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Maximilian_Xavier t1_ja9q228 wrote

I think you are asking all the wrong questions.

I worked in banking for 20+ years. Comparing yourself to others is pointless. Your lifestyle will vary and almost everyone lies when it comes to finances. People never tell you their entire financial picture.

I have seen single moms on 35k a year own their own home. I have seen no kids two income couples barely survive on 150k.

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yachtmusic t1_jaa50f2 wrote

I agree these are the wrong questions. I think the right question is: if you purchased your first home in the past two years what was your path to home ownership?

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SweetMojaveRain t1_jabl7ue wrote

>“I have seen single moms on 35k a year own their own home.”

In 1967 maybe.

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theOGlib t1_ja9y6ye wrote

This is the answer. It's not so much about what ur income is, rather how u manage ur income.

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Forward-Ant-4433 t1_jab93d4 wrote

Banker where can I find a bag o cash 💰 I’m holding on by the skin of my teeth

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blueturtle00 t1_ja9sne9 wrote

Damn when I was a kid my parents made me pay my own car insurance ha I’m sure I’ll end up doing the same to my kid

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blueturtle00 t1_jacat10 wrote

True, I also had shit boxes as a kid. $1000 Civic $500 ford probe that kind of stuff ha

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Frankie_Wilde t1_ja9y7g6 wrote

My 260k house that I bought 3 years ago is estimated to be worth 330 now. I know the market will correct but that is insane.

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omild t1_jaca7f9 wrote

Kind of a similar situation as me. Two incomes, bought a house 12 years ago for 225k. We’ve put in about 40k worth of improvements. House is now worth about 350 with the recent increases in value which we find pretty shocking as it isn’t the biggest. We now have two little kids and had planned to move in summer 2020 to a bigger place but with the pandemic we got stuck here. Thankfully our place had been paid off since 2018 and the idea of having a huge mortgage is a major turn off so we are waiting to see how things play out over the next few years.

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usernameattempt10 t1_ja9l8xh wrote

The wife and I have a combined income of $150k. And we just bought a house in Litchfield County that was $260k

Both cars paid off and kids grown and out of the house.

Could have went higher but wanted a cushion in case of emergency

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thehopefulsquid t1_jacobna wrote

There are 260k houses here? Does it need a lot of work?

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usernameattempt10 t1_jadgssy wrote

The house was built in 1900 and while not perfect (general changes to suit our taste) it was not in need of repairs. Roof is good, newer kitchen appliances and they had even updated the heating from oil to a newer gas setup

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goldenhourbaby t1_ja9a6ro wrote

The answers to this will vary a lot. I’m not speaking as a homeowner (sadly) but everyone I know who owns a house in CT had at least two of these things working in their favor:

*dual income with a partner

*no student loan debt

*decades in the workforce

*financial help from family/parents

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Bla_Bla_Blanket t1_ja9bf3s wrote

No I don’t think that is the case. My husband and I both come from a poor background. We worked and saved for our house. He still has some student loan debt that we’re working on paying off and definitely no financial help from anyone.

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goldenhourbaby t1_ja9bpqa wrote

That’s so good to hear 💖 my sample size is just people I know, all of whom seem to be starting with a major leg up. I’m so glad that home ownership has been a possibility for you— fingers crossed I can get there too!

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Zootallurs t1_ja9ygq9 wrote

Partner was stay-at-home when we bought. Was paying off $100k+ in student loans. Not a penny from family. Did have decades working, though. It was really tight for several years until my wife went back to work FT. It wasn’t the housing costs, it was childcare when she was PT.

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LizzieBordensPetRock t1_jaac1id wrote

We bought in 2008. We had two incomes but not great ones, and were also paying to keep an apartment in upstate NY for husbands job. We got a fixer upper. Both of us had plenty of student loans. I was 26, he was 31, so not nearly decades. No financial aid from family, but they did contribute skills towards fixing it up.

We did the small old house that needed work in a good neighborhood. Been here 15 years and plan on staying.

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Ambitious_Relation92 t1_jaajjw1 wrote

I own a condo. I have a single income, and am a single parent . No child support and no financial help from family/friends. Just my income.

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silasmoeckel t1_ja9jjmo wrote

My niece bought at the start of covid. 250k home on a single income, just staring out in her career, with student loan debt, and would not take help from any of us.

