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DonQOnIce t1_izixtbk wrote

What’s the deal with piece of shit men killing women when they leave him?

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igotbabydick t1_izizgwj wrote

Power and lack of emotional guidance. Dangerous combination.

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DonQOnIce t1_izj10o1 wrote

I don’t know if you mean physical power or more social power but honestly, when men use guns like this, I don’t think it has anything to do with being more physically powerful. A woman could just as easily shoot a partner at point blank range and they don’t do it as often.

Poor emotional guidance and entitlement seem way higher in the reasons.

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ant_gargano t1_izjgghw wrote

Power struggle. He is angered by the fact that she is more successful in life and no longer needs him

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igotbabydick t1_izj5l98 wrote

It’s all part of the fucked up way evolution played out. For 10000 years men and women depended on physicality to get ahead until recent times (100-150yrs) where our intellect plays a larger role. Unfortunately women were usually not as physically strong and men control the power. For everyone’s sake, we are slowly evolving out of that mindset but assholes like this still exist, and you take into account poor mental health, it’s all a ticking bomb when rejection happens.

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tmmzc85 t1_izjnmze wrote

Downvoters ought to read "Demonic Males: Apes and the Origins of Human Violence," this guy might have put this "artlessly," but their gist is correct even if the deets are off - if you want to know why men kill their mates and sometime children, you're going to have to accept some hard truths about the fact that we're still animals, first and foremost.

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justanawkwardguy t1_izj4vsq wrote

I wouldn't call it power, so much as I would aggression. Killing someone isn't a powerful thing, it's something that's full of cowardice

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igotbabydick t1_izj6dnm wrote

What’s the source of the aggression? Every killing has a motive, and this one is text book power and control. She rejected him, and he couldn’t control the outcome so he killed her. It’s all buried in power dynamics, control and awful emotional discipline.

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tmmzc85 t1_izjnu83 wrote

>he couldn’t control the outcome so he killed her.

That's literally aggression.

I feel like you're too caught up in the chicken/egg here, these things are intrinsically linked - frustration over rejection and power differential lead to an aggressive, deadly outburst - it's not either/or

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igotbabydick t1_izk2il5 wrote

All aggression has a source, to understand what we do things and fix them… we need to know why.

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PhillyPanda t1_izj02qz wrote

What’s the deal with piece of shit men killing?

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grizzlby t1_izjkr84 wrote

Came to say this. Zero mass shootings in 2022 were committed by women. Nationally. And while this is clearly NOT a mass shooting, gun violence as a whole is an overwhelmingly male-committed act.

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Electrical_List_2125 t1_izlblx7 wrote

I would like to see this become a wide spread message, similar to how people are calling out who is doing the bigger mass shootings. It feels like we never get to talk about it. I love my close guy friends, my brother, many men but there is a major major socialization problem happening there and if you raise it as a topic of discussion you’re an ‘angry shrew’

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psuedonymously t1_izj9agy wrote

Not a new phenomenon, sadly. Maybe on an uptick as more women have the means to leave abusive men than in the past.

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ColdJay64 t1_izj4oos wrote

I can't even fathom how shooting someone in these types of situations is considered, or thought of at all.

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frankoceansheadband t1_izjlli7 wrote

It especially bums me out when it’s a murder suicide. How much of a monster do you have to be to take someone’s life and leave before you experience any consequences?

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jakderrida t1_izjoa2g wrote

I recall an AMA whereby a blind redditor answered blindness related questions. When asked whether and how they became blind, they quite impressively provided an unemotional account of how he was among several family members his father shot in the head while sleeping before he fled town. I'm admittedly not a parent, but I simply can't grasp why one would murder their whole family before fleeing.

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31November t1_izklnzj wrote

For anyone curious: https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/4o13fa/i_am_an_18_yo_blind_guy_who_was_shot_by_his/

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irishgambin0 t1_izl28lj wrote

i was just reading the questions and someone asked how dating has been. he said not so great, and someone suggested he get a service dog. then, someone says he should instead get a service horse, adding, "survives getting shot, only to drown in pussy." lol

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DonQOnIce t1_izjocsu wrote

It’s so malicious. If you hate your life and want to go fine, but leave others out of it.

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prettylittlearrow t1_izk1uyj wrote

Abusers have no empathy for others, they see themselves as victims who deserve for "justice" to be served in a way that benefits them and only them.

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eapocalypse t1_izjnnai wrote

And this is why guns should be banned and/or why it should be incredibly difficult to obtain them. When someone has access to guns domestic violence has an incredibly high chance to end in someone being shot.

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porkchameleon t1_izj19vq wrote

> According to friends and associates of Feldman, she had been in the process of divorcing her husband.

Nasty divorce? (Not speculating per se or justifying what's happened, but it could be an explanation/motive).

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ipissexcellence21 t1_izmqkes wrote

Exactly that they are pieces of shit. I actually just read the article about the girl who was killed on Ellsworth and they had a graphic that shows it’s almost 50/50 male and female victims of domestic Homicide. I assume it was only the city because there were only like 43 total last year but I never thought it was anywhere near that close. I would’ve said 75/25 female tops and assumed it was even higher.

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kifn2 t1_izj0a1x wrote

Tbf, this is not exclusively a man thing.

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DonQOnIce t1_izj0pf2 wrote

Sure, it’s just overwhelmingly a man thing.

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