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midnight_reborn t1_j7zxlhy wrote

It's too warm. I hate this. I want my childhood winters back.

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manormortal t1_j83njf5 wrote

Going to be damn near 60 by Friday, disgusting.

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midnight_reborn t1_j83tzdu wrote

I knowwwww :(

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unadulturated t1_j8lip8b wrote

If y'all wanna get involved in avoiding climate change check out Sunrise Movement or Climate Reality Project <3. It helps with the anxiety.

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iv2892 t1_j6s38d2 wrote

I don’t want to downplay some of our problems but I can’t help but laugh when I see Miami ads about people fleeing NY because of crime and when I check Miami has almost twice the crime rate of nyc

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MajorFogTime t1_j9l818y wrote

I'm unsurprised to see some of the sub's biggest problem children apply to be moderator under the guise of correcting "unfair" treatment. Someone's always got to be a victim, eh.

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mission17 t1_j9mlmfp wrote

Please don’t appoint the user who (1) compared progressive Democrats to Nazis, (2) said that AOC was more of a danger to New York than sexism and racism, (3) describes calls for police reform as “bigotry” against police, (4) and constantly pumps the sub full of misinformation a moderator.

This sub does not need to be managed by bigots. I’m begging for some sense all around.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9oh5s1 wrote

Seems pretty easy to manipulate your way into being a mod if the largest requirement is subservience

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xoxofeebzz t1_j6tfyec wrote

I know I’m finally old because I just walk around the grocery store muttering about the prices

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manormortal t1_j8rv837 wrote

Not sure if February 16th or April 16th 😰🥵

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mission17 t1_j94gng8 wrote

Is there any moderation in this sub any more or did we collectively give up here? This place is embarrassing.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9ex5a5 wrote

Many of the most active mods were removed….

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JonAce t1_j9f721s wrote

At the risk of comment removal or banning, why?

EDIT: While a mod might try to sweep stuff under the rug, removed comments still appear on user pages.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9f7xtn wrote

One person didn’t want to take a training over the holidays and asked if they could do it later and they were removed immediately. Another person pushed back on the rules being too strict and got into an argument with the person in charge and was removed. Myself I was removed for bringing those first two mods back, and likely for pushing the top mod to work collaboratively with the rest of the team - I sent messages for weeks on modmail and didn’t hear from them until I was removed as a mod. Oh and for the record I waited for a vote before reinstating those mods and every single mod (aside from the one who demodded me) who weighed in agreed we should bring back the previously removed mods.

So maybe confusing maybe too many details but long story short? We wanted the top mod to share some of the control of the sub (redo rules, be less strict at times especially on popular content and let users have more of a say vs one user) and that was apparently worth being removed from the team over.

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JonAce t1_j9fawdr wrote

This is an unfortunate, but solid example of how reddit's mod hierarchy is fundamentally broken since it relies upon one person being able to listen to reason and not abuse their unilateral power. Modding should always be a group effort.

Thank you for sharing!

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MajorFogTime t1_j9fu8ua wrote

I can corroborate what he said. I was the mod who got removed for getting into an argument about the rules. The mod removed for not doing the mod trainings was one of the most active and long-standing mods in the community. "Lack of activity" was not a valid reason to unmod them.

Also for the record, I wanted to have an earnest discussion about changing the rules. My intent was not to cause some kind of "mutiny" or to not follow the rules. I always enforced the rules as written even if I didn't totally agree with them.

Unfortunately the way Reddit works is that the moderator with the highest seniority (i.e., been mod the longest) has supreme power. This was the entire issue we had last time with the previous head mod who was taking action without consulting anyone else.

I'm kind of over it and have no ill will towards the guy who unmodded me (which is why I've refrained from commenting on this until now) but I'm ashamed to say a comment in the volunteer thread this morning kind of triggered me and I had to reply to it. I don't like people who make judgements (and pretentious ones at that) without knowing all the details.

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TheNormalAlternative t1_j9g3p05 wrote

>I'm ashamed to say a comment in the volunteer thread this morning kind of triggered me and I had to reply to it.