I just helped an older relative buy a home last year, 3% down for a widower, no debt, retired on a fixed income, and would not take any financial help. She is living rent free and making a decent bit on the property while not having to do any regular maintenance (shoveling mowing and the like) by adding an ADU for her to live and renting the remainder.

It's definitely doable it just takes a plan and working towards it vs expecting immediate gratification.

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keptalpaca22 t1_ja9jq88 wrote

My (31m) wife (32f) and I have a combined annual income of about $250k and just bought a 4-bed home in northern Fairfield county for $548k with $75k down. Our mortgage/insurance/taxes comes to about $3500/mo. While it feels like a lot, and it is, we were just throwing money away renting and we are feeling lucky to have gotten the house we did. Once we have kids we'll really have to tighten up the budget. The system feels broken. I'm not an economist but the bigger housing picture feels unsustainable to me.

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spitlead t1_jaaharf wrote

>broken

Yeah, your intuition is correct. In my town which is NOT a well known big money zip code, there are no houses on the market. 2 years ago every single street had signs, now there are almost none. The one house a block over from me sold for 485k and was listed for like 24 hours before it sold, it was a new construction in 2016 for 275k... Nobody is selling because they are locked into good rates, selling now means you are looking to go bigger in many cases and the bigger means a new mortgage with a shitty interest rate on houses that are insanely priced. The whole market is priced out, i think hartford courant ran article that there are only like 330 houses in the whole state that are less than 300k. It seems like there are more than 330 people/families that are looking for their first house....but there is no new inventory getting built.

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TreeEleben t1_jaasi4u wrote

New construction is usually 4k sq/ft or larger single family homes on multiple acre lots, or apartments, usually high end apartments. New homes are being built, but they're not starter homes.

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Jimalo69 t1_ja9tzak wrote

$548k? That sounds reasonable, altho a lot of Money down. What do i know tho

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Zootallurs t1_ja9zkyw wrote

That’s only ~14% down. They’re probably paying PMI for a few years.

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keptalpaca22 t1_jaa39ht wrote

Yes we are. We reached a point as renters that we could've paid off nearly half a house already over the last decade. We bit the bullet in order to build ourselves equity

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thebatfan5194 t1_jaag401 wrote

Good decision! It is obscene when you realize how much money you are throwing away as a renter.

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Uncle_Tony96 t1_jaafj4r wrote

Just out of curiosity, mind if I ask what you do for a living? You don’t have to be too specific, just general line of work

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keptalpaca22 t1_jaafsw5 wrote

My wife works in Healthcare tech.

I am the director of a nonprofit and teach classes at the local university. I work a lot but am fortunate to love what I do.

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Uncle_Tony96 t1_jaagv7w wrote

Ah ok great. I’m in a healthcare field also. Respect to you both

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Mofiremofire t1_ja9led3 wrote

5 bedroom, 3700 sf on 2 acres in Woodbridge mortgage is ~$3400/mo

Have more property in MA and VT

Married with 2 kids

Household income $400k+

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johnsonutah t1_jaajfue wrote

Does your mortgage include property taxes?

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Mofiremofire t1_jaajjf4 wrote

Yes.

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johnsonutah t1_jae448b wrote

Thanks - I figured that as $3400/mo seemed heavy for just a mortgage payment in Woodbridge

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Mofiremofire t1_jae4qxg wrote

Yea that’s mortgage, taxes, insurance. We’re definitely living well within our means. We both drive cars that are 8-10 years old and are paid off. We’re at like 10% gross income for mortgage.

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chickennugar OP t1_ja9xaud wrote

damn, what field do you/your spouse work in?

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Mofiremofire t1_ja9yhc6 wrote

Medicine. Gotta love that I’m being downvoted for answering your questions.

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Remarkable_Option660 t1_jaa13hg wrote

I got you. Upvoted. People downvotes for literally no reason

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Mofiremofire t1_jaa1qw7 wrote

It’s whatever. I don’t need fake internet points for validation. I just find it interesting that I can post the most generic, non opinionated answer I could and yet people find the need to downvote it. I know I often play devils advocate or share controversial opinions which get downvotes but this was as vanilla of a post as I can possibly make.

