I don’t have a specific person to recommend, but in the immediate term you might benefit from seeing an executive functioning coach. A Google search should help you find someone either in your area or who can see you remotely.

Try Psychology Today You can filter by location and other preferences

Just try to bear down and focus more, it’s all in your head /s

Good on you for doing the uncomfortable by seeking help

Thank you super helpful. Found that a lot of therapists have been scooped up by these big companies that have ton of locations throughout the US. Trying to stay away from those especially since you are working with someone on trying to rewire your brain

Secon this, my husband found a great therapist that specializes in the area he needed there.

Depending on the insurance you have Therapy Matcher is a really helpful referral service - you put in your demographics/insurance and what you are looking for and volunteer social workers will send you a list of therapists who might be a good fit for you. https://therapymatcher.org

It's more specific than psychology today which can be pretty hit or miss.

Sorry, I have nothing to add to your search.

But I just wanted to ask (if you don't mind) do you feel your parents made the right decision? I ask because we were recently faced with a similar decision for our kids, and it's gut-wrenching. I know all ADHD isnt the same, but was yours pretty mild?

Just curious, feel free to PM me if you don't wish to reply here.

Another option would be to start by visiting an ADHD specific clinic. Your PCP can give you a referral. I had a great experience with Dr. Jennifer Harris at Brigham. After an initial evaluation, we talked through all the options: EF Coaching, groups, medication. I work in the field (and have coached the hell out of my EF system for many years 😵‍💫), so I was there specifically to discuss medication. We met every few weeks when I was originally starting on meds. It’s not for everyone, but was a game changer for me. Good luck!

Thriveworks has been a good resource for me. They can help you get set up with a therapist and/or psychiatrist within your network.

Wouldn't hurt to consult your PCP either.

I think at a certain point it’s good to tell your kid or at least work on ways to build routines habbits for them to succeed. I was always better when i had structure. Always remember, adhd brains are just wired different doesn’t mean we are doomed at life.

I was good at school because i actually enjoyed it. With adhd you prioritize things that made you feel good. We are super highly emotional and gravitate towards things that make us feel good now which is why we constantly procrastinate/put things off towards later and really only do things we don’t like when we feel some sort of strong emotion attached to it.

I was a manager at a very big finance firm. One of my friends who has adhd is a very successful lawyer. Learning about the strengths/pitfalls of adhd will definitely help set your kid up for a brighter future if you deal with it now rather than later.

Just remember pills may help, but you need to learn the skills and i wish i learned them when i was in my teens rather than my 30s if that helps

Would suggest: your brains not broken by Tamara Ross. Will help you understand what it’s like to live with an adhd brain and go through some really good ways to deal with it. Can help you implement some good routines for your kids

How is thriveworks? It feels like a big corporate group trying to group/monetize psychiatry care. Would a smaller group outside of it be better or am i reading into it wrong

Who wasn’t diagnosed with adhd as a kid? If you struggled in school and your parents brought to a therapist, 90 percent chance you get diagnosed.

Thank you for your answer.

I don't know who downvote me, but I noticed any time you mention ADHD and medicine in the same sentence here, it's a hot-button topic that'll likely get you downvoted...

Anyhow, I appreciate your response. The decision to medicate weighs heavily on a parent and I appreciate you speaking about it (even in the form of a question) publicly.

My read of it is they're basically like independent contractors, and Thriveworks is just a service to better connect clients with therapists. My therapist and psychiatrist haven't once mentioned Thriveworks in about a year I've been seeing them (anxiety, death in the family).

I would still suggest maybe checking in with your PCP first. That's where I went to first, and my PCP gave me various recommendations for mental health. Could be they have someone they trust they could recommend to you. Good luck!!

Not OP but I was diagnosed as an adult but had all the signs since forever but got by in school but really struggled. I soooo wish I’d had the chance to properly learn clearly and not constantly feel like I’m behind while also not being a fucking wreck of lingering anxiety and social isolation.

Even if you decide to just start with therapy please consider it.

I have ADHD (and bipolar disorder) and i get my care thru Arbour Counseling and overall i recommend them. there's a lot of providers and I've heard that the quality varies depending on who you see, but i like my psychiatrist and i LOVE my therapist.

https://patriciawakefieldtherapy.com

i love thriveworks! it definitely give off like a big corporate group vibe at first but the resources are great. you get to meet with the same therapist/psychiatrist every time and it’s so easy to book appointments. once i established care with my therapist i hardly noticed the corporation anymore

Goodluck if you want meds

Curious, is your PCP also at Mass General Brigham? Super helpful rec, but might not be an option otherwise :/

(I was recently diagnosed by a psychologist in a different system, but they could only give me a giant list of places to try calling for a psych appointment. I instead tried calling a Mass General Brigham location that would have been very convenient for me, but the scheduling staff sounded offended I would even ask without having a PCP at MGB despite 5 of 5 psychiatrists showing as "accepting new patients" online.)

If it didn't negatively affect their life in school or social life, then meds aren't necessary. I excelled in school but like OP started my own business and started meds when needed as an adult. It has made a big difference for me in a positive way.

Yes, my PCP is at MGB. Good luck!