Funny how "reply to it" means reply to this thread instead of to the commenter, i.e., me. I hope you realize how pedantic it is to tell someone "not to make assumptions," while also at the same time, keeping your knowledge on the matter yourself.

Anyway, now that I've seen a partial explanation, I both agree and disagree with the facts presented above. It seems petty to remove an active mod for no attending a "training" over the holidays - honestly, requiring trainings in the first place seems like a bit much.

But as a frequent and active user of this sub, I find it annoying that the moderators are trying to "relax the rules" - r/newyorkcity exists for people who don't mind the clutter that comes with a more relaxed set of rules. You say you wanted to "have a discussion" but also admit it became an "argument." Well, did any of the other mods side with your position or were you a lone wolf trying to change rules that exist for a reason? How did it change from a discussion to an argument?

At the end of the day, if you don't "like people who make judgements (and pretentious ones at that) without knowing all the details," then share the details baby.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9g98vm wrote

Mods had been asking to talk about the rules for some time to no avail FYI. I can backup what "MajorFogTime" was saying. Although I mistakenly called him Frogman for the last few months we modded together, so apparently I'm an idiot.

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MajorFogTime t1_j9g5kko wrote

I'm not sure if you noticed, but the mod(s) were removing posts that were too off topic, so yes, I posted it here. I shouldn't have replied to your comment in that thread at all but I couldn't help myself. I let my emotions get the best of me and I'm sorry for that.

As for my position, yes, a lot of people expressed agreement. You can see above and via the removed messages in the other thread that a few other people expressed that their concerns weren't being heard.

I wasn't necessarily looking for changes to go through immediately but I wanted to have a discussion about it. Something like "hey, I appreciate your input but this wouldn't work for reasons X, Y, and Z" would have been good enough for me. What I got instead was "don't challenge my authority, I know better."

At the end of the day, it's all small beans, it's just being a mod. I'll admit that I was pretty salty at first but I've gotten over it. I don't agree with the head mod but I do believe he is doing what he thinks is best for the community, the intentions are good. I just don't like when people make assumptions like you did.

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TheNormalAlternative t1_j9g8f5m wrote

Sorry for your hatred of assumptions, but us common folk only know what moderators choose to make known, directly or indirectly, including responses to modmail and post moderating choices.

I was told via modmail in summer of 2021 that the rule against photos, which were relaxed during the pandemic, would be tightened back up. That never happened. Sometimes I'm not sure if I'm on Reddit or Instagram.

Whether a news story makes it to the feed seems to depend on viewpoint more than subject matter. Posts about Alvin Bragg are not permitted, but posts about a stadium in Buffalo are.

In all due respect, my assumptions are not made in a vacuum. They are, IMO, reasonable inferences. If you want to correct a misunderstanding, by all means, but if I see a colorful bird quacking on a lake, I'm going to guess it's a duck.

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EagleFly_5 t1_j9gbfj1 wrote

Just to make sure, the temporary relaxation of rule 3 during the pandemic was reinstated in August 2021, about a year and a half ago. Once upon a time r/NYCPics was founded as a subreddit for people to share photos on, and it’s working as intended. If not, there’s a litany of other subs to share photos: 5 individual borough subreddits (r/Manhattan, r/Brooklyn, r/Queens, r/StatenIsland, r/Bronx), individual neighborhood subreddits (r/LongIslandCity, r/Astoria, r/Harlem, etc), even r/NewYorkCity (which I also help moderate) on weekends! Same applies if people want a different choice on content to consume or share, so there’s always a choice if someone wants to go to another community, or just create a new subreddit - a lot more niche/specific interests to New York City has a subreddit by now, from asking questions, to hip hop, to food, to biking/Micromobility, making friends/hanging out/events/meeting w/ people, the list goes on.

I’ll keep my opinions to myself for the time being, but to be neutral, everyone could agree the subreddit rules could use some clarification for people to understand, and more moderators as we gradually grow into a larger community.