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dignifiedgoat t1_jaaxj5d wrote

This sub has had at least one downvote troll lately who comes in and downvotes literally everyone. What a sad and pointless way to spend one’s time lol can’t relate

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Remarkable_Option660 t1_jaa2qh8 wrote

Ik, I don't read into it because I'm usually in the right when I say things and I know it. Even if it sounds self centered, there's no way to sugar coat it. You are probably are in the same boat as me

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AlmeidaMoney t1_jab1bw6 wrote

Haters gonna hate lol.. it’s Reddit .. don’t ever take anything in here personally

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Mofiremofire t1_jab44hb wrote

I don't. I've been on here a decade and i think it's gotten worse. if they go public ill finally have a reason to get off the last social media platform im on.

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cncamusic t1_jaaehoc wrote

People downvote because they’re broke lol

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Mofiremofire t1_jaajg79 wrote

Well they’re more than welcome to commit a decade of their lives to medical school and residency and fellowship to obtain the same level of education as my wife so they can also make that much money.

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Heavy_Jeffrey t1_jac7954 wrote

Unreasonable. We’re gonna need a no cost fast pass. 6mo. program, tops.

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Mofiremofire t1_jacayxi wrote

I mean… if you’re comfortable with a surgeon cutting off your leg with only 6 months of training uhhh, good luck?

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TheK0ntrarian t1_ja9a3xu wrote

Honestly. You can can't own a house in this state and earn less than 70k

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sociopathicsquatch t1_ja9cob7 wrote

I own a home on a salary of 63K. It is possible, but it can be very stressful at times. I have 2 children and a wife who is a stay at home. I got quite lucky securing a USDA loan.

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IndicationOver t1_ja9p7dp wrote

At times? I can't grasp how it is not all the time, you must budget really well.

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sociopathicsquatch t1_ja9ygcn wrote

It is hard more often that not, but it's worth the budgeting to have a secure place for my family.

To answer other questions, it's a ~1700 Sq FT house in Tolland. I paid 135K for it, 0 down, no PMI.

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TheAnt06 t1_ja9dxf9 wrote

I own a condo at a salary of 55k. And it's just me. It's doable, but it's stressful sometimes. Just grateful I got a very, very significant raise.

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AmandaRL514 t1_ja9n88a wrote

70k here, single/divorced (one income) with a somewhat modest mortgage payment but still drowning due to the costs of everything else. I do not live extravagantly and still sometimes have to scrape up coins for gas to get to work. It's exhausting.

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Sweet3DIrish t1_ja9zc5n wrote

I earn about $62k before taxes and own a 3 bed, 1.5 bath Cape Cod and still am able to afford everything (including a car payment, usual utilities, and insurance for everything including two cars) and put away about 8% a month into retirement/savings.

I was lucky and got my house about 6 years ago before the market went crazy.

I probably wouldn’t be able to afford my house now in the current market (the value of my house has increased about 40ish% in the last 2.5 years) but it is possible to own below 70k.

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Jaymez82 t1_jaa8nhk wrote

Bullshit. Had no problem paying my mortgage with a salary under $40k.

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Synapse82 t1_jaa3boo wrote

I bought a house for 220k when I was making 55k. Single income, single dude. You can do it, it was tight with the oil bill and electric. But you’ll always make more money if you are buying a house. Since you are looking towards your future.

I’ve tripled my income in the past couple years, each year gets easier.

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Fhatal t1_jaa3xpx wrote

Bought last year (2022), dual income no kids wife and I cleared 140k last year, on the way to 175k. This is coming from having a 12 dollar an hour job back in 2017.

Taxes are fine here. People complain but go to Long Island and see what their crazy taxes get. We get a lot here.

Bought with 5% down on a 345k house. 5 bedroom 3 full bath. 2200 sqft. Lower Hartford County, halfway between my work and wife’s work. Little less than 2800 a month all said and done.

Edit: forgot to mention a lot of student loan debt from wife and myself. Plus CC debt and two cars yet to be paid off. We are house poor lmao. Lucky we don’t like doing anything. 2030 we will be filthy rich though. Lol

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oneormore5 t1_jaag038 wrote

Have two incomes. Learn to live on one. Save lots. Live below your means. This is the way. It works. It takes time, trust the process

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darthscandelous t1_jac1x2a wrote

💯 when buying a house, base it off of 1 income. That way, anyone gets laid off you’re protected & you’ll be giving yourself a financial cushion.

