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seniorfrito t1_je9oq8e wrote

I'm glad guys can just play video games and be completely distracted from the loneliness for a while. And when we're done with that, we've got The Mandalorian.

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P5ych0pathV2 t1_je9s6vo wrote

Can't wait for all the comments from true alpha males about how these women wouldn't be lonely if they'd give nice guys a chance.

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ASpellingAirror t1_je9sv8l wrote

This is the stuff that is needed to combat the social void that is being created by people becoming less and less religious. Regardless of beliefs, one major thing that organized religion always centered around was community and social elements. People’s entire social circle used to be tied to their church. As people continue to move away from organized religion there is going to be a bigger and bigger need for social groups like this, because people still are tribal and need that engagement and interaction.

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the_card_guy t1_je9vvee wrote

Replying to ASpellingAirror (#2,483,661)

So Reddit loves to shit on anything involving religion, and I don't deny that religion has done tons of awful things... But one of its purposes was to ultimately bring people together who would otherwise have no reason to come together. Plus, you could usually bring the whole family

Let's just say it's a damn shame that so many Redditors would prefer to interact with other people online (if they choose to interact with other people at all!), behind anonymous names... But the majority of the human population does, in fact, need that human connection.

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RGJ587 t1_je9y4ch wrote

Fully support these women reaching out to each other to find friendship.

I also just want to say, it's sad that if this was a men's club, people would attack it and its members for being "incels". Which is probably why something this specific for combating loneliness hasn't popped up on the men's side.

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Baconbits16 t1_je9y6ux wrote

Replying to P5ych0pathV2 (#2,483,457)

Not defending it, but try being gaslight everyday on dating apps while resisting the urge to rage about it somewhere online lol.

Anyway the whole thing's fucked once sex robots come out via chatgpt.

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momamil t1_je9z9dy wrote

Awesome! The phone is not a substitute for actual human company ❤️

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whataledge t1_jea05oz wrote

I'm part of this Facebook group and people are so friendly and wholesome there! Lots of meetups going on, advice etc. I did a meetup last year during Ramadan, about 30 girls went out for iftar. Just set up an event and people will turn up.

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kittenparachutepants t1_jea1tri wrote

Sounds exactly like the book 'All the Lonely People' by Mike Gayle!!! Just finished that book the other week!

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MelancholyMushroom t1_jea290o wrote

Replying to Gimme_The_Loot (#2,483,882)

I’d join! Where do we go to start one I wonder… Meetup.com? It’s so hard when money is so tight and everyone demands a monthly fee. I just want to sit in a room or chat in a park without worrying how much it’ll cost me per hour.

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the_card_guy t1_jea2ex9 wrote

Replying to Grievuuz (#2,485,258)

I wonder if it ever occurs to Redditors to go offline and interact with people within the town or city they live in. This is something that seems to be a foreign and maybe even scary idea to them.

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GoBanana42 t1_jea34d2 wrote

Replying to Baconbits16 (#2,485,064)

It's a lot more/worse than raging about it "somewhere online." It's a constant and ugly thing.

Everyone needs to vent once in a while, but it's extremely disingenuous to act like that's what the above comment is talking about. If you want to talk about trying something, try seeing millions of angry men online complaining (often directly to you!) about how you should be giving them sex and how your completely normal standards and expectations are ruining their lives. Threatening your life because of it. Sometimes acting on it.

Online dating sucks and I have empathy for dealing with bots and flakey/shallow people. But it's not nearly the same issue as the rampant misogyny and incel ranting that translates to real violence and harassment against women.

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alancake t1_jea3vvc wrote

Replying to ASpellingAirror (#2,483,661)

This is definitely true of the US. The UK has not had religion as a cornerstone of community for a long time. My town's landmark church (huge, ornate and beautiful) has only survived by reinventing itself as a secular community hub as well as still conducting its religious services. So now we have this gorgeous building holding flower festivals, theatre productions, science fairs, ice skating, cinema showings, an annual beer festival and much more, in addition to running a coffee shop and childrens play area for anyone who just wants to pop in. It's wonderful, and much more in line with the community hub it would have originally been centuries ago.

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Grievuuz t1_jea4uu2 wrote

Replying to the_card_guy (#2,486,231)

Pretty big hateboner you got there. Show me on the doll where the mean redditor hurt you :p

Also I was just asking because it sounded like you were talking up joining organized religion as a solution to loneliness, which is pretty fucked up :p

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goldenhawkes t1_jea5lr5 wrote

Replying to ASpellingAirror (#2,483,661)

Yep. My grandparents entire social life was dominated by the church. Ladies group, men’s group, the marrieds group (they founded it when they were all young and newlywed, and had to change the name at some point…) scouts, guides, youth clubs, Sunday school, choir, coffee mornings…. All of it. The harvest suppers and Christmas variety show, the musical performances. I remember it when I was a kid in the 90s and it “wasn’t like the old days” and then it all stopped. They’ve sold off some of the substantial hall space now. My grandparents and all their friends are gone.

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Kyrkby t1_jea865p wrote

I hastily misread this as "thousands of women join combat club" and figured it was like Fight Club but only for women.

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360walkaway t1_jea8kij wrote

Pervy dudes will find out about this and the group will be canceled in a week or two after.

