Lol she’s done w you bro

Pretty sure she's your ex at this point. I hope I'm wrong though.

Yeah, you misspelled ex-gf.

You are absolutely the asshole here.. not only did you basically tell her she wasn't a "beautiful" girl, but you said it in front of a group of people. I wouldn't bet on her being ok with this anytime soon, or if ever. I understand you were intoxicated but that's no excuse. She will never believe you if you tell her you think she's is beautiful again... Sorry, but you absolutely fucked up in a major way. It's going to take a lot more than I'm sorry or a thing of flowers to make this better..

Yeah you blew it bro lol

Claiming to have your drink spiked is the excuse of a teenage girl

I think you and alcohol need a break from each other too.

And stop rating girls from 1 to 10, it's weird and creepy.

“Hopefully she’s going to calm down soon..” wow, lol really?! You can manage the situation by leaving her alone.

If you really think your drink got spiked, go to the hospital and tell them and get a tox screen / drug panel whatever done. If something shows up, you can actually use your otherwise very hard to believe story.

Otherwise, you just got drunk and showed your true colors.

Best of luck and I hope you can reflect instead of being defensive as might be one's immediate reaction to the onslaught of negative, yet honest and accurate, comments here — all of which essentially boil down to "you're an asshole."

But remember, people aren't words. You're not an asshole. You just acted like one and perhaps continue to act in an assholian manner. People change. I would look at this as an opportunity to audit yourself, what you want, who you want to be, and how to become the good person you otherwise think — perhaps incorrectly — that you are today.

Logarithmic scale is too complicated tho

Until your drink is spiked

Ooh yes: do this. Get that tox screen. You might could save the relationship with verified proof that you were not in your right mind

This a hundred times over.

You humiliated her, in front of people within your circle, which makes it entirely worse.. almost unforgivable.

You totally fucked up.

The reason I think my drink got spiked is that I haven't touched alcohol since 1st year of uni. I only ever drink water or whatever else non-alcoholic options are available.

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And yes. I'm well aware I was a right ass last night. The thing is I have no idea how the hell I'm going to apologise as she doesn't even want to talk to me. I also have no idea how the F I'm going to explain the problem I have as that part is actually true. Lying to her at this point to make her feel better feels scummy but then... Been thinking about this for the last few hours and I'm not getting anywhere.

'Soon' as in at the very least a few days. Haven't tried contacting her since the morning and trying to figure out how the fuck I'm going to salvage anything out of our (quite probably finished) relationship.

Yeah, I'm well aware of this. Posted this here partly because I'm sitting here with the knowledge that I've probably wrecked this relationship and quite possibly any chance of finding another person I can relate to for the next... Century or so?

Yeah. Probably...

I don't normally. It was to give people an idea of what she looks like without going into creepy detail.

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And I haven't drunk alcohol (knowingly) for the last 12 years.

I'm 'claiming' this because I stopped drinking after 1st year of uni which was 12 years ago (enrolled late due to military service).

I'm thinking this the most likely outcome as she is not a saint. Yes. But I'm also hoping she will give me the chance to at least apologise.

Get a tox-screen to lend your excuse credibility and then you'll have to lie and tell her you were out of your mind. Sticking to the truth will only work if your girlfriend is enlightened to the point of recognising that conventional attractiveness is much less prevalent and important than society would like you to believe. But the want for ones partner to consider one beautiful probably runs deeper than societal indoctrination so even then it'll be an uphill battle.

What I'm trying to say is you either have to lie to her and everyone that was there that evening and continue that relationship based on lies. Or you stick to the truth hope for an incredible amount of forgiveness and make sure to never let that information out in your next relationship.

You’ll just have to reverse course and lie to her that she’s actually super hot. Girls need that kind of reassurance, don’t try to fight the natural order of things.

All these comments belong in r/aita, this is a different sub guys. Dude knows he’s an asshole, your job isn’t to pass judgement, just laugh at his idiocy

Damn,you sober up and you still say she's a 6? You done fucked up real good.

I seriously doubt your drink got spiked, you're just a light weight

Maybe as a man I don't understand this shit but if someone told me I was a 6 I would be happy. 6 is not bad? I would rather someone was with me because I was kind and funny not because I was attractive. I think women just confuse me too much :|

Hey, we all make mistakes.. just make sure you learn from it and do better next time ❤️

No one should have to be a saint to put up with their partner. That’s abuse.