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MajorFogTime t1_j9g9tjb wrote

I mean, you could have done your own research and look at the removed posts in that thread. You didn't. You could have asked what the situation was (before making assumptions, not after), you didn't.

You chose to spend zero time looking into it and made assumptions. Weird that you're painting me out to be the unreasonable one for being agrieved by your assumptions.

I'm done with this conversation. You can ask the other mods for further input if you want, I don't intend to waste any more of my time on this. Have a good one!

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I_AM_TARA t1_j9p9ylo wrote

Hi! I’m another recently removed mod.

Any other mod can confirm that I have been spending the past year repeatedly asking for clarification on the rules and for the sidebar rules to be updated. As mods we were told to do things that weren’t even mentioned in the mod ruleslist.

I mentioned this in a removed comment but for a long time ticktock videos straight up were not allowed (not in the rules list) and then we were given a set of guidelines where ticktock videos would be allowed- but again those guidelines are still not in the rules.

Another recent issue was one was rule 1. There’s been a shift overtime in the headmod’s stance on what constitutes a bannable insult, but these changes again were never discussed with the mods nor were they put into the rules. Common sense would dictate that rule one means not to be unacceptably rude, however the head mod now intends for rule 1 to mean no insults at all.

I got in trouble on the discord for calling someone a “dingbat”. You calling someone a “baby” is a bannable offense now.

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sneakpeekbot t1_j9g3q9d wrote

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9fb4n1 wrote

Agreed, one thing I learned is the collective mod Team absolutely should have more power than one user. That’s just silly to not have figured it out by Reddit. But it doesn’t effect their bottom line for now, so they don’t care.

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JonAce t1_j9jpcmx wrote

reddit IPO is later this year, so once the higher-ups cash out, this site's gonna fly downhill.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9jux8h wrote

Well since the time of this posting another mods been removed for seemingly no reason…..

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NetQuarterLatte t1_j9k16no wrote

That seems plausible.

IPO and section 230 could be forcing functions causing the push for "mod training".

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9k2kd7 wrote

It's really not that complicated. The person who mandated the training wanted people out who didn't listen to them and so the training became a sort of litmus test.

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CPUequalslotsofheat t1_j9yhisc wrote

Can you just start a different sub reddit? With the mods you need?

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9z9ymf wrote

Probably could but we’d be starting from scratch and that’s not really my thing. I actually never even asked to be a mod. I also think it’s possible to get things sorted out here still hopefully

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_j9g88jm wrote

FYI, another mod was just removed. Seemingly for describing the situation on the current modteam. Pretty wild we have lost at least 5 active mods in the last 2 or so months.

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I_AM_TARA t1_j9gilxn wrote

Oh it’s so much worse than that. Just got removed from the discord :(

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I_AM_TARA t1_j9fruzv wrote

Nope, mods are still active here. Feel free to shoot us a message in things about the subreddit you are unhappy about.

Edit: haha never mind. 🙃

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manormortal t1_j72evvn wrote

Now this is what one can call, Winter 😎👍

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Daddy_Macron t1_j9v145x wrote

What's the tiniest amount of power to get to someone's head? It appears to be becoming head mod of the NYC subreddit. All the fucking normie mods who were reasonable got removed at the same time.

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ThreeLittlePuigs t1_ja3wn11 wrote

Wonder what’s going to take longer, finishing the mod hunt, or publishing the crime thread vote that was supposed to be published months ago and the person putting on the poll messed up and doesn’t want to put that out there.

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iv2892 t1_j75d79o wrote

So cold , winter is back on the menu boys

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I-Sleep-At-Work t1_ja7nkpq wrote

Wow this lirr schedule change really f me over..

Either 30 too early to work or 30 minute late...

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doodle77 t1_ja7s8ei wrote

You and everyone else.

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I-Sleep-At-Work t1_ja85vbh wrote

yeah shoulda said that...

i only knew because the app sent me a notification at like ~8pm last night... and it gave me the wrong times; initially i saw only ~5 minute different, then this morning 30 minutes.

