It didn’t at all!! I truly appreciate the advice!!

Will do lol

I’m sorry, let me clarify, I am the one who talked to his (our) friends. I asked them if they knew anything about how he was feeling for her at the time and that’s what they said. What I meant was that he downplayed his emotions and feelings for her to them by saying “it’s was only infatuation and it was only for like two weeks” which now it seems he was either lying to himself on or idk what

Thank you. I don’t see this being a long term issue but it is something I am upset by. He doesn’t tear me down, I can honestly say that this is the only situation that has made me feel this way. The problem with our friends is that he actually also downplayed things to them, just not as much as he downplayed them to me. I am struggling to find the balance because one of the two guys, I am very close to.

That’s fair, we’re not the type of couple that fights and then has sex. We have both expressed that we don’t want it to be used as a bandaid. But, I think you’re right, I do think that we shouldn’t have talked about it but I unfortunately cannot rewrite the past. Thank you for the advice!! If you have any more, please feel free to share

I am currently not wanting to do that but I appreciate the advice. We have been friends for a long time which is why it feels like we have been together much longer. We are extremely compatible (currently, I know we’re young and still finding ourselves) and I see hope for the future or at least a long term relationship, this is a one-off thing

This is the only issue that shows our age and youth, plenty of couples are open and have candid conversations about their past. The issue isn’t masturbation itself or having feelings for her, it was lying to me.

First comment said exactly what I was thinking about this post being incredibly immature and all of you who see this are right in thinking that. I agree. I am trying to learn here though.