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100_percenter t1_ja9gel0 wrote

The 28/36 rule basically applies to everyone, everywhere. Housing should be no more than 28% of your monthly income, and total debt should be no more than 36%.

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urbanevol t1_ja9ug1y wrote

I think this rule starts to break down a bit in 1) very high cost of living areas, and 2) people with high incomes. Spending 40% of your income on housing is not that big of a deal if you still have $10K+ after paying your housing costs. I'm not trying to be argumentative...Fairfield Co. is going to be a lot different than many other parts of the state.

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lives4summits t1_ja9uyrx wrote

I don’t get paid hourly. I own a raised ranch in Colchester and have a household income of $148,000.

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Jelopuddinpop t1_jaaluf7 wrote

Wife and I are a unique case. We both graduated college with MBAs (community College for 2 years, Uconn for 2 years, different grad schools), and we both came out of school with student loans. We lived like absolute hobos out of college and payed down debt as fast as we could. Like...

rice and beans

driving uber at night

prepaid phones

library card for when we needed to get on the internet

no streaming services

no cable

kept the temp at 50 in the winter and no AC in the summer

Drove 1 car and carpooled

Etc etc etc...

Bottom line, we paid off $130k in student loans and own our home with no mortgage at the age of 38.

We live on 8 acres in East Granby in a 3000sf recently remodeled colonial, and are putting in an 800sf addition in the summer. We have a combined income of about $260k / year.

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laceyourbootsup t1_jaa9cxq wrote

Combined annual income of $400,000

House purchased for $650,000 with 25% down

2 kids

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IndicationOver t1_ja9ov2u wrote

This is going to vary from person to person, kind of a pointless question.

Ideally if you make under $70k in 2023 for this state imo things are going to be rough.

I am sure ppl got homes prior to 2020 and make lesss and are getting by.

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dfeld1989 t1_jaa3e9b wrote

Single income with 3 kids (6, 3 and 8 months) Purchased my 1400sqft home in stamford in 2017 for 387k. I would not be able to afford it now if buying it today as it's prob worth 600k. At this point I just hope I don't get taxed out of the state. Property taxes when I purchased in 2017 were 5k/yr and are now over 7k.

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themighty351 t1_jaa71hk wrote

Single family income I work she takes.care of 2 kids.

2nd shift 37 per hour 1800 square foot vernacular 1850 farm house .39 land.. Working on it since 2012 bought it.as a foreclosure 65k. Needless to say it needed love lots of love. We gave it he'll fixed it up and we are up more than double. Comps in the area about 240k. I have 8 years to go and it's paid off. Whoop whoop

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blueturtle00 t1_ja9t5b7 wrote

So I upgraded during the pandemic I sold my house for a ton of profit then put down 100k on a 395k house further north so my mortgage payment was exactly the same since interest and taxes were lower although my principal was now higher than the first house. I make 100k a year with at the time a stay at home mom and a kid now she works so it should be easier once we pay off some debts that incurred during the pandemic.

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Frankie_Wilde t1_ja9xgp1 wrote

Wife and I make 160-170k combined. One child and bought a 1.4k Sq ft house on an acre of land 3 years ago for 260k 10k down. Mortgage with everything is about 2k a month. 2 car payments that are $700 combined and we do just fine. We are able to take two vacations a year and rarely worry about money.

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lublinj2 t1_ja9zse6 wrote

I make roughly 60-62k (bonus dependent) and my fiancé makes 90k exactly. We got an fha mortgage bought our home for 250k last year. Both have car payments, I have private student loans. No help from anyone aside from moving help, and a few small cash gifts (totaling maybe 4-600). Just gotta learn to budget properly. I personally divide all my monthly expenses by 4, and pay, or squirrel away let’s say $100 per month/4 so $25 a week. Works great!

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zmufastaa t1_jaaa1zh wrote

Just bought a house. We’re both veterans with no kids and my husband is 100% disabled. There’s also 3 working adults in the house. We both saved a ton and his disability pretty much covers mortgage and utilities. We live in Fairfield county. It was $345k about 2000 sqft give or take.

