I did! I'm not proud of it.

Other way around - you're right I left these details out, didn't seem pertinent. I'll explain a bit.

Just after they started dating, I agreed to let the boyfriend move in with me. K said she would side with me if there were ever any problems.

There were problems almost immediately, he barely paid any rent for the first three months. Rather than siding with me, K allowed the boyfriend to move in with her for free.

To both of their credit, he did pay me back eventually. It just took a lot of reminding, a lot of him guilt tripping me, and 10 months.

Thanks for your thoughts! Your timeline is a little off.

First, I recommended therapy and she freaked, but we made up. A few years later, after a couple other bumps, she cuts me out specifically citing the recommendation as her #1 reason.

I did apologize and attempt to make up for the first infraction. I thought we were fine. Guess not!

Ask away, I've given a synopsis and fessed up my sins. I can clarify anything else for you.

I would like that ending to the story, but she is also terribly stubborn. Ah well.

I stand by my recommendation, but I wonder if I should have been more... aware of her personality, recognizing the very real possibility that she would react poorly.

Also, they way she sees it, she was always there for me - but the one time she asked for advice, my response was "go get therapy." I can see how she would feel slighted.

I do feel bad about my reaction to her cutting me out - it was fairly knee-jerk. I don't think there was a hope for her going anyways, not after her initial response.