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Present-Ad-3819 t1_j2ea4g4 wrote

You guys have barley been dating. Leave him he doesn’t care about you

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ellgautu OP t1_j2eailt wrote

I am currently not wanting to do that but I appreciate the advice. We have been friends for a long time which is why it feels like we have been together much longer. We are extremely compatible (currently, I know we’re young and still finding ourselves) and I see hope for the future or at least a long term relationship, this is a one-off thing

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Present-Ad-3819 t1_j2ebba7 wrote

Well for your sake I’m hoping it gets better. Based off experience it doesn’t. Don’t let him bring you down no matter what happens.

Be careful though. If he’s already done that and his friends helped him hide it he has probably done more. I’m sorry this is happening to you. You did mention he had feelings for her.

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ellgautu OP t1_j2ebz7c wrote

Thank you. I don’t see this being a long term issue but it is something I am upset by. He doesn’t tear me down, I can honestly say that this is the only situation that has made me feel this way. The problem with our friends is that he actually also downplayed things to them, just not as much as he downplayed them to me. I am struggling to find the balance because one of the two guys, I am very close to.

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Present-Ad-3819 t1_j2ech3n wrote

Ah alright. Just be cautious. Because if he even downplayed it for friends it might be a lot worse.

Im only saying this because of the part where he had to talk it out with two of his friends. I fell as if someone would do that if they were planning on ending a relationship for another person.

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ellgautu OP t1_j2ecup3 wrote

I’m sorry, let me clarify, I am the one who talked to his (our) friends. I asked them if they knew anything about how he was feeling for her at the time and that’s what they said. What I meant was that he downplayed his emotions and feelings for her to them by saying “it’s was only infatuation and it was only for like two weeks” which now it seems he was either lying to himself on or idk what

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Present-Ad-3819 t1_j2ed8co wrote

Ohhh that makes more sense. Infatuation can turn into feelings or obsession. Hopefully it just dies out. Just keep an eye on that infatuation of his so that the wrong feelings don’t die out.

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