We have fully paid off cars and even though we’re also in school we’re vets so that’s paid for.

There’s a lot of other factors and we carefully planned every step. Sometimes I don’t know how we did it as we feel so young (25,26) but you really have to map it out and don’t just rush to the first house you like.

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Lizzer1152 t1_jaaadu1 wrote

I was making around $150k base with like a $80k bonus. The bonus helped with the down payment. House was $430k in the summer of 2019. Small 1940/ cape in Fairfield County - 4 beds 2 full bath but only like 1400 sq ft.

I did borrow some money from my dad for closing costs. Around $20k. I paid him back by the next bonus. Honestly, I feel like getting a bonus is the biggest advantage + having any help.

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Herewego199 t1_jaabeb1 wrote

HHI of $160k, 2 kids. 3,300 sq foot house in Cheshire and our mortgage is $1,990/mo.

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googs185 t1_jaasf11 wrote

With taxes? We have a 1100sq foot house here and pay $1500 with taxes. Bought for $250k in 2016

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Herewego199 t1_jadnbk9 wrote

Yes, that includes taxes. Bought for $350k in 2016; we sold our previous house so we had a sizable down payment to keep the mortgage down and we refinanced to 2.9% in December 2020.

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googs185 t1_jaeeenp wrote

Great deal! We lost out on a great house just a little smaller than that the same year that I kick myself for not buying. Was yours a fixer upper?

330k is cheap for such a big house.

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Ok-Lingonberry-8198 t1_jaaf7a1 wrote

My Wife is a principal and i am a Real Estate investor. 3200 sq ft 4 bed 2.5 bath 15 yr note 2.75 3k a month 1k of that is taxes combined we make like 300k in income. As a investor it’s been a weird two years. it’s literally cheaper for me to build new then to purchase existing housing stock

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cocopalermo t1_jaafadb wrote

Bought home in West Hartford Dec. 2019. 1,300 sq/ft. $236k. $20k down. 30 yr mortgage. 4.5%. Refinanced late 2020 to 15 yr at 2.25%. My hourly rate comes out to $51/hr. Mortgage is $2200. I pay $2500. When I bought the house I was single. Got married last year. My wife also owns her own home.

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Chemical_Ad7629 t1_jaartnd wrote

650sqft Condo in Hartford county, $485 mortgage $190 hoa

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TheDiabeticSenpai t1_jaav7bq wrote

I feel like a tadpole swimming among giants in this thread lol I couldn’t imagine making 6 figures. It’s daunting to me. It’s a goal for sure.

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Bla_Bla_Blanket t1_ja9c0z8 wrote

I’m not sure you’ll get a standard answer to your question because you didn’t provide the criteria you were interested in. For example what size house do you want, do you care to be closer to a city or wouldn’t mind living rural, do you care about school systems etc. You can find a house at different price points in the state depending on your interests and needs, the more popular and commonly towns in CT definitely do run higher than the national average however.

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chickennugar OP t1_ja9xm8b wrote

criteria? im not house shopping. i just wondered in general what people are able to afford today and what kind of jobs they have.

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Red_Rover3343 t1_ja9nyqo wrote

Enfield 1250 sqft on .3 acres. Mortgage is about 1200 a month Also, own some 25 odd acres in Vermont. I am in North Central CT I do not know how much I actually make, tbh. Not married and no kids.

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hikerbiker7 t1_jaadpyn wrote

Looking to hopefully own land in VT one day- what is the tax situation like owning property there? Might be more of a DM thing but really curious to know!

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Red_Rover3343 t1_jaaey25 wrote

It's roughly comparable to CT, I think. I am not really sure. That amount of land in CT is way more expensive and valuable than in Vermont. I think I paid like 52k for it, cash. The guy I pay to handle my bills deals with paying the taxes on it.

It's literally a patch of woods I go camping on occasionally. No buildings or anything, just a small offroad trail to where I like to camp.

I have plans to do something with it eventually, but not for right now.

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hikerbiker7 t1_jaagcba wrote

That is the same dream we have, awesome To hear it’s doable. That must be so nice to have that little sanctuary to go to whenever 🏕️ Do you have any advice on how to find out about the zoning laws and permitted types of buildings you could build on your land?

