That’s your values and your beliefs so I don’t see why you’re getting a hard time for it. You don’t need to explain why you’re not interested, you just tell her you’re not and she accepts it. Don’t make her feel bad about her choices, so it’s better not mentioning that at all. You’re perfectly entitled to tell someone you don’t see them that way.

Good for you. You’ll feel much better in the long run. You don’t want to live your life wondering what she’s up to etc. Best of luck to you.

She’s using you. Pack your bags and leave her to it. She can call on baby daddy to support her ass. Don’t allow yourself to be treated like this. You deserve better.

Thank your lucky stars that you can get a clean break away from her. She won’t change. Don’t let her use you.

Creeps as in 30 year old men that chase young girls?

Both needs are equally important and it’s maybe time to speak to a marriage counsellor. Both of you are entitled to have some time to yourselves and also together without the kids.

You’re not together. He literally finished things with you to pursue another girl. Why are you even giving him the time of day? You’re appearing like a doormat, and I am not saying this to hurt your feelings, but he’s kicking back thinking aw she’ll be right back with me if this goes tits to. Do not be that person. Value yourself and tell him to fuck off. You deserve better.

My mental health is just fine thanks very much. If you read your original post and all the comments you’ve replied, you will see that you’ve constantly contradicted yourself. Have a good life.

😂😂😂😂 seek therapy and step away from Reddit.

To be honest she sounds really manipulative. She’s already commenting on your appearance, sexual performance and is already talking about how all men want her etc. she’s either a pampered, spoilt bitch or she’s trying to lower your confidence so she can start controlling you. I’d say beware.

😂😂😂😂😂 I can’t even reply to this nonsense anymore. See ya around mrs Robinson.

At what point did I say ghost him? You’re delusional. I said you’re at different stages of your life, so a relationship probably wouldn’t work as he’s so young.

I’m not confusing what I’ve read.

You’re completely contradicting everything you say. First, you want to stay friends with him, then you’re talking about love etc and saying you’re very happy TOGETHER and now asking advice on how to remain friends with him. I don’t think you know whether you’re coming or going 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

She’s engaged, which means, while she’s engaged then you back off. Would you seriously want to be with someone that’s messing around behind the back of a guy she agreed to marry.

You’re already acting on it. I’m seriously beginning to wonder if this is a joke post, either that or you’re insane.

I want to kiss him and hold his hand. Your words not mine.

So why are you even posting it on here then? You’re clearly not looking for advice. You’re looking for validation that the age gap is acceptable. So just ask outright or don’t post and you whatever you’re going to do.

You’re entertaining the thought of having a relationship with a 21 year old virgin (your words). Why are you not putting a stop to it.

Your girl is being rude and disrespectful by not giving you space to have your PRIVATE therapy session. She needs to respect your right to privacy

He’s 21 and probably delighted that an ‘older woman’ is entertaining this.

You are at completely different stages in your life. Let him live his before you tie him down with marriage and a couple of kids 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Aw come on. He’s literally said if she starts something he won’t stop in. Kick his ass out and find someone decent. You deserve better. Why are you allowing him to treat you like this?

It’s been 8 years so I think it’s safe to say there’s something there and that’s the reason why he doesn’t want you both mixing with each other. If he’s not prepared to fix the situation, then end it. It’s so odd that 8 years down the line and he’s still trying to keep you separated from her. Red flags.

Oh you sound like a treasure!!!