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manormortal t1_jacb0ve wrote

Finally had to shovel. You fuckers happy now? Couldn't even be the light fluffy shit.

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hibbzydingo t1_j7fwq04 wrote

Hey all, I'm moving and trying to get my mattress in the hands of someone who can use it, as it won't fit in my new place. It's about 1.5 y/o, high quality queen size mattress, including a box spring and mattress cover; it's essentially in like-new condition, considering its 8-10 lifespan w/ no issues. Does anyone know who, where, etc. I can donate this mattress? I'm also willing to sell it, but a tax deductible donation w/ pickup works better for me... however, so many places don't accept mattresses! Thank you.

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Leading-Assignment95 t1_j9ykuzs wrote

After the NYC bed bug nightmares of the past few decades I'd assume offloading a used mattress on anyone in NYC is an impossible feat.

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LampshadeThis t1_j7bpj6e wrote

No snow forecasted :(

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iv2892 t1_j7j4b41 wrote

Hopefully the 0.4 inches of last week won’t be the last snow we see this winter

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manormortal t1_j7kh80i wrote

>Hopefully the 0.4 inches of last week will be the last snow we see this winter.

Agreed 👍

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midnight_reborn t1_j7zxr3b wrote

looking at the forecast for the next week or so, I'm afraid that it will be :( But there's always March?

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TwoCats_OneMan t1_j7iu29b wrote

How'd they decide which one would be the Brooklyn Bridge and which one would be the Manhattan Bridge?

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lickstampsendit t1_j7m29r3 wrote

fun fact The span was originally called the New York and Brooklyn Bridge or the East River Bridge but was officially renamed the Brooklyn Bridge in 1915.

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bostonfan148 t1_j7j0goo wrote

If Manhattan gets 1 of the 3 casino licenses, what proposal do you think is the favorite? Hudson Yards, Times Square, or another one?

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manormortal t1_j7uil71 wrote

Y'all think papi really drove his whip from Kansas to park it in East NY? 🤔

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manormortal t1_j7zl8gi wrote

Another scorcher out there today, keep the sunscreen on deck and stay hydrated.

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derekjeter3 t1_j8sfpyv wrote

Why is the food here so much better than anywhere else

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manormortal t1_j8wssdn wrote

Ayo, bus time disrespectful af. This is the 2nd time I've seen that pos classify me as 2 passengers.

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andychsiao t1_jaanndr wrote

Looks like the snow is really picking up!

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Binokna t1_j7826rw wrote

Keep to the lower RPMs and accelerate slowly past the cameras. You’ll be fine.

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TwoCats_OneMan t1_j7dxn2y wrote

Has anyone been to the new 2nd Avenue 110th Q station? It's pretty cool.

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iv2892 t1_j7j49bw wrote

Now I want to find a reason to go and stop on that station

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stonecats t1_j7g5yzv wrote

milk prices seem to have just spiked higher.
hopefully it's temporary maybe having to
do with the deep freeze we had northeast.

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grinxxx t1_j7lwjaz wrote

Where can I take a zoom interview? I have to take it on my lunch break and I'll be on UES around 89th and 1st. Any recommendations?

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carolyn_mae t1_j8gozmo wrote

WeWork has “wellness rooms” you can book for $10 an hour. It’s private. Just need a phone to take the call.

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ms_hopeful t1_j7pciv1 wrote

Hello, very last minute but Valentine days suggestion for activities and restaurants?

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sozzZ t1_j88om10 wrote

What was the name of that club in Williamsburg that shut down a few years ago, pre-covid? It had a big rooftop and one of the rooms was called the viper room I believe. Not Verboten but something else, it was the main club at that point. Was just thinking about it today randomly and missing it.

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sourcherrysugar t1_j9lca4z wrote

Please ELI5: What exactly is a co-op?

Considering a move from the Midwest and looking for the most affordable option. I’d like to buy an affordable apartment (even a studio is fine) rather than rent simply to keep my monthly costs down, but everyone keeps telling me there’s only co-ops/to do a co-op.