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Red_Rover3343 t1_jaagrfn wrote

Call the town hall. Talk to the zoning and permitting people. You can do this before buying. Most of them are more than happy to discuss it with you. Makes their job easy when people try to follow building codes and zoning laws.

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hikerbiker7 t1_jaatohz wrote

Thank you, this is awesome advice! That makes total sense!

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CTNotPC t1_ja9tfwu wrote

No kids. We both work. Only way to have a retirement and be able to pay for a house.

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Zootallurs t1_ja9zcoh wrote

I’m salary, not hourly. Was making ~$140k when we bought in 2017. 3/2, 1200 sq ft coop in lower Fairfield County. Paid $480k. It was really, really tight for a while there.

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tez911 t1_jaa1a9h wrote

3 bedroom on an acre of land. Live by myself, one decent salary. I found the closing costs to be the biggest challenge. Overall, my monthly mortgage is less than any rent I have ever had to pay.

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FFPatrick t1_jaa5vtg wrote

I was making $65k a year when I bought but the house is only 700 sqft in a rural town, and no student loan debt. Was also 2018, so pre all this madness.

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thebatfan5194 t1_jaafsx9 wrote

Wife and I's combined salaries are ~145k, mortgage + property taxes is about 2k which equates to about 30% of our take home pay after taxes. Purchased home in 2019 for $370k

We live in the Northwestern tip New Haven county in a 2200 sq foot house on a quiet cul de sac.

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thebatfan5194 t1_jaag51z wrote

Wife and I's combined salaries are ~145k, mortgage + property taxes is about 2k which equates to about 30% of our take home pay after taxes.

We live in the Northwestern tip New Haven county in a 2200 sq foot house on a quiet cul de sac.

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[deleted] t1_jaam48a wrote

4 kids, 2 not in school yet and therefore requiring full time childcare.

We bought our house in Hartford County for $425K in 2021. Mortgage is about $2500/month.

Combined income last year of about $170-180, this year it should be closing in on $200K. We aren’t living lavishly by any stretch of the imagination, but we have enough for the things we need so we consider ourselves lucky.

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LazyEstablishment69 t1_jaaoern wrote

After ten years of saving for a 20% down payment plus 15K for emergencies, I bought my first home for 235k in early 2019—no kid, no wife, and currently making 85k+ a year. I don't see how anyone with kids making less than 60K can afford a house, cars, etc., these days, given the current inflation.

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foodcoma85 t1_jaapjy3 wrote

Bristol. 25.25/hr, but I’ve been a homeowner since around when I was making about 18 or 19/hr. It’s a 940sqft house with a detached garage and about a .5 acre of land. It’s just me and Ninja Kitty.

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AbuJimTommy t1_jaazynf wrote

2 incomes, couple of kids. Earnings fluctuate based on how much the wife wants to work. At the time we bought we were making about $170k maybe. Bought a fixer-upper 2k sqft home in a nice shoreline town 8 years ago for 280k. (This was back before CT had recovered from 2008 pricewise). Sunk another 30k plus blood and sweat into it.

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Present-Library-6894 t1_jab3enq wrote

Bought in 2013 when I was single and making $65K. It was one of those "nothing structurally wrong, but just dingy and dirty and nothing's been updated, so it's been sitting on the market a while" homes. It was $212K, about 1,800 square feet, and has been fun to work on. Mortgage (including taxes and insurance) is $1,300. All this feels almost almost impossible to do today.

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IStanHam t1_jab5w7z wrote

My household income is about 200k, we bought a home in newtown 2 years ago a little bit under 400k, its about 2300 square feet. We can comfortably afford the home.

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curbthemeplays t1_jabd20e wrote

Make about $125-200/hr on most projects. Mortgage is $2800/mo. Nice area in Milford.

I don’t know how anyone making under $100k a year lives in a nice house comfortably anywhere desirable in the country. It’s pretty sad.

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chickennugar OP t1_jad3gil wrote

holy crap, what job pays that much?

i believe my dad makes 56k or so a year? he supports our family of four+the dog, my mom is retired. we live on a somewhat large piece of property in the, i guess you could say country. we live in a log style ranch my parents actually built themselves ten or so years ago.. so maybe that makes a difference.

my mother is always telling me id need combined income (like me + one other) to survive in this day and age but we make it by fine, so its confusing..

i do agree though that its sad- how high the cost of living gets, and how little wages pay. its like no matter how hard we work people will always be struggling.

