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Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j9le1j9 wrote
Reply to comment by Igeticsu in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
>But if in ten years time I'm no closer... Yeah, then it's a problem.
What's the alternative? If you're still single in ten years, do you think adding bitterness and depression to the equation are going to help you find a partner?
I think not. I think the age-old paradoxical advice is correct... you're most likely to attract a partner when you've found happiness within yourself.
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Reply to comment by SirVanyel in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
You're absolutely right about the time scales and I think the graphic makes more sense if you factor that into the message.
Can I lose 50 lbs today? No, that expectation would bring suffering.
Can I undo that gluttonous trip to the buffet yesterday? No, that expectation would bring suffering.
Can I go for a run right now? Yes, if I have everything I need to do so.
It gets a little more interesting when you're talking about the near future...
Can I go for a run tonight? Maybe... It depends on what happens between now and then. Sometimes legitimate obstacles appear and I'll suffer unnecessarily if my expectations don't match that reality.
Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j8mncdy wrote
Reply to comment by Igeticsu in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
Is it possible that your expectations also include the idea that you "shouldn't" be single? If so, wouldn't that expectation be the source of your unhappiness?
Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j8hvqed wrote
Reply to comment by joemondo in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
I agree and I think "reality" encapsulates all of that.
Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j8hu2b7 wrote
Reply to comment by joemondo in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
Isn't "the possible" based on "where you are" now?
I think "reality" includes the next possible growth step.
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Reply to comment by woodenpony in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
Doesn't a perspective change result in New expectations?
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The best exercise is the one that you can get yourself to do regularly.
Come up with any sort of plan that sounds good. Make sure it's super easy. So easy that there's no way you can't stick to it. Then do it!
After a couple months of building this new, easy habit, add to it a little bit. Not much, just another small step in the right direction. Repeat as necessary until of you have all of the new habits that you wanted to build.
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Reply to comment by lil_tig in [Image] Remember, the small steps you take in between are where the living happens. by lil_tig
🎶 Just keep splitting, just keep splitting... 🎶
Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j461as7 wrote
Reply to [Image] Remember, the small steps you take in between are where the living happens. by lil_tig
"Do the next right thing."
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For those that want real advice on when to quit and when to persevere, check out Seth Godin's "The Dip".
Delicious_Ad_1853 t1_j9mdw30 wrote
Reply to comment by Igeticsu in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert
Who said anything about giving up goals? The meme is about expectations.
You can want to find a partner, you can try to find a partner, but if you expect to find a partner, as if the universe somehow owes it to you... well, that's setting yourself up for a lot of unhappiness.