, not treating other people right). Most of my friendships are pretty casual, that's the only thing that bugs me, not having besties, but I was burned pretty bad by my inner circle as a young adult and I don't think I ever really got around that.

Pretty sure that there is a certain type that live in people's heads. Exceptionally pretty, chaste, talented, vicarious and annoying people. Basically, celebrities and celebrities that never made it or realised they could.

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mightysmiter19 t1_iucixf0 wrote

Replying to 3D20s (#337,179)

Don't discount yourself. There's a non zero chance that you've said something to a student that has just stuck with them. Could have even been a passing comment you made that made something click.

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MeatSack5027206209 t1_iucj6hf wrote

Replying to Arthur__Dunger (#336,032)

Nah, having people on your thoughts is part of the human experience. If you are able to fully not concern yourself with others... you're not human.

Or better yet that's probably some sign of baseline depressive apathy.

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Hankman66 t1_iuckrbo wrote

Am I the only one who hates that "living rent free in someone's mind"? If I suddenly think of someone I haven't seen or thought of in 20 years does that mean they've been living in my mind "rent-free"?

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Animegx43 t1_iuco21r wrote

Why can't I live there instead of the $1700 a month place me and my family live in?

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Raincloud64 t1_iucoro6 wrote

I brushed my teeth at a Mcdonalds sink when I was a kid. I wonder if people suddenly remember me every time they go to Mcdonalds.

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StMuerte13 t1_iucph3x wrote

I can only see this as I did something strange one time and someone saw it, was involved or just heard about it to be completely bewildered by my actions.

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petdoc1991 t1_iucrgf3 wrote

Oh I know i do. I had to report someone to a regulatory body and I am pretty sure they know it was me. They found several noncompliances and threw a wrench in that persons year.

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S-Vagus t1_iuct7zi wrote

Replying to _fiveMoreMinutes (#338,423)

Inhalation? Breathing is fine. There is a lot of breathing room no matter where I am. A nightmare like me needs a lot of space in order to rapidly spread.

And now for my eternal personal prayer that I say every night before bed, "I hope I die in my sleep tonight!

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Substantial_Clue_397 t1_iucw26p wrote

My neighbor lives rent free in my mind lol I don’t like her god damn old lady making unnecessary comments about my pregnant body and complaining about random stuff I didn’t even ask her about. Yep she lives rent free in me.

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congob0ngo t1_iucw3od wrote

I find it hard to believe that people think about me as much as I think about them.

Most people that I knew in my life were pretty cold and self-centered.

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OrraDryWit t1_iucxhem wrote

And you’ll never live up to that vision wholly or they will be very shy around you and think they are the awkward one. It’s okay bud, I’m just a regular person. Glad I mean a lot to you.

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mllnmchld t1_iucy048 wrote

You might be the third person in this world that had this thought. Congrats buddy

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illbebythebatphone t1_iucy0v0 wrote

This asshole lady who felt the need to yell at me for walking on the wrong side of the street as been in my head rent free the last 3 days.

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Rapture1119 t1_iud211r wrote

This is literally a phrase dude, this isn’t a shower thought. Thats like me posting “you learn something new every day” or “beggars can’t be choosers” or some shit. Weak sauce homie, weak sauce.

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DarkVader92 t1_iud2i7q wrote

No prizes for guessing who lives rent free in Fernando Alonso's head.

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MsBree333 t1_iud3auo wrote

Um, yeah. I have an abusive ex-spouse who only seems ro remember what I was like before he started to become quite so abusive. That version of me disappeared after some of the worst things he did to me. Sorry, even if that version of me heals and comes back, she's not making the same mistake again.

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Puppyspilledmycoffee t1_iud57y5 wrote

I’ve noticed some people seem to state my full name when I see them after long periods and it makes me wonder how often I’ve crossed their mind in the meantime.

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Hcysntmf t1_iud785e wrote

Replying to MeatSack5027206209 (#337,377)

But squatter suggests they’re the ones you don’t want there. They never said thinking about people is wrong.

For me a ‘squatter’ is a friend that hurt me badly so I’ve cut out - the damage was done and I have moved on to the point it doesn’t evoke an emotional response thinking about her but I need to actually stop giving a fuck what she’s up to or rehashing even the good memories. I’m glad she was part of my life and human experience but that time has passed, so should her ability to take up space of my thoughts.

