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Usually when your partner doesn't care about you you break up with him. You should have answered he should ditch his friends do what he promised.

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Has he ever made an effort in your relationship? The saying goes "if they love you you'll know, and if they don't you'll wonder". So...has he ever consistently made you feel loved and cared for?

yes that’s the thing he does make me feel special, he always compliments me, makes me feel good, when we are together I feel good but it has been 8 months that’s we haven’t seen eachother and it is always because of me we’ve seen eachotjer cause I’m the one driving to see him

I don't think your bf is properly communicating the reality of his situation. My husband was in the Navy for 10 years; his command wanted to be notified if he so much as went out of town on a day trip. you had to put in a request for leave and outline where you would be going- the command would routinely reject anything too frivolous or risky. They would never have approved of a trip to travel outside the country to see your girlfriend. He may want to come see you very desperately, but that may genuinely not be in the cards for him...

yes I know that but in 2 years his never came but he’s friends has come in my town to see their gfriend multiple times. But I don’t care about this I’ve come seen in multiple times he still didn’t say anything till yesterday

Skip any additional paragraphs. He’s not your boyfriend. No FaceTime? No calls? That’s not normal. I 100% guarantee that he’s gotten with other people in that period. He’s showing you zero respect. Stop all communication and move on.

Sounds like you're the other woman.

he hasn’t face time or called cause he was in deployment, he’s sent multiple pictures and we where texting all the time. We do face time now since he’s back

😢😂😂😂

That's what I mean by effort. Compliments are not effort. They are warm air formed into sound. Sex acts are not effort. Driving across the border, making plans, following through, those are efforts. He hasn't seen you in eight months and is making no effort to see you now.

you’re right

My husband has deployed multiple times and I’ve FaceTimed him on every one. Honey, here’s the reality. At best, he’s terrible at communication. At worst, you’re his side piece. Either way, this guy does not value you and you should run while you can.