Must be the ADHD kicking in.

All good, I was just confused as to why Germany suddenly entered the conversation lol.

Why were you looking for Germany if OP lives in Belgium?

As someone diagnosed with OCD, I'm all too familiar with the self-diagnosis annoyance. But we don't know if OP self-diagnosed - just that they decided to add that unnecessary tidbit to their story. You came in hard on them without having all the facts and I just wanted to clarify that not everywhere has shifted the terminology.

Maybe you're unaware that diagnostic terminology in America is not universally used across the world. It's still differentiated as ADD or ADHD where I live. My kid has a diagnosis of ADD.

Looks like you'll be spending lots of time at that arts market you both like.

She's given you years of hints. Take them.

Harsh, yes, but apparently needs to be said. If she's interested in talking to you, she'll talk to you. Until then, she's made it clear she doesn't want to

It's not really a fuck up, you had no way of knowing.

I'm not in America. Fuck tipping, businesses need to pay their staff properly and factor those costs into their product pricing.

Myself.

Breaking the Law - Judas Priest

Figuring out when sex ends

Nothing

Water, probably.

We were feeling tired and run down so we stayed home.

You know they're not attached to a man's legs, right?

Yes, that is illegal. And in your scenario, both would be facing potential jail time - the girl for solicitation and possession of illicit material, and the boy for production, distribution and possession of illicit material. As for how seriously the authorities take it ... It's very much a case by case scenario, and it's entirely likely that a conviction would happen - which could not only involve jail time, but also require them to be registered as sex offenders.

Nobody is telling her to ditch him though

It's the age of the person in the photo that's the crime, the age of the offender is irrelevant.

Firstly, this is a lesson in dealing with the fact that your romantic partners will usually have a past with other partners. In time, you will too. It's completely normal and something you will have to deal with. Still having photos from past relationships isn't a terrible thing, your boyfriend likely still has good memories of the relationship and it's okay to keep mementos of that time. He wasn't taunting you with them or anything.

Secondly, any revealing photos are illegal. He shouldn't be taking them, possessing them, or sharing them with you. He needs to delete those. Don't take any of yourself either. Teenagers have been charged with producing, sharing and possessing those kind of photos.

Intimate pictures? Do you just mean photos of them together, or nudes? If it's the latter, that's concerning because it's illegal.

Nobody wants to make that report. Especially when it's about someone you care about. We all want to think the people in our lives are safe and happy and nobody is hurting them. Having to confront the fact that it's not true and report that is hard, but it's the right thing to do. She will only have wished she didn't have to make that report because she wishes that you never had to experience that assault. She sounds like a great person and I'm glad you've got her in your life.

It's also disrespectful of her to dismiss you telling her you had past experiences. It really sounds like she ignored that because she didn't want to know and only got pissed when you finally put an end to her pretending it wasn't true.

Telling her was not a mistake.

You have no need to feel remorse or shame for sharing that with your teacher. One of the reasons teachers are mandated reporters is because students will often trust them with things too big to deal with on their own. It's not inappropriate to talk to them about something terrible that happened to you. You did the right thing to speak up to someone you trust, and they have done the right thing by reporting it so that the authorities can make sure that you are safe and have the resources you need to work through this.

I experienced sexual assault as a child and I wish I'd been as brave as you were in speaking up. I kept quiet, and I regret it. You have ruined nothing with this teacher, who clearly means a lot to you. I have no doubt that she is pleased you felt you could trust her enough to tell her what was going on with you.