It’s none of those things. My country has more freedom, more nature, a less oppressive culture.

Her country isn’t bad but I think mine is better.

This is all my fault. I’m not disputing that at all. My wife and my daughter will suffer because of what I did but I want to minimise the suffering my daughter experiences by providing her the best upbringing I or my wife can

I would love for that to happen. I really would. I wish I could make it happen but it’s just not going to happen.

Unfortunately it will be only one of us. That’s the reality my actions have created

She wanted to move anyway. What I did cause her to decide to move now without me. It’s what I deserve but perhaps not what my daughter deserves.

It’s not completely about finances. My wife has an apartment she can live in in her home country

I think im putting my daughters needs above my wife’s.

I know it benefits me personally also but that is not my intention (I know you will not believe me).

I hate what im putting my wife through. She definitely does not deserve any of it. I’d do anything to take it back but I can’t

You are right my actions will hurt my wife more. I regret that very much but I am balancing that against the future I think I can provide for my daughter.

It won’t be perfect because of my actions. I wish my wife and I could both be present in her life, but because of me that won’t be possible.

My wife’s family could provide some support but not as much as mine could. All things considered, I think the best environment for my daughter would be with my family

But it won’t be just me and my daughter here. I also don’t know if comparing a mothers love and a fathers love is right but I can’t do anything about that.

I know I love my daughter very much and I could give her a good upbringing

Shared custody is 100% out of the picture. My wife is 100% leaving the country. It is out of my control.

I don’t deserve it but I wish I could come to some sort of arrangement but it won’t happen.

I see the future of my daughter as a separate issue to my sins. I will forever regret what I have done but I love my daughter and I would be able to care for her in my country more than I think my wife could in hers, in her particular circumstances

Thank you for your considered response.

You are right. I have no say in what happens to my relationship with my wife. I will regret this until the day that I die and I will never meet anyone who I love more (I plan on being 100% with anyone I meet in the future anyway so there is zero possibility of me dating let alone marrying anyone)

I completely understand the hatred I’m getting and it is all accurate. I am a horrible human who has made grave mistakes with terrible consequences that I will never be able to fix.

If my wife leaves the country I will 100% not be able to have any contact at all, ever. Shared custody is completely out of the picture so as much as I’d love to come to an arrangement, i don’t deserve it and it won’t happen anyway

Different developed Asian countries

I regret my actions very much. I wish I never did it, I have huge shame for what I have done.

I accept that what I have done is abhorrent and the natural reaction is that I am irredeemable and will never be fit to be a parent.

I have cheated and I caused the breakup of an otherwise happy family. Nothing I will ever do will be able to erase the shame and guilt I have over this.

Emotions aside, I think I have a better chance of giving daughter a decent upbringing in my country than my wife’s. It’s not just about how much money she will be able to spend on daughter. The whole environment considered, I think daughter could be better off with me

There is zero chance of me being able to maintain a presence in daughters life if wife leaves the country. It just won’t happen no matter how hard I try.

It’s unfortunately not going to be a 50-50 situation so we have to decide which country provides a better upbringing for my child

You have every reason to not believe me but I will regret what I have done until I die.

My wife means a lot to me, so I am extremely ashamed about how I have treated her.

Taking custody of my daughter isn’t the right thing by her but I believe it is the best for my daughter, all things considered (even though I did cheat and cause this situation)

She won’t stay here no matter what I pay her. She is 100% returning to her home country

Definitely not excusing my behaviour. It is beyond belief and I don’t deserve anything

I can’t take back anything I’ve done. I will regret it until I die. Nobody will be ever believe me (and I can’t blame them) but I love my daughter very much and I would take good care of her.

I hate that it will hurt my wife but I honestly believe I can give a better upbringing than my wife all things considered.

There will be hurt and turmoil. I will be to blame. My shame is eternal

I would make it work if I could, but it won’t be possible. That is definitely off the table

Because she will be in her country which I don’t think is as good an environment

I guess not. I would do anything to take back the stupid decisions I made but I can’t.

The best I can do is provide the best environment for my daughter going forward. I think that is in my country, and not my wife’s

Home country is a 13 hour flight away. Zero chance of contact if she leaves the country, let alone any kind of custody arrangement

I can’t blame you for thinking that because all the evidence proves that but I honestly believe that I would choose my daughter over my own wants.

I am very aware of how much I have screwed up and I will spend the rest of my life atoning for it, starting with seeing to provide the best environment possible (under the circumstances) for my daughter. I think that’s my country, not my wife’s

She’s now pregnant

I’m not in the US and I won’t be able to have any contact with my daughter if she leaves my country.

I can provide alimony to support the raising of my daughter overseas but I think my country is a better environment for child rearing also.

I fucked up as a human being and a husband but I love my daughter more than anything and I honestly think that I could give her a good loving and supporting upbringing (not that anyone will believe me)

Thank you. I know I have no right to ask for another chance to be in my wife’s life.

I ruined that completely and forever.

I wish more than anything that my daughter could have both my wife and I in her life, but for a number of (perfectly understandable) reasons, staying in my country is not an option for my wife.

If it becomes a choice between my country and my wife’s country I honestly think my country would be better for the upbringing of a child. I also think that I could provide a loving and supportive upbringing

I failed as a husband but I love my daughter more than anything and I honestly think that I could be a good father.

I know that nobody will ever believe it. My shame is eternal

I could provide money but it’s not only that. I think my country provides a better environment for children. My sins aside I also think I’d provide her with a loving home.

I know that nobody will ever believe me but I would never make a third mistake. It’s too late for my wife (understandably) but I can only work to improve from here