I simply can’t wrap my head around the concept, no matter how much I Google. Please help and thank you in advance!

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BooksIsPower t1_j9mqss5 wrote

They’re weird! Simple version: If you own a co op you own a share in a building, and you have to follow the rules set up by your neighbors who are trying to maintain the highest value of the building for all shareholders (owners) by not allowing riskier sublettors and conditions that would require more maintenance. Negatives: have to be able to pay more cash down than condos might require and let board see your finances, may take longer to sell.

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ocdscale t1_j9p9k6e wrote

If you're familiar with HOAs, a co-op is basically an HOA for an apartment building.

Technically you don't own the unit you live in, you buy shares in the co-op which entitle you to live in the unit you live in, but there's not much of a practical difference.

The practical issues come in with respect to how you use the apartment. Co-op rules usually prohibit subletting and require getting approval before doing renovations (and also time restrictions on renovations) and approval to eventually sell your unit down the road.

Generally speaking, they aren't terrible. Unlike HOA horror stories, co-ops usually don't care about superficial stuff like how you decorate your unit. The rules are primarily there to prevent you from negatively affecting the units around you (i.e., you can't hire some fly-by-night plumber to smash a hole in the wall and install a jacuzzi that ends up flooding the unit below you).

But maybe this is stockholm syndrome talking because there's almost no alternative to co-ops in NYC.

Some units are condos where you do actually own the unit. And that generally comes with a higher purchase price, fewer restrictions, but still some use restrictions because, again, you can't do stuff that would damage the units around you.

The last alternative is buying a house but it sounds like that's not a good fit for you given that you're considering studios.

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NetQuarterLatte t1_j9vsbq2 wrote

If you buy a co-op, you would actually become a shareholder in a company that owns the building, but that shareholder ownership also gives you a permanent lease of the unit.

Co-ops require board approval for transactions, so a co-op board could just deny your purchase without giving any reason. And that opens a lot of doors for potential discrimination. The application package you submit to the board can be invasive, like resume, copies of your tax returns, letters of recommendations and such (some describe as more invasive than going to a dentist). They may even require an interview... for what's practically the right to rent a unit after paying a huge deposit.

Despite the difficulties, that may still be a financially sound strategy compared to the alternatives. If you don't plan on living there for many years, it's probably not worth it.

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Leading-Assignment95 t1_j9ykl15 wrote

While everyone else's explanations are pretty adequate at explaining what a co-op is one thing that everyone left out is the crazy maintenance fees, these tend to go up every year. I've got friends who have paid off their units but their monthly maintenance fees are more than what some people pay in rent. Every co-op board is different but they're also a lot harder to sell should you choose to move out. Some co-op boards can also make your life difficult. YMMV.

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heytonyhey t1_ja27le3 wrote

FYI maintenance fees for a coop cover the property tax, so at the end of the year you don’t owe money on that.

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Eastern-Mongoose6749 t1_ja4wl31 wrote

Hey guys! Can you please keep a lookout for a silver honda civic with jersey plates. My cousin forgot where he parked his car after partying at Quantum last night. Still couldn’t locate it 🥲

Thanks very much.

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LampshadeThis t1_jaabjua wrote

Please snow tonight

Edit: this snow has saved me from a mental breakdown :)

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iv2892 t1_jaawrj7 wrote

And it looks like it will save nyc from having the least snowiest winter season .

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iv2892 t1_jaawuuk wrote

Winter reminding us that still not over

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[deleted] t1_j7r7i6c wrote

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doodle77 t1_j7ub2ue wrote

If it's federally mandated like for anything requiring a CDL, yes. Otherwise, no.

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12somewhere t1_j7yh2nd wrote

Past by the LES recently, what’s up with all the weed shops popping up?

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Ok-Button6101 t1_j7zx60o wrote

I'm not a nyc resident but I was there around christmas and visited the library and gave them my contact info. I got a visitor library card while I was there that was good for like 2 weeks or a month or something.

