you can create a schedule for each day, break it down by hour and include your down time and sleep time. Your day can include gaming and smoking at the end. Use alarms and reminders on your phone to keep you in track.

Set tiny goals, if you have projects you want to work on, just tell yourself you’ll only do X amount, you might find you do more than you thought.

For example, exercise, if you don’t want to 30 min, do 5, you may keep going once you get started but you dont have to. for me getting started is the hardest. But if you only do 5 minutes you hit your goal and you shouldn’t feel bad. Keep doing that everyday until you want to increase to 10+ or however long.

Scheduling seems like it will be the biggest tool I can use, and I hadn't thought of the alarms, so thats really helpful. Thank you

The getting started it definitely the hardest part. Especially for the projects, since not only to I lack the motivation to start, but then I even doubt the quality or merit of the project in the first place and dishearten myself from starting.

That's sad worrying about wasting time. News Flash working is essentially the same. Cant take it with you so the four weeks should be used to find a path where instead of four weeks you have all the time you need to enjoy life while being able to still pay bills.

This is the perfect opportunity to create new habits. Once they're set you only have to transition them into the working week. It's so hard to get started but you may find next month's boredom is exactly what you need! I'd schedule it like a work day but you'd be working for yourself. Stop for lunch and at dinner. Veg the rest of the night.

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It truly is. And I cannot seem to stop despite knowing its the main issue. It's maddening

I mean, thats exactly what I am asking for help in achieving. I am wanting to make this time mean something and be enjoyable instead of doing nothing like I normally do

If you have a skill talent apply it and try to create

I downloaded a few of those habit-tracker apps, but it requires developing a habit of using them to be effective lol I know that I want to develop these habits and skills, but I just seem to continuously fall short in enacting the plan

I understand. I generally don't change things until my crappy habits have me in crisis mode. It took years of trial and error to get my shit together. Good luck and enjoy your break!

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I think I may be in that crisis mode. I feel like "this is it", and I feel like that added pressure is making me even more crisis averting, which means more laziness. I could also be self-fulfilling this by making it into such a huge, do-or-die thing. I hate my mind

Maybe instead of projects, go travel for a while. It's easier to be active in a new place while you're exploring. It can be done inexpensively by driving and staying in hostels or similar places.

If it were me, I would time block just like I do at work. Set some days to get done the things you want, like hang out with friends, go somewhere or take a road trip, do some things around the house or apartment, and then some days to just fuck off at home and play video games all day. And maybe some days that you leave open to allow some spontaneity.

r/leaves may be helpful

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I have had a very similar experience with constantly questioning the quality of my work. What I found helpful was if the project is something I really want to do, then I tell myself any mistakes are part of the learning process.

For example I'm writing my thesis. It can be really discouraging when after writing a paragraph on research results I notice that I made a mistake in analyzing my data. I've struggled with feeling like I've wasted my time since I have to redo the data analysis and rewrite the paragraph. However telling myself I was always going to make this mistake, and I must be learning since now I can see the mistake has helped me stay more motivated.

I like to remind myself that the stepping stones to good quality involve bad quality. You have to step on the stones of bad quality allowing them to take you further if you ever want to get to good quality.

And that anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.

So start by doing it poorly so you can get to the point where you do it well.

Best of luck!

I find it useful to include some project planning sessions before starting something. Like, plan to spend 10 minutes making a spreadsheet with steps you’ll need to do, things you might need to get together, that sort of thing. That’ll help you think through your project and help you with some of the design and implementation of it. And it’ll help you break it down into small steps, which always helps to make it seem less overwhelming. A couple of days spending 10-15 mins a day on planning and you already made a great start. So the next action is to start with the first “real” step you figured out. Maybe that’s ordering supplies. Great, do that and you’ve made some progress.

Go travel. Pick a destination and go. Walk, hike, tramp, take a train or a bus, a boat if you have to, but go. It widens your horizon.

I've got a friend who used to go on vacations with no plan besides "keep driving that way until we reach the water, then turn around". They'd go all the way from the Midwest to, say, Oregon, or Louisiana, or wherever, visiting all kinds of places along the way.

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Read the book “Atomic Habits.” It talks about creating systems for change rather than working toward goals. Also, instead of setting goals, considering the kind of person you want to be, and working from there. Example: if I want to become fit, I’ll create a system of little steps instead of focusing on one goal.

Good luck, my friend!

Look for an AMA that was posted not long after yours here in GetMotivated (I can't cross-post a link) from a Buddhist monk. He talks about how to form good habits, among other things.

I'm in the same boat, I've had too many extended vacations at home where I start with big goals and end up accomplishing very little.

I will say exercise is important for anyone. It's hard to start but if you can get into a routine of working out a set number of days a week it gets easier over time. Like a habit after a certain point. Also I tend to feel better physically and emotionally when I'm exercising somewhat regularly.

As far as accomplishing goals idk man I'm a bad procrastinator so I'll keep pushing things off until my vacation is over. I guess its best to write a list of what you would realistically like to accomplish during your break. And start on something the first day or two of vacation, unless you have travel plans or something.

Throw away all of your pot and destroy/give away all of your gaming systems and games.

Book a trip somewhere.

Doesn't even have to be nice, just a change of scenery.

Make lists and a timeline of everything to accomplish during your vacation.

Exercise. Make that the first thing you do on the first day off. Just go for a walk someplace. Or run.

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Edit. I just noted your location.

Get. The fuck. Out. Of. Reno.

Maybe go snowboarding.

Ah, I see you know the city's motto.

But, yes. I am hoping for a weekend trip down to the bay to see some friends, but money. Hopefully I will be able to get somewhere, but I am trying not to count on it so I don't disappoint myself. I am definitely going to be doing morning walks, though, thats for sure.

bro stop listening to these people. weed doesn’t make you lazy, your just lazy… it’s on you.

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I would do something fun too. Take a look at geohashing.info for something funny to do.

I found the book, "Atomic Habits" to be very good at shifting how I thought about habits and scheduled my day and life around them. it was very good imo.

Maybe there’s some depression you’re dealing with. A lot of this is characteristic of ADHD, just a thought not saying you have it and it can be over diagnosed. With that being said, I am in that same struggle in varying degrees with myself alllll the time. I set plans that I have to show up for - so things like going to the gym- I go with a friend that I don’t want to let down. Orange theory charges you if you don’t show up. Book tickets to an event and just get it without thinking about your schedule. Once it’s on the calendar it tends to happen. Sometimes a vitamin B12 shot gives me that extra boost when I’m in a slump. Leave your smoke at a trusted friends house and be just uncomfortable with knowing it’s not at your fingertips.

Stay at a place where they have a mini kitchen so you can make your own food and save money. Go hiking and take sandwiches.

You should keep the feed updated and tell us what you’re doing each day. You have accountability and we have a vicarious vacation. Everyone wins 🎉

Aww thank you for all of that. I really appreciate all you said.

I have already started really doing some deep dives on a project I've been wanting to work on, and have felt really accomplished, so I'm going to ride that high and keep it going. Today marks the start of my vacation, so I am hoping more will develop from here