Wasn't looking for a relationship but ended up with a kid? Slippery slope I see

Idk what you were doing dating a 20 year old

Do you work or are in school?

You don't have a friend you can stay with?

Do you work? Are you in school?

Well that sounds better than this situation. Don't you see what he did? He isolated you so that your only option is to stay with him. You need to leave. Unless your mother is abusive then I think it'd be wise to go back there and reevaluate things.

You move out and break up with him

What the fuck is up with a 26 year old dating an 18 year old. Goddamn some of the relationships on here I'm just like these men are walking red flags

I think you can clearly see why he doesn't get anyone his own age. The mother is not the issue. Your boyfriend is.

Honestly I think your issue stems from the first paragraph. Sex and alcohol are not the only two ways to relieve stress and it sounds like you aren't interested in examining other areas. There are many many other, more healthier, ways to relieve stress. If the only reason you're having sex with random people is to relieve stress then I'd suggest working with a therapist or simply Google different relaxation and mindfulness techniques that don't involve the needing of another human or another substance.

Not the smartest victim in history

I was looking at his direct quotes specifically!

He says you shouldn't be giving advice regarding "transformative experiences" because making those decisions yourself shapes independent morals, values, and thinking.

He says that "it is impossible to know if a friend’s life will benefit from a transformative experience – such as new job, the birth of a child, or a university course – until after the event. It is for them to find out, he says." Therefore the friend shouldn't give advice.

Kinda crazy that advising on having or not having kids is the same level of advising not to take a certain class

Eta: shapes *preferences, not morals

I'm not sure I'm buying into the severity he describes esp with his vague concepts

I think you should avoid this situation, it just doesn't sound healthy or like either of you know what you want

Oy this is a lot.

I won't dig your hole deeper even though I want to, but you're shit for reading her journal.

Anyways -

You need to know that dreams do not mean as much as people give them credit for. Sure sometimes they do symbolize and resemble real life stresses, but certainly not always. Trauma does weird things to the brain where it thinks about things even when it doesn't want to. We all have weird and possibly dark thoughts ( like over sexualisation of your abuser) that you try to deal with. She wrote it in her journal. You read it. Idk how you're gonna deal with it but you better get the fuck over it for her sake because she deserves better than this.

He sounds manipulative and abusive. Do not give him a promise ring. Leave him and don't make it a threat.