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CountOmar t1_jeaik54 wrote

The news is uplifting. The comments section....it's pretty dire

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Babouka t1_jeajumx wrote

Replying to basicallyasking47 (#2,485,466)

Boardgames, video games, cars, sports (all different ranges like hockey, hiking, golfing). Just type the hobby you are interested in and join a group. Near where I live there is a men social club, a real mgtow group (not the fake one that just complain and put down women). They hang at a bar, they have music, booze and they have a blast. They don't accept any kind of misogyny or incels view though.

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Affectionate-Yak5280 t1_jeannch wrote

Really happy that they all identified a problem and did something about it! Wish them all the best in making new friendships and hope many other people do this too.

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ginkner t1_jeanz5c wrote

Hello, yes, non-woman here, can I also have a friendship club?

Seriously though, on a surface level, very good. I appreciate the pragmatism.

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QueenOfAllTheLizards t1_jeav9x8 wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#2,493,231)

I'm dealing with some really heavy shit right now in my personal life so I don't have any time left to plan something like this out. However if anyone lives near eastern Maryland or Delaware I'd be down to meet some of you awesome people. :)

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Metalsteve1989 t1_jeawfzu wrote

Yet men are killing themselves due to loneliness and other factors. More needs to be done to help men and their struggles.

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giveusalol t1_jeb4bok wrote

This is dope. But the article doesn’t say if the founder actually made friends. I hope so!

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jpotrz t1_jeb6yr2 wrote

This is awesome.

Do they have one for men? Asking for a friend... if I had a friend to ask for :(

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RGJ587 t1_jeb7lwq wrote

Replying to Zeptojoules (#2,494,541)

Exactly. A group like this for men would come under immediate attack for being a "haven of toxicity".

There is a dramatic lack of understanding an empathy towards men's mental health. And because some online trolls have drawn headlines for being rude towards women, now anyone who falls under the "incel umbrella" is immediately labeled as toxic and should be attacked.

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Loud_Fly_1142 t1_jebamqh wrote

30% of men have never had or have gone over a year without sex. They could be described as tremendously lonely. How come these two groups have no means of connecting?

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Alexexy t1_jebgpey wrote

Replying to Babymicrowavable (#2,487,734)

I'm a minority that experiences racism on a monthly, if not weekly basis and I still manage to make and find connections rather commonly.

If the handful of bad people stopped me from meeting people who are nice and gracious then I would be miserable too.

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howwhyno t1_jebm04l wrote

Replying to goldenhawkes (#2,487,122)

My husband and I talk about this a lot. I was raised religiously, he was not. First time he went to church was in his late 20s with me. I was mostly a Chr-Easter by then being in my 20s and such (hard to get to church w a hangover). Over the years I just stopped going. Recently my 3yo asked if we could go to church. And we started going weekly bc honestly it was something to do and get out of the house w a toddler who is pretty well behaved lol she loves church! My husband was saying how post-covid we may see more of a return to churches as a form of community bc we are all so isolated and lonely. I am skeptical bc I can also see us going further into isolation....but I'm interested to see.

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ssandino t1_jebqdcw wrote

Damn, and I’m still single.

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Guukab t1_jebudxr wrote

It sounds pathetic, but loneliness (or lack of a truly trustworthy friend, I should say) is by my completely and totally unprofessional assertation the leading cause to 99.99% of the annoying children spamming crap about mental health on social media.

People ain't depressed. Theys just be lonely, dawg. You can also search for specific Discord channels and find exactly what interests you to meet people. It takes a leap of faith which is often hard to take for people who are likely introverted as they're lonely to begin with, but the door is waiting for you to open it.

Alternatively you can give some fake doctor money to pretend to care about you and be temporarily satisfied by venting your frustrations to someone who forgot your name the instant you walked out the door.

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whiskeyvacation t1_jebyno8 wrote

So many beautiful girls. What's up with London guys?

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Tarrtarus t1_jec6kl8 wrote

Sign me up! This should be more widespread!

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Broad_Secret4603 t1_jecaclp wrote

I'm part of this Facebook group and it's great, women sypporting women. I haven't managed to meet anyone yet but it's a great online community too, asking each other questions, for advice, recommendations etc. The world has changed since the pandemic and many of us are finding we are having to start again or figure out a new way of life again and it's hard to make friends as an adult.

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timtamtoucantee t1_jecta31 wrote

If only young men could put aside our egos and do something like this. We clearly need it.

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zzyul t1_jecum1w wrote

Replying to seniorfrito (#2,495,177)

Every community sports team I’ve joined has been insanely competitive. Like I’m just there to hang out and have fun but like everyone else seems to think this is their shot at making the pros.

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LeonDeSchal t1_jedz6q1 wrote

Replying to whiskeyvacation (#2,503,151)

These lonely women most likely have standards that are too high. Most lonely people who want to be in a relationship but aren’t have standards that are too high and they probably wouldn’t meet their own standards.

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Alexexy t1_jef1fso wrote

Replying to Loud_Fly_1142 (#2,531,983)

I do have female friends but I'm also a man.

I'm gonna make it very clear to you. It's like you telling me that you're lonely and then I'm telling you that you need to be friends with a gay man due to the potential level of sexual intimacy.

Now you might be completely ok having a gay friend but adding that level of potential sexual aggression is not the panacea you're claiming it to be.

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