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Nevaknosbest t1_iqv45pj wrote

Reply to comment by Geofferz in TIL Queen Sophie of the Netherlands’ marriage with King William was so turbulent that when she died, she was buried in her wedding dress because she viewed her life ended on the day she got married. by AsianInvasian93

It's never too late my man

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Geofferz t1_iqv4bls wrote

Ah I'm kidding, I had a lovely 10 year marriage which we ended super amicably and I'm now dating an absolute stunner.

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niamhweking t1_iqvdrbg wrote

Nice to hear a mature/healthy divorce story. I currently know of a few breakups happening now, and only one seems to be we grew apart, we tried counselling and we've jointly agreed to split, all the others involve fights, cheating, etc.

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Geofferz t1_iqvi4ht wrote

Yeah, it's not a failure, I deem any happy time together a success. Like a few years at a job - good times, move on. Yolo, as in, actually. Go enjoy! Best of luck.

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NoNeedForAName t1_iqwpu36 wrote

Same here. I used to practice law, and crazy ass divorce clients were a big part of the reason I was miserable enough to quit. My ex wife and I didn't exactly get along great around the time of our divorce, but there was never any of that childish fighting, using the kid as a pawn, or any of that other bullshit. It was a pretty amicable split, and we're actually good friends now.

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niamhweking t1_iqwqjfq wrote

I'd love to think if I were splitting up I'd like to think we'd be good friends, maybe not immediately but I'd hope I'd be mature enough. I think holding spite and anger, while I understand it, just eats away and takes way more effort and energy

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NoNeedForAName t1_iqwrl2i wrote

For us it took probably a couple of years to get to the point where I would call us friends, but up to then we were at least able to get along. I think the fact that we're both 100% devoted to our daughter helped a lot.

And I feel exactly like you in regards to holding on to spite and anger. I saw so many people in divorce cases who would do virtually anything to hurt the other party, even if they caused themselves even more problems in the process. I never understood why anyone would just choose to be an asshole like that.

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Geofferz t1_iqxop1z wrote

Yeah I'm mates with my ex, no kids so it's genuine. People often think kids is the onyk reason they're still friends with their exes which may often be true, but you can't know for sure if you have em. Just be glad day.

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