Submitted by Legitimate-Line5849 t3_11ei6ug in relationship_advice
My (F20) boyfriend (M26) of 3 months wants to propose and get married around April. I was hesitant a bit at first because of the timing; but was open to discussing it and wanted to compromise on at least waiting until the end of the year. The problem is he doesn't want an extravagant wedding, and while I don't either, I do want some effort & planning to go into it.
The first problem with this whole situation is the dress, he doesn't want to spend a lot of money on the whole thing so at first he was looking at dresses from Macy's and I guess that was too expensive so...he started to look and suggest dresses from SHEIN. Really? So, I offered to at least pay for my own dress at that point. Then, for the venue/after-party he again wanted to keep it cheap, so he suggested we do it at a $15-20 buffet or at one of his relatives house. Then for the location itself, I wanted something decent like a small wedding on a beach, but he was telling me how the things like chairs for the guest would cost more money?
I kind of can't take this anymore because prior to this, I had to basically beg for him to make more time for date nights when the whole entire time we've known each other, we've only been on two casual dinner dates. For Valentines day, he didn't get me anything, neither for my birthday but that I can understand, because we were still getting to know each other around that time but, still.
I don't know if I'll be making the right decision on breaking-up with him because, physically I'm attracted, he's a good person otherwise, and seems more serious than most guys but at the same time I don't know if I can live a life of only being worth a buck or two to my partner either.
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