Anyways, I got an email from the library asking me to donate/join the Friends of NYPL thing, and one benefit of donating is that I get a membership card. is this a library card, or is it just a card that says i'm a friend of the NYPL?

I'd be willing to pay for a permament library card if that's an option, so if this friends of nypl thing is not going to give me a library card, is there a way I could pay to get one permanently?

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Menacing_Quokka t1_j9zkijz wrote

The friends of nypl is just a donation, you can renew your card by scanning a copy of your ID and emailing it to patronaccounts@nypl.org

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Ok-Button6101 t1_ja0aetf wrote

It sounds like it's for new york state residents, which I'm not one of those, also lol. thanks anyways

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i-could-use-help t1_j8760hc wrote

I'm looking for a tax attorney!

Hello everybody. I have a messy tax situation because I was young and dumb. Now I'm trying to get my shit together, pay what I owe to the government, and turn a new leaf.

Does anyone have experience working with a tax attorney in New York City area? I'll pay what it costs. I don't need a budget option that will leave me in bad hands. That being said, I would like to know how much I should expect to spend, and if there is anything I can do to minimize the cost/billable hours. Any advice or recommendation is appreciated. Thank you.

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003aa3 t1_j8a0pqb wrote

How can I find a job QQ

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Notcosteffective t1_j8obvio wrote

Why do y’all allow neo nazis to roam free? Seems like a real bitch move for a city full of ppl who think they’re hard af.

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mdbellott t1_j8t0ptg wrote

Anyone else’s eyes burning / nose running / have a headache after going outside today? The heavy haze today sure seems like it could be from Ohio

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maydaydemise t1_j8taqki wrote

There's no heavy haze in Ohio itself and the air quality in East Palestine was only a concern on February 8th, the day of the controlled burn of the spilled chemicals.

Since then the air in East Palestine has been tested frequently doesn't appear to be a concern.

So no, it's probably not related to any air quality concerns in NYC. We have high AQI days pretty often, mostly from high levels of vehicle traffic. Also I went on a walk earlier and the air seemed fine anyways.

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Ko5taki t1_j8u3fow wrote

What are some of the reasons you have used 311 or 211? As an upcoming social worker I am genuinely curious/intrigued

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Zayinked t1_j9893mm wrote

To report my neighbor’s backyard breeding :(

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jordansideas t1_j9cx6et wrote

if theres someone who's homeless in your neighborhood in need of assistance that's the proper channel to get them help. my buddy used to work for homeless outreach for the city and said thats really the only thing you can do to help.

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markiv199 t1_j8z9nb9 wrote

Does anyone know why Gen KBBQ House in Union Square is shut down?

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Effective-Pilot-5501 t1_j9qzar2 wrote

Hi all, I’m a 30M who will be visiting NYC in April or May. Do you have any recommendations for neighborhood I could stay at? I would like something with a ton of unpretentious bars and restaurants. Oh and mom and pop coffee shops to work from during the day. I don’t like the glassy, fancy restaurants or bars, I’m more of an arcade bar, boardgames bar, brewery kind of guy. It’ll be my first time in NYC btw and I’d also like to stay somewhere close to young single people if possible. Thanks in advance

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brook1yn t1_ja5g9wr wrote

Why didn't they try reviving the prospect park alligator with Gatorade?

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guccigenshin t1_jacxl47 wrote

I have a friend who wants to do karaoke with a big group but doesn't want to deal with the hassle of a shared check for all of the food and drinks (which is the only way ive ever done it welp) does anyone have any recommendations? ive heard some places let you bring your own food/deliveries but not sure if there's also a way to have separate bar tabs without ppl having to leave the room every 5 seconds. If there's nothing, then does anyone have a good public karaoke place to recommend ? I'm thinking boho karaoke but not sure if there's better options (TYIA!)

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mikey-likes_it t1_j8xbicl wrote

Looking to move back to NYC from Chicago. My lease here ends in august. I'm looking at spots on zillow, craigslist, and streeteasy and I do see apartments that allow pets in my price range of ~$2300.

I wonder if there still will be apartments in that price range around summer?

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