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soniakaponia t1_iudamb0 wrote

This got me right in the gut! The inverse is true too- there are people who exist in my memory as a version of them that doesn’t exist anymore

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coyocat t1_iudbycd wrote

Wouldve moved out but say bye to all this free rent? i think ill stay 😆

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postedUpOnTheBlock t1_iudeu11 wrote

Replying to knurien (#337,089)

I’ll be thinking about knurien for the rest of the year. When the ball drops at midnight, guess whose going to be on my mind. You might as well set up water and power cuz you’ll be here a while.

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Baebel t1_iudh58m wrote

Honestly, thinking about stuff like this acted as a parasite for my anxiety back when I took my first few steps into the work force. Now days it's a great deal better, but this potential fact can definitely act as a double edged sword. Found this out the hard way.

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backflips_everyday t1_iudl86c wrote

The idea of someone hating you and that bringing you comfort is hilarious to me lol. You might hate thinking of me but you DO think of me!

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beakycorvid OP t1_iudlo6k wrote

Replying to backflips_everyday (#345,326)

LOL! yea that is funny. When i wrote this i was heavy in my own reminiscing over somebody I've lost contact with, and the idea that other people have versions of me in their head, whether good or bad , was more the realization. Not neccesnecessarily the most comforting lol.

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Kryyzz t1_iudm9pb wrote

Story time:

I dated a girl for a while. We broke up because she said she loved me and I didn’t reciprocate. It was fun while it lasted, but I wasn’t in love.

Fast forward a few weeks later and we both end up at the same bar. It was a local, so this wasn’t out of the ordinary. And it’s karaoke night. She gets up and starts singing Nelly Furtado. The chorus goes “You don’t mean nothing at all to me”… while staring right at me the whole time.

She’s married now with a couple of kids but I’m sure she still thinks about me sometimes.

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TigerlilyBlanche t1_iudochg wrote

This old dude when I was a kid that I called ugly and I've always felt bad about it because he heard me

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jhemsley99 t1_iudt1hg wrote

A better shower thought is that everything lives rent free in people's heads because no thoughts pay rent

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Kiko7210 t1_iudtd4t wrote

I am now thinking of you OP, and rent isn't free in my mind, rent is $1500 a month, due on the 1st Lol

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_Equinenox t1_iudtqt0 wrote

Once I was following my sister home from a convention, she went through the mcdonalds drive thru. I followed but didn't want anything, so when they asked "how can I help you" I said "you cant" and drove off. I really hope they still think about that.

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virgilreality t1_iudv138 wrote

I need to file a complaint with the landlord. It's awful cold in there.

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DayDreamGrey t1_iudwcnt wrote

I feel like I should call those people and tell them they’re shitty landlords based on the conditions of their minds. “I’m not paying you a dime until you fix this!”

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AndroidWall4680 t1_iue2v8z wrote

Actually im a background character so i look like a poorly drawn grey silhouette in their memories

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The_Reginald_ t1_iue3ghr wrote

No you don't. They've moved on, as they should. And so should you.

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cyborg_unicorn t1_iue4ahg wrote

I would love to think this is true about me, but I have a hard time reconciling how I think I was when I met a certain person. Like, I used to think I was invisible and insignificant, and while there are days I still feel that way, I know it's not true. I guess what I mean is, I see my life as boring and can't even fathom someone having me in their head.

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Pobo13 t1_iue54n0 wrote

Other than my mom worrying about me, nah. And I wish she'd stop, she has enough stress.

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Papergrin t1_iue8y8z wrote

Replying to Hankman66 (#337,689)

I hate it because people seem to think it's a smug retort for whenever you say something remotely negative about something they like, rendering it meaningless.

"I don't care for Applebee's."

"WELL, I GUESS APPLEBEE'S IS LIVING IN YOUR HEAD RENT-FREE, DO YOU HAVE APPLEBEE'S DERANGEMENT SYNDROME HAHAHAHA?!?!" 🥴

Having a negative opinion about something isn't the same as obsessing over it. It's the same sort of people who make those cry-laughing emojis when they're losing an argument. "You're so wrong!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂"

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Tantorisonfire t1_iue9f9l wrote

This thread is honestly extremely depressing. Y'all gotta learn to give yourselves a bit more credit and have confidence that you have at least some impact on those around you. I still think of my friend from pre-K occasionally and I barely remember what he looked like, all I have are nebulous memories of good times. You all have someone who thinks of you at least to that extent.

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beakycorvid OP t1_iue9leb wrote

Exactly ! Or even like, somebody you were kind to recently, even.