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curbthemeplays t1_jadkc1t wrote

Marketing freelancer. I have 15 years experience and have managed decent sized teams. I don’t work every week of the year, but yes, it’s solid money.

Yes living in the “country” helps. But near any desirable metro, I don’t care what state it’s in, has gotten very difficult for anyone with normal income to do well. And it’s not just inflation. Because when I look at what my parents paid to live in the NYC area back in the day, adjusted for inflation it’s less than half of what it is now.

I think part of it is increasing population with not enough building. CT is a prime example of that, lowest vacancy rate in country.

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andherewestand t1_jabphkt wrote

We just topped 100k combined income this year. One kid now, late 30s and early 40s. We're in the central region in a small suburban town. We bought our house for 130k back in 2015 when it was just us and the cats. It's only ~680sqft, 2br 1ba. You'd think this would keep climate control costs down, but we still see outrageous bills from Evilsource. Solar is on the agenda now that it's clear we aren't going to be able to move any time soon with the market the way it is. The house had been for sale for over a year when we bought it because of a few factors - namely, that the former occupant had died in the home, I think. Also because at that time nobody wanted a small starter home. We could probably sell for a large profit at this point, but of course very little stock to choose from for our next home right now so we are starting to invest in growing where we are planted. Many items were left behind for us when we purchased that had belonged to the previous owner, like a lawn tractor, snowblower, TVs mounted in the living room and bedrooms, some furniture, a lot of tools and home improvement items, etc.. Because of these kinds of things we spent much less to get up to speed as homeowners. Our mortgage was $780 to start in 2015. We were both making significantly less at the time, under 80k a year combined. We got taken for a ride by both our original bank and the one who bought them out, both of which did not know how to appropriately factor taxes into escrow. Our rate ended up jumping significantly a couple years in a row to make up the deficit, first to $980, and now to about $1300. I had to go back to work part time after leaving the workforce due to a high risk pregnancy and difficult birth with 6 weeks of NICU care, and then ended up changing back to full time shortly after to afford the increase and make the childcare costs worth it. We also both have car payments, but my husband luckily paid off his student loans about a year after we bought our house, but before we got married and had a kid. I was fortunately able to complete my degree without loans. We live comfortably enough most of the time, but not entirely without struggles, especially when it's car and sewer tax time. We also seem to always finally build up a savings cushion and then something breaks. Such is homeownership, I guess. I get frustrated at our small space and lack of storage pretty frequently, especially now with a 5 year old and a dog added to our crew, but I'm also incredibly grateful to have what we have in a decent area that is safe and has a good school system. We are selective with our services (no cable or home phone, for example) and we shop mostly discounts but splurge on what's necessary to be happy and healthy (i.e. water cooler service since the town water is dreadful). We also strategically plan who carries health benefits vs. tax withholding burden based on current salary rates and trajectory, and this has mostly worked out for us. We've both moved within our careers and come up in pay quite a bit in the last 7 years, with the hope of continuing that trend to be able to continue to afford the cost of living. Not having to pay for full time childcare once our son was old enough for school helped significantly, also. All in all, it's not always easy, but it's doable. Live within your means, plan appropriately and be aware that those plans will always somehow get derailed and you have to just roll with it.

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Captain_SpaceRaptor t1_jac45ag wrote

House: 230k @ 2.99% West Haven

Single income: 93k with bonuses that can push me a little over 6figures.

Kids: 0

Cars: 1 and paid off

Financial assistance: me, myself and I

At the time I purchased my only real debt was student loans and rent. Credit cards were paid off. Now I'm paying the one CC down again so I can focus on paying off my solar loan.

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xxjonfenxx t1_jac4j62 wrote

Household income is 250k+

I’m a software engineer, wife runs her own business we have two small kids.

House is 5000 sqft on 10 acres in the mountains just south of the Massachusetts border $3400/m

We have had to fix a ton of stuff on the house that wasn’t caught in the inspection though such as replacing half the roof, replace the AC, and replace the water heater and boiler (yay!)