I appreciate what you did was a one off, but you called her unattractive in front of alllll your friends. I don’t see how her self esteem can come back from that, unless she’s from an abusive background where she’s been taught to swallow her own feelings for others’ comfort.

Time to either get into therapy, or take this stuff about mean girls to your grave. Preferably both.

Just so you know for the future, a number rating on anyone's looks automatically makes it a creepy detail.

Hang on - hold the press - this is extremely relevant!!

You’re a non drinker and your ‘friends’ had no issue, problem or concern about you stumbling around drunk, making speeches and doing stand up that wrecked your relationship?? If (whilst regaling you with stories of your exploits), no one mentioned how out of character it was for you, or that they tried getting you to sleep it off, I think you just found out who spiked you. Sorry dude.

ETA: Get that tox screen and press charges on whoever spiked you, even if it was just with alcohol.

If you get a chance to apologise you have to stick with honesty now. You've said it and it's done. Focus on the positives. There is a reason/s you are/was with her. Focus on that.

At the very least maybe the break up will be less of a sting. At best maybe she sees that there is still something that can be worked on.

Ultimately though, you fucked up. If you get another chance take it but show her some respect on what she decides to do from here.

You done fucked up bro, she's gone

Oh, BS. Reality is what reality is. What you're saying here is snowflake nonsense, and you have no right to try to set yourself up as some sort of arbiter, claiming to speak for everyone.

Men are pigs. Deal with it.

Stop chasing after her, stop apologizing, and just ignore her. She'll either come back, or you'll get a new GF. There are many, many fish in the sea.

You done messed up A-aron.

Bro repeated what he said last night🤣🤣🤣

Oof.. I’d say that’s probably that man. Think about it, how can she have sex with you now without thinking she’s unattractive? Looks like you’re the dude her next boyfriend is going to curse for giving her a complex and not being able to see how beautiful she really is. Sorry dude, take the L and maybe try better yourself and at least learn something from this.

Were you intentionally drinking alcohol and you think they spiked your drink or was it a non-alcoholic drink and you acted like that after?

You drank too much and fucked up your relationship... classic

Man really pulled the military card

U f ed up. Multiple times.

First. If u have trauma from high school drama queen hotties, go get help. It might not cure the little bastard between your legs, but it will help with coming to terms with it so u 1 have a language about your inner feeling to express to future SOs and 2 could help you getting past it so it doest pop up and becomes an issue in suddenly, like at a party where u are way to drunk or doped. And having such a language for whats happening inside of you means you can talk to SO befre shit like this happens so she would be more understanding IF it pops its ugly head up.

Second. You picked some bad friends, if u think there is a chance they spiked your drink. Where ever u stand on drugs (banned or regulated or compleatly legal) any1 should have the right to deside what goes into their own bodies- spiking ppls drinks is an offence that takes away ppls bodily autority. I dont do drugs anymore, it makes me realy sick. I would lose my shit if any of my friends snuk drugs into me. They can be as doped as they want, but im not gonna let even a microgram into me, as it makes me seriois psykotic. My body, my rules. And I wouldnt consider them friends if they had so little respekt for me as to let me keep my head and mental health away from drugs like spiking my drink.

Third. Bad joke. Ofcourse your (x)gf got mad. I would too. Its basicly a dis of her. But if u had dealt with first and second fuck up before there would be a fair chance she would calm down. Not dealing with thise issues, i say its a 50-50 for u to break up or get past it.

What if you use numbers for yourself primarily ?

Honestly, don't try to. Give her one apology and let it go, otherwise you'll act desperate and only make things worse.

Don't get it up the next few times you get it on with her

She's a non-saint 6 bro let it go HAHA

Yeah you done messed up dude. Learn from this mistake in your next relationship

You mean doormat? No reason a "saint" should stick around after that either.

I get you were drunk. That doesnt actually excuse shit though. It is only made slightly less bad bc it doesnt look like you drank on purpose. You still said what you said though. Doesnt make it less hurtful.

she is not a saint?? why are you finding a way to blame her for being upset about the awful things you said to her? It's ur own damn fault that she is upset, not because she's not a "saint".

it's just not a nice thing to say to someone in front of a Crowd of People. What is a compliment to one person is an insult to another, but a majority of people (regardless of gender) will tell you that unless the person asked Directly how pretty they are on a scale of 1 to 10, any pretty rating is usually not welcome.

