Putting people on a pedestal is a textbook toxic behavior—if you're excited about someone, you have to remind yourself to take it slow and still treat them like any other potential partner.

Don't reach out to her and don't expect her to reach out to you. Live and learn

> I haven't put anyone on a pedestal like this in the last 10 years

That was a huge mistake. She's a human being just like you and has a life—you made it worse by overreacting to her absence and deleting her when you didn't seem ready to let it go. Once you do those things, you don't get to undo them especially since you haven't known each other long on top of her showing signs of disinterest. I'd say you fucked this one up a little too much, just move on.

I agree with you, which is why I probably would have asked my partner to come home with me instead of "obviously" saying yes to her staying out. I'm sorry you're alone but I think you did this to yourself here.

What? Of course there are human beings out there that are willing to be manipulative in order to have a comfortable roof over their heads. Your first mistake was agreeing to talk to her—block her and move on.

If you wanted her to come home with you, it's on you to say that. She can't read your mind and was probably still trying to enjoy her evening. Do you have an idea why this is bothering you?

Good luck dude! You deserve someone who enjoys talking to you :)

You've only been talking for a month, I don't think she'd really value your opinion enough to change her behavior or somehow magically become emotionally available/present.

She's not meeting your emotional needs/is not emotionally available enough for you, and you'd be better off focusing your energy on someone who gratefully receives it and reciprocates it.

A guy I'm talking to is doing the same shit to me right now.

Remind her of that and try your best to maintain a patient tone. I'm sure she's feeling a little lonely while you're busy with work, but don't let her steamroll you or make you feel guilty for doing your job. You both deserve happiness and I'm sorry your job is creating extra stress right now.

She's being unreasonable.

"[Gf], you know I love you a lot and I would do what I can to attend something that matters to you—trust me, there's nothing I'd rather do than spend time with you! But you know I'm busy revising for [x amount of time] and I have to prioritize this in the short term if I want to stay on track for [x career goal you have]. I need you to be understanding of that, but let's schedule something so we can still have quality time together. What sounds fun to you?"

If she continues pushing back, I would start to rethink whether you can manage an unreasonable girlfriend and your job at the same time.