Yeah to be honest I'm a young woman and I agree with this completely. I think to certain people on the outside it looks like my fiance is controlling because he'll occasionally call kind of intensely worried about my whereabouts. The reality is, we both have really weird and inconsistent schedules with our jobs, so if one of us doesn't know where the other is for an extended period of time or we miss our regular check-ins, it's easy to grow concerned (I drive a lot in the northern US for my job and he's a bartender so there is a small element of danger involved). I don't call as often, but I will text randomly when we're apart, and if I don't at least get a text by midnight, I do start to get concerned as well.

Lol okay then, just a weird fluke. I have a similar issue in my apartment building. Both that the water level fluctuates significantly after any other nearby water system being used AND the oversensitivity of the faucet. So annoying.

As a fellow curvy vagina owner, I highly recommend a showerhead on a hose so you can detach it. You can find a basic one for cheap and the install is straightforward. Residual soap in the downstairs is super unhealthy (and just uncomfortable), and since we switched our showerhead I haven't had any problems. This also means you can check the temperature before pointing it directly at any delicate areas. Good luck 🤞

This should be the top comment.

Somehow the strangest part of this for me is the idea that you have foreceps in your kitchen... So I'm hoping you mean tongs. Please be so careful with the sounding, I'm not an expert, but that's a scary degree of penetration and stretching. Even if you choose to later have gender confirmation surgery, you'll still need those parts to stay intact.

Hahaha that would be funny! The one time I just wet my fingertips and flicked toward his face so it was pretty minimal, another time I put a cold rag on him, but there was a time where things were more dire and I was starting to get pissed (he was moving and speaking but not really conscious) so I did actually kinda throw water from a distance and move away. He has a very aggressive face when he first wakes up just normally (baby sis stays with us sometimes and calls it his Murder Face) but he was definitely more angry than normal those times!

That's a good idea! A couple times things have gotten ugly or he's been hard to wake up, I've had to throw water on him... Wakes him up every time to the real world, but never in a good mood lol.

Yeah, my partner isn't usually like that unless things are bad, but if he gets startled awake it takes him an hour or two to fully relax after so it's definitely not a good way to start the day, especially if i need something urgently. I usually get in bed next to him and rub his back, that way he sort of understands it's me.

Apparently, a little while after he got back, his ex wife thought she could wake him up aggressively in front of their friends (he was dozing on the couch or something) and they all fold her not to but she thought it would be different for her. It was not. Apparently it didn't end well. He's not usually violent though, just easily startled.

Can confirm, partner is a combat vet. Shaking people awake is the best way to get tossed and end up disrupting them a lot more. The least disruptive way you can get their attention the better because when someone is asleep, it doesn't matter who you are because their unconscious mind won't recognize you until awake and that might be too late. Mom did the right thing.

Yeah... Our daughter thought she was a cat for years and was always scaling the cabinets and fridge for food and just becàuse she could. We had a million heart attacks over it but it's really difficult to watch two small kids as one adult normally, plus sickness, etc. It happens, but I'm glad neither kid needed stitches or anything worse and you did a great job not totally losing your shit. A lot of others definitely would have and would be totally justified in doing so. I hope everyone feels better soon!

A wilderness explorer eh? Is your name Russel perchance?

Oh wow, I'm sorry, that sounds deeply traumatic. I look back on how i grew up with very little fire safety but we just didn't really ever need it, and also got lucky, I imagine.

Oh yeah, y'all are absolutely right. It's illegal here to throw them out the window too, i just never realized the real consequences before. Most people i knew growing up threw cigs out the window at least on occasion.

Yeah that song is one of his best and he didn't even write it but it really doesn't matter for that one. Another commenter is right that the music video is gutwrenching. It messes me up every time and i must have heard it a hundred times by now.

My fiance is from the southwest (LA originally, then many years in Phoenix), so he takes the whole cigarette thing very seriously. I live in Ohio where that stuff is pretty uncommon so people throw their butts out the car all the time and he gets so upset because that causes major fires all the time in the southwest.

