I used white vinegar and put it in a pre soak cycle for a few hours. But again, I had nothing to lose. I would try the freezer first then the vinegar. not sure about the down but I googled. Got this

How do you get body odor out of a down jacket?White VinegarWhite vinegar is a powerful odor neutralizer and works wonders on underarm areas of fabrics. Fill your washing machine with water, then add 1/3 cup of white vinegar. Turn off the machine and let the garment soak for 20 minutes, then launder as usual.

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please come back and let me know if it works. Good luck! Oh I saw another one that suggested using a spray bottle vinegar and not wash it.

Genius!

I love that you know you and she aren’t having the same outlook. Kudos to not only being self-aware but wanting to address it before it becomes a huge relationship issue.

Be the hero. Sit down and talk about it. She likes to tidy when done w a meal. Makes cooking the next meal, in a clean kitchen, so much easier! What you can do is find the 5 tasks she hates. Own them. If she hates bathrooms then you become the bathroom king w an agreed upon frequency. That’s the trade off. She never has to do the bathrooms again but she can’t say anything if you stick to the agreed upon frequency which is weekly. Pushed to 10 days absolute max and know she will get itchy after day 7.

Find something that balances out the housework. As you know, it never ends. Good luck.

It worked great for me on an awesome pair of leather sandals.

If this doesnt work, sock the jacket according to the manufacturer directions but first soak it for a few hours w a cup or so vinegar in the washer. It worked great for me when a family member had urine soaked clothes that were in a bag for days (post hospital admission). Washed those clothes 4 times and was ready to toss them. Did the vinegar soak followed by a regular wash and there was zero detectable smell! I was also ready to just toss the clothes so had nothing to lose.

Another though-have you tried febreeze?

Down is tougher. Follow any washing instructions maybe? First I would put it into a plastic bag and stick it in the freezer for 2 days. This kills the bacteria causing the stank. Works great w shoes I can’t see why it wouldn’t work w a jacket. I would turn it inside out first. Good luck!

JFC rescind the ok! You are more important than this random relative that you DONT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH!!!!

Have you spoken to him directly? God I hope so. And I hope some day you realize you never have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. He could have rented a room at the airport hotel. No one needs to inconvenience you to this level.

Personally I would call him back and tell him or text him, I’m not comfortable w someone in my home when I’m not there, especially since we don’t have a personal relationship. My home will not be available to you in the 16th. (Insert date here).

then when the relatives start up say you can all pitch in $50 and rent him a room. My home is not a hostel and I was foolish to consider this for even a moment.

Next year please book yourself a mini getaway. Indulge in room service, walk around a downtown decorated small town, do whatever makes you happy and doesn’t include a bf’s relatives trying to fight you over their right wing politics. Reevaluate that bf too.

We swear every life event is in a simpson’s episode!