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nosinjection12 t1_jac6yd1 wrote

2 incomes, 175k Gross, I work in the creative tech industry my wife is in fitness. My job is based on NYC so I’m paid an NYC salary.

In May 2021 We were able to purchase an off market house in Norwalk 3b/2 ba .4 acre 2100 sq foot (that includes a 600 sq fully finished basement). We had a 5% down payment in cash then had 15k in cash for closing. No competing offers & the house appraised at offer value.

Happy to answer any questions!

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hornsandskis t1_jac8vvy wrote

My wife and I make about $125k combined per year. We bought a house for 244k about 5 years ago. 3 bedrooms, 2.5 bath. I have an excellent credit score (~800) so the loan is solely in my name however her name is on the title. I had been saving for a down payment from age 22-27 and then we bought our house with 20% down when I was 28. I was able to save 10k plus a year as a single guy but now our per year combined savings is only 5k max, during Covid “lockdown” we had negative savings for the year

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la_ct t1_jaccb3y wrote

Household income varies tremendously in this area. If you’re wondering how to afford something start with significant down payment, significant retirement savings, and speak to your bank. Always budget and stick to it that will help you.

We live in FFC, HHI ~750k, 1.5M house bought 13 years ago and renovated/enlarged, 30% down, cash flow renovations, and 15 year mortgage so it’s almost paid off. Our largest expense annually by far is tax (income, property). 2 working professionals, 1 child in public school.

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PTunia t1_jacchbm wrote

People can get into owning a house if they know exactly what they are up against budget wise. There is no per hour magic number. It depends on the town, the size of the house, etc.

Firstly, try to make a budget based on your NET income. Figure out what you are comfortable with to pay for your monthly bills. Electricity is the worst utility bill. It will only go up, so be prepared.

Add all the fixed expenses for the house and the varied ones.

Fixed= mortgage

Varied= Taxes (go up every year in my town), Electricity, Heating, Cable, Internet, cell phone, Insurance, maintenance....give yourself a lot of leeway. IF you're "handy" with repairs, you will save A LOT on owning a house. If you're not, you better have some $ saved up for unforeseen repairs. You need to paint things, replace things ( doors, roof, electrical, plumbing) repair faucets, shower heads, things that just come undone over the years, keep up the yard or pay for it.

I've owned a few houses. My first one was at 23 yo. I had to get roommates when I was single. With roommates you save a little but NOT 1/2. Then as bills go up, you need to increase their rent. Bottom Line: Invest in a house in a good location, and keep the Mill Rate for Taxes in m ind. People are not as crazy to buy in a town with high taxes, or a crime ridden town. Over the years the smaller homes, under 1500 sqft have done better weathering Recessions and other market issues. Meaning they go up in value, don't cost much to heat or air condition, and most people can afford them.

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velociraptorbaby t1_jaccmcj wrote

I would focus more on how much can you save for a down payment and how long will it take and mortgage calculations. Income itself means nothing because everyone spends their money differently. Make sure you can afford the monthly mortgage. We had to be extra frugal saving for the house just to get the money for down payment but easily afforded our monthly and could go back to our normal spending habits.

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nsfdrag t1_jacqxc1 wrote

I bought a house when I was making $18 an hour a few years ago, it was $245k at the time on an acre of land. I worked about 50hrs a week on average and anything over 40 was time and a half. I don't think I could afford the same house even at that price with the increased interest rate.

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Mekhitar t1_jacwuim wrote

Husband (28M) and I (35F) bought a house in Middletown in 2020 for $278k. 3 bed / 2 ba, 1900 sq feet when you include the finished basement, on a nice half acre that backs up to some woodlands.

We put ~14k (5%) down. Combined income was $140k/y. No kids, no other debt - we cleared the last of his college debt in 2019. We've put about $40k into the house for improvements (central air, electrical upgrades, kitchen, garage door, redo the stair to the basement, etc).

Currently pay about $1750/mo for mortgage, taxes, and insurance. Just wiggled out from under the $50/mo PMI due to market increases, which is a great feeling.

Honestly we only won the bid for this house because for some bizarre reason it was listed at ~$240k even though we knew after a walkthrough it would appraise in the $275k range. So, we were competing with people trying to get it at the $240k price point instead of the price point we were offering. Just lucked out.

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