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arlondiluthel t1_j9z1l7f wrote

Not an f-up.

You caught a potential problem when there's still time to make changes to mitigate it. You should thank him for the heads-up!

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UnadvertisedAndroid t1_j9zbllp wrote

I don't know what "haute cuisine" is, but it sounds like it's pretentious solely for the sake of being pretentious, which is a super-niche kind of thing. Forcing that on a bunch of people who took time out of their schedules to share your day with you, especially if you're also making them travel to do it, means you should really consider offering them real food, and at least 2 options that cover the majority of potential tastes. I hope OP was only being dramatic with "2 ravioli on a leaf of lettuce", but even if that is dramatic it still sounds like the reality of that food is to make a statement, not fill a hungry belly. Weddings are not the place for that.

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ESGPandepic t1_j9zd4ba wrote

>it sounds like it's pretentious solely for the sake of being pretentious

Turns out you do know what it means =)

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Dylsnick t1_j9ztl0c wrote

Your grasp of French is formidable. That's exactly what "Haute Cuisine" means.

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BysshePls t1_j9zz4mf wrote

Me running to Google and that is basically exactly what it means 😂

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melli_milli t1_ja09rsp wrote

FIL had a hunch of her daughter's choise of food and wanted to say something without being pushy. There was no f up here, this is a saver.

It really is a f up to not serve people food that makes them feel full in a whole day of partying. It is not fancy if people are getting grumpy and dizzy for not eating properly on your special day.

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arlondiluthel t1_ja0h8ht wrote

Agreed. I love what my wife picked for the catering for our wedding (a pizza food truck!)

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melli_milli t1_ja0i3t3 wrote

I think if someone had very light diet and are small overall it can be hard to realize how bad it can be for a big man or anyone who needs actual energy from food to deal with the whole day of party time. Imagine having busy week, not enough time to cook and eat properly, maybe some physical work included. Then you take the drive to a party and what you most of all want is to enjoy good food that you recognise what it is.

I am not diabetic but if my blood sugar drops it gets bad. The day should be all about celebration and happiness. Fancy food seems more like a image thing than keeping people energized and happy.

If they won't have enough energy to drive back home after party that is the only thing they will remember. Eating burger on gas station risking getting stains in the fancy clothes.

I cannot understand why OP feels like she fd up.

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grubas t1_ja1w07j wrote

You need enough to feed people, enough that nobody is hungry, and enough to soak up the copious amounts of booze being consumed. Too much and you run the risk of food coma-ing the party.

One of my cousins went all out on food, tons of stations, lots of rich food, and nobody could get up to dance, and the drinking was subdued to hell, spent 3 hours in my bed clutching my gut and my wife was hoping she'd just throw up. Next day reporting from all sources was heartburn, indigestion, etc..

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melli_milli t1_ja20tzc wrote

Haha is there no self-control in your family ':) Then again I also get this weird "eat as much as you can" with buffés.

Good point about alcohol, if they serve some the lettuce wont help.

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BlazingHadouken t1_ja1p75w wrote

One of the best weddings I've been to was a 15 minute ceremony, toonie bar (so booze was stupid cheap but not quite free), and initially served a comfortable amount of catering for dinner—it was definitely enough to feel like you had a proper meal, but a hair on the light side. Then about four hours into the reception, just an absolute shitload of delivery pizza shows up. Everyone still at the reception was at least a little greased by this point, needed to eat again, and was not in a place to have another proper sit-down meal. It was absolutely perfect, like manna from heaven. I highly implore anyone fretting over food at a wedding to adopt this approach.

The best weddings I've been to followed the same game plan: 20 minute vaguely-Catholic ceremony, later got the marriage blessed by the church so nobody had to sit through an actual Catholic wedding, open bar, single round of appropriately-filling catering with an extensive dessert buffet (same side of the family, and we have a savage hereditary sweet tooth).

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Leovaderx t1_ja0lc85 wrote

Also, you can do fancy and filling together. Just do light situp finger food as a greeting, sitdown 50 bite sized fancy courses, then some family style lasagna for the hungry ones.

Everyone is happy..

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