When I was a kid, i was zoning out looking out the sliding door while doing homework at the kitchen table. I saw smoke coming from a house behind us that has a bush by their back garage door. Soon it started turning into Moses and the burning bush. My mom ran over with her tiny extinguisher meant for small kitchen fires and put it out, and the neighbors didn't even seem that grateful. The wife went to the back door to smoke and flicked her not completely extinguished bud into the bush next to the door.

When I was a little kid, my dad was driving through a construction zone and there was a cat stuck between the cars and the barrier (so no hope of getting off the road) and weaving around desperately trying not to get hit by traffic. After being overcome by a fit of what my partner calls, "daughter's make you soft", my dad pulls over to try to save this cat because he's relatively certain this cat is going to die and is upset at seeing it panic. He opens the car, and after some coaxing, manages to get the cat inside, but that was when all hell breaks loose... It flies around yowling and scratching and absolutely losing its mind. My dad gets torn to shreds in the process--bruises, deep gashes in his arms and face, bite marks, etc. By this point, my dad is pretty pissed and is starting to care quite a bit less about whether or not the cat dies... I'm not sure the exact timeline from this point, but basically he tries to take the cat to a shelter and get himself to urgent care and the shelter won't take the cat (both because it's aggressive and because it's bit him) and the urgent care says he has to keep the cat until his rabies test comes back.

I was maybe 7 at the time, so my dad was naturally the toughest person I knew, so when he came home looking like he just went 5 rounds with Floyd Mayweather, I was naturally terrified of the demon cat. My aunt, consummate animal lover, was called, and even though she could not get the cat to come around, she did bring over a giant cage (she had malamutes) so the cat could live in our garage for awhile. My mom would take out paper plates of spam and cat food and tuna a couple times a day to put through the slats of the cage, but I'd lock the door behind her because I'd be so scared.

Long story short, dad did not get rabies, recovered from his injuries, rescues refused to take the VERY feral cat, and dad found a very large bit of woods far from any roads to release the cat in for the remainder of it's days. Hopefully it's good now. I do not think it would have ever been happy in a home. It didn't even like cat food.

OP, you did what you could, but cats are naturally pretty wild and if they've never been handled by a human before, being on the streets may feel more like home even if it's hard for us to see them cold or hungry. All we can do is do what we can to support them. I hope you can get those wounds treated soon!

Yeah, it's been tough. I'm 26 now and engaged and raising my step kids so it's frustrating.

Both during HS and when I moved back in temporarily as an adult after an injury, my mother would knock on the door as she was opening it. She had the gall to complain a time or two about me being naked (i like to sleep naked and big boobs make finding lounge clothes difficult). I told her I WOULD be clothed if i was expecting COMPANY! My lil sib says she still pull this shit now. So ridiculous.

Oh thanks yeah that's right in the beginning. Though I am completely confused as to how the hell that happens I'm reassured that it's a lot less likely that it will happen again. Scary shit.

Honestly though the lesson kind of is both things if you're a woman. There's just too many folds down there to completely remove all the hair yourself with a regular razor and no mirror or assistance. I really recommend either using more of like a beard trimmer (they also make bikini trimmers for this) which will make it much harder to severely injure yourself or just waxing if smoothness is necessary for your personal style/hygiene needs. It's really dangerous to cut your labia as you've learned OP. I hope you feel better soon. Between UTIs and different sore type things i can imagine how you must feel and it does hurt literally every time you pee. I'm so sorry. 💜

When you said your brain entered the witness protection program, i was expecting a secret agent story, but this is funny too. Poor girlfriend. Curly hair is tough to clean/maintain and i bet that bed never recovered.

Yeah i was curious if anyone would say this though technically Mike raps and does spoken word, not necessarily singing, but if they said vocalist, then i would say he qualifies.

Wow because I just looked at them more closely and they still look eerily similar. It is cute but slightly disconcerting. Like the cute kid who won't stop staring. Lol

How do they have the same eyes??? Can't tell if this is cute or creepy...