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freudsuncle t1_iueda7v wrote

It’s not you ıt’s a “memory of you” and there will never be memory of “you” due to the fact that every memory represent past version of you as you said. Hence the world might be single but we look it perceive it with our own idea of it. We might perceive it similar but never the same

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bluetundra123 t1_iuefosn wrote

No one thinks about me in any way that isn't a passing thought every now and then. I am certain of this fact. Absolutely nobody.

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HotlineBirdman t1_iuegb3i wrote

I know exactly who’s head I live rent free in.

He’s a jackass lol

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knurien t1_iuegn4e wrote

Replying to deltalimajuliet (#347,634)

My day went well tanks for asking! I hope your day was great as well! I am in fact still crafting stuff using leather. Just today I made a harness for my dog. She just turned 1 year old so I made her a gift. Thank you very much for the interest!

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deltalimajuliet t1_iuei65m wrote

Replying to knurien (#351,915)

That's awesome! Thanks! Mine has been pretty good. I bet it's nice to have a hobby that can be both practical, fun, and produce some income. Worst case scenario you will be needed if/when society collapses. Haha.

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blondeasfuk t1_iuem2fw wrote

Boyfriend is a sales manager(very well known and respected dealership) and he definitely lives rent free in a guys head. Customer was pissed off that a truck he bought 7 years ago(used and is now a 15 year old truck in cold climate area) had rot. No sign of rot when he bought it, and he even had the mechanic shop lift it so he could check. He will occasionally text my boyfriend. Calling him a sleazy sales person and the most recent was he hopes karma comes for him. Usually bf will just ignore it or be respectful, but this time the karma text came 3 days after his dog of 16 years died. He was over it. So he responded with something like “ hey so I understand why you are still upset that there is nothing we can do since you bought it 7 years ago from us with zero rot and you never undercoated it even though you have lived in this area for 50+ years. But I’m pretty sure loosing my mother 6 months ago and my dog of 16 years 3 days ago is enough karma right?” Guy apologized for being a dick, but had to slide in…I guess I know better than to buy something from you next time.

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exscapegoat t1_iuemazs wrote

Replying to Tantorisonfire (#350,572)

And it can be cool to tell people who are living in your head rent free for good reasons. I have a processing impairment which made most math extremely difficult. I was assigned a peer tutor in my class when I was 10 who was sweet, patient and tried to help me. After finding out about the impairment in my 40s, i saw her at a school reunion. I thanked her for her help and patience. She didn’t realize how much she helped me and it made her feel good to hear that from me.

And I was a pretty quiet and shy kid in high school, but I made another classmate laugh and have such a good time on a school trip she told her kids about it.

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blondeasfuk t1_iueooyc wrote

Replying to beakycorvid (#353,308)

Seriously. I have never been so mad at a stranger but at the same time so proud of my bf for finally saying something. I hope that guy ate his words and felt like a dick. Because my boyfriends face when he received that text was heart breaking, he stopped dead in his tracks and just look like he deflated. And I’ll add in most situations my boyfriends work is very good at correcting a wrong, like if the guy noticed rot with in a year they would of taken care of it, but 7 years later was just unrealistic.

He unfortunately lives rent free in a lot of peoples lives due to the shitty stigma around sales, especially car sales.

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Kalsor t1_iueq5xz wrote

I don’t understand how having a functioning memory is now considered letting someone “live rent free” in your head.

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RagingZorse t1_iuevdrr wrote

Yeah I kinda wonder, I know I was living in someone’s head rent free but Idk who they even were.

Earlier this year(I am over 2 years out of college) my alma mater lost in the NCAA March Madness tournament. I got a random text about how much my team suck and such. Well I didn’t have that number saved so I texted back, “Hey I do not have your number saved so you are talking shit to someone who did not even care enough to ever save your contact information. Also I graduated already and really don’t care anymore if they lost a basketball game.”

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RagingZorse t1_iuf10bi wrote

Replying to Hankman66 (#337,689)

For me the concept applies to someone you just hate but unfortunately probably doesn’t even remember you exist.

For example I had a shit boss at my last job and I’m coming up on a year since I left. I can’t forget that guy. He probably forgot I even existed a couple days after I quit. I don’t forget though how much of a dick he was once you saw his true colors and I know the other 2 guys who both quit before me don’t either. Those guys tried warning me to find a job before I inevitably did something to set the guy off. Unfortunately I got to see it first hand and it was just baffling he had remained in business.

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