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You can't afford the trip and made the call not to go. There really isn't anything to talk to him about. I know you feel disappointed, but you had to make the decision based on lack of funds. You don't expect them to all cancel the trip because of that, do you?

Also, he should not feel obligated to pay your way. So there is nothing to say about that either.

Wish him off, tell him to have a great time, let him know you will miss him and wish you could be there, too. Spend the time doing some things you'd like to do just for you, visiting other friends, etc.

Whichever side is trying to force you to do what they want you to do is in the wrong. That is controlling and you should stand up against that.

You will definitely have better relationships going forward. If you are upset by your behavior, apologize to her and let her know this situation made you look closely at yourself and recognize you need to change a few things. At the same time, you could also tell her that you didn't like what she did and you want to be in a relationship with someone who respects her partner and doesn't do things that look so questionable.

You two are young and in university, so both have a lot to learn about relationships. However, you are not all to blame here.

If you are in a committed relationship, you do not go to another room with another guy, lock the door, and not answer it when your bf comes looking for you. This is inappropriate.

Yes, you overreacted by getting angry and banging on the door, etc. But you are not wrong for being upset that she was in the bedroom with him. She should have explained the situation to you first, so you were okay with it. Or agreed to text to him the next day about whatever was so important.

When you are a couple, you should always consider your partner. She did not do that. You overreacted in response.

Comforting your sister is not being too close. There are not enough details here to come to any conclusion.

Stop asking. She said she doesn't want to speak English with you. Since the two of you can communicate in Japanese, is there a problem with not using English?

I think this depends on your age and the seriouness of your relationship. If you are young, still live at home, etc, then I can see prioritizing your mom's birthday.

But as you get older and enter into serious, committed relationships, then that will usually take priority. In that case, I would go on the trip and see your mom on the evening of Jan 1 or even the next day.

Your posting history shows this is an issue you are fixated on. Perhaps just spam and not authentic.

If you really don't want to wear the shirt, being honest with him is the way to go. Thank him for the gift and let him know how much you appreciate his thoughtfulness. Then tell him the shirt isn't your style and you'd like to exchange it for something you would be able to wear more often. He can choose to be hurt or he can be a grown-up about it. It's just a shirt.

I mean, you had an agreement. It was a stupid agreement, because now you do not like the name he picked. At this point I think you can just ask him to reconsider that name, but if he insists then a nickname is a good way to handle it. Or tell him you are not honoring your agreement and the two of you will need to come up with a name you both like. He might be very upset by that.

It's just a FWB situation and he is putting in no effort. I think you should expect more for yourself and stop seeing him.

Well that sounds very reasonable. Have faith in your husband. I'd stay aware of what she is doing, but otherwise realize that when she doesn't get the attention she is seeking, it will pass.

They sound like they are about 15 years old. Maybe distance is the best thing in your friendship.

Say something like, "If you want me to be there, let me know and I will be there. If not, I'll see you when we both get to work. Either way you have my full support."

Did she say anything or just send the photo? Could she have mistakenly sent it to the wrong person? How did you husband reply?