My ability to provide for her is more than just money. I think my country provides the better child environment and my sins aside I would be able to provide her with a nice loving home

My actions certainly point that way. You’re probably right.

I can’t ever fix this situation but I can do the best I can to provide the best for my daughter. I hate that it will hurt my wife more but I don’t think she’ll have the means or the time to raise 1 let alone 2 children. She’ll just scrape by

I hate that my decision will hurt my wife more. I wish my daughters future could have included both of us but I screwed that up.

I want to give my daughter the best future and I don’t think my wife will have the means to raise 1 let alone 2 children on her own to a level more than just getting by

Everything I feel and everything I’ve done apart from that

Wife will be overseas and living with parents who will be (rightly so) hostile. Visits are out of the question.

I’m glad your situation worked out. I am sure my wife could get a stable income but it won’t ever amount to enough to do more than just get by.

I hate that taking the daughter would hurt my wife even more but in my mind I’m doing it to give my daughter the best care for the future. I wish I could involve my wife as well but I screwed up way too much for that to happen.

I understand this is a selfish decision but I mean it for the welfare of my daughter

I respect what you say and I see how it would be the most civilised thing to do.

I can’t say that the child would definitely have a better life with the mother so I can’t let go.

I’ve fked up so bad here I don’t deserve anything but I think I can provide a positive and fulfilling life for my daughter regardless.

Nobody would ever believe me but i would never make a third mistake

I agree with everything you said. The STI makes the whole thing way more humiliating.

I can’t justify my own behaviour. I’ve failed as a human being and I deserve all the hate I get

I plan on being 100% honest with anyone that I meet in the future so safe to say the chances of me dating again let alone getting married is absolutely zero

No offence taken. There are no words to describe how horrible I have been.

I honestly think that I could be a good father for my daughter still. I know that anything I say sounds ridiculous after what I did but I honestly think I could give my daughter a good life

I honestly couldn’t tell you. There were some issues when I cheated but nothing out of the ordinary. Everyone has their ups and downs.

There is absolutely nothing I could say to excuse what happened. It will be the biggest regret I have until I die

No self pity here. Self awareness. I know I fucked up

There is no more information. Wife does not deserve this.

My only justification is that I have the resources to provide a better life than my wife could, and that although I’ve failed as a husband and as a human being my love for my daughter is absolute.

My decision proves I’m selfish and is undeservedly unkind to my wife but I have nothing left.

That is what I deserve, but it is not what my daughter deserves

Clearly was not

Thank you for your measured response. The reasons I think I can give her a better upbringing are

1. I can provide for her financially. Her mother would barely scrape by.

2. Mother would also need to do shift work including night shifts, which is hard for everyone

Whilst her mother is an encyclopaedia of parenting knowledge I have been (by my own estimation) a loving father and although I would need to learn a lot, I could make up a lot of the gap. I can’t replace a mother but I can give her a lot (not just financially) and it wouldn’t be as good as if both wife and I were in the picture but I don’t think she would say it was a bad childhood or lacking in love or care

I don’t have anyone I can talk to about what I have done but I need to let it out.

I am an absolute failure of a human being and I deserve all the hate I get. I could never do anything to make this right ever

I am garbage. I deserve to die alone. I will never regret anything more than the damage I have done here.

I would do anything to take it all back but I am literally the worst human being I know