Additionally, its the way he said it to people. If they were talking privately and he said that (again, if she asked for his opinion), that might be more justifiable. In the real situation, he was drunk and said that he rejects Very Pretty girls and that his current girlfriend is Not a Very Pretty Girl, so it's okay for them to date. It's pretty rude, especially in front of a bunch of people.

Sorry I get it. He is still an ass no matter what haha

When did 6, or above average, become an insult?

Agree. Agree. Agree. Wait nope not that

That’s fucking horrendous, brother, and there’s likely no recovery. I really hope she dumps you only because no one should settle for someone who is barely attracted to them.

Here you are perfectly sober, calling her a 6/10. Holy Christ, my guy, I can only imagine the things you said whilst your drink was allegedly spiked. Which it probably wasn’t since it sounds like you just got drunk.

Also, blaming your ED on “bitch queens”? Odd misogyny just inserted in there for no reason.

Mate you screwed up with your girlfriend. Sorry about that, but please get therapy. You should be able to get it up no matter what the lady looks like. Those 'bitch queens' did a real number on you. Your outburst may have been a subconscious cry for help.

Lol clever

6 is insulting because it would mean you just barely pass the threshold of being attractive. Nearly everyone can do better than a partner who considers them a “6”. Even if you’re not conventionally attractive, there is probably people out there who think you’re hot.

Lying is never the answer

bro 💀💀 if even completely sober you're saying the same thing about her then a possible spiked drink has nothing to do with it

to be honest there's nothing to save here, you made a speech in a room full of your friends and hers saying that she's not pretty, how would you react if she did the same thing ? that's some pretty bad public humiliation

as for the bad experiences with the "bitch queens" mate, go to therapy, that would maybe stop you from being an ass with other of your future girlfriends

and I must add : on top of the humiliation she must feel really betrayed now, cause I'm sure you told her that she's pretty, gorgeous, beautiful yada yada, and she just found out that it was all a lie, that you never found her particularly pretty cause you just can't get it up if that's someone you find pretty, I'd feel heavily betrayed too if it was me ngl

guess you're single dude.

It sure can be

Yeah especially in front of family and friends because after that stunt the judgement will ever end. Dude fucked up, no doubt about that, but I was unaware noone else on reddit has ever fucked up.

Edit: But even by the title homie is trying to down play it. When I clicked it I figured he said something dumb in bed or whatever. Naw, he chose the scorched earth option.

Also my physical attraction to a person changes the more I get to know them so a stranger 6 is much different from a long term relationship 6. My own husband has made me feel like a 10 our whole relationship, even when I myself didn't care for what I saw in the mirror after multiple pregnancies and thyroid issues. Clearly OP doesn't have Love Lenses or Beer Goggles.

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If they ain't butt ugly i ain't boinking.

You basically told her you weren’t attracted to her and used her for sex. That alone was enough for her to run and never look back. But you also said it in front of a lot of people. Which I’m sure was totally humiliating for her. I just don’t see how she could ever come back to you and go on like nothing happened. Even if she forgives you, she will never be able to forget. I just don’t see her coming back.

Yeah, the thing you don't remember is how she stood up after you and talked at great length about how her exes were so much hotter than you you and how she's selling for your POS ass because while the sex isn't exciting, she still gets her rocks off and that'll do, she supposes.

Remember yet?

No?

Feel a bit shit about it anyway?

Now imagine how she feels. And yet you're here, thinking you might somehow recover the situation? Wtf?

And for the sake of clarity, she didn't enact such a performance, so don't claim me saying this somehow justifies anything.

You should go and listen to Fidlar - Bad Habits...

Yeah fr I agreed with everything except the last part 😂

-says I'm claiming to speak for everyone-

-then calls men pigs-

Ah, I see we have an idiot here.

I think he meant it as in only a saint would find it in them to forgive him

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I don’t see that as misogyny. Poor wording perhaps, but especially in highschool a lot of girls (who are not yet women) act really horribly. I have trust issues in no small part because of people like this. There are a lot of really horrible people out there and that is just a truth. I would not use the type of language as “bitch queens”, just sounds weird and immature, but I definitely know what he means….

… This just made it so much worse, dude.