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Beans508 t1_iu79re9 wrote

I'd have let him. Theres only one way to learn not to do something when you're this little, and thats to fuck around and find out (within reason of course)

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ravenous_fringe t1_iu7apo0 wrote

Hey, tough guy comments, this ain't the let him learn about flame age. This is protect from harm while he learns how his fingers grasps things age.

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AnnoyedHippo t1_iu7caes wrote

Replying to not-the-droid- (#303,639)

Sitting stance and size... I'd say the child is about 10mo.

There is nothing that kid would learn from touching fire except that it didn't pick up the fire. There would be no concept or grasp of why they're in pain. No cognitive connection of the pain to the fire. No real lesson.

Letting them learn is predicated on the idea that they can objectively learn the lesson. If they can't, stop them.

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AnnoyedHippo t1_iu7ck24 wrote

Replying to Beans508 (#303,830)

>(within reason of course)

You think a child under 1 year old is able to grasp the concept of fire and learn it is extremely dangerous? You think letting it touch fire is within reason?

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AnnoyedHippo t1_iu7dihu wrote

Replying to Beans508 (#304,370)

No. It would put its whole hand into the flame trying to grasp it, harm itself permanently, and be left with still no concept of what fire is or why it's in pain.

Congrats, you permanently burned a child, subjected it to extreme pain, and gained nothing for it.

You need about another decade of maturing before you should be allowed to breed.

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bobbyluy t1_iu7du7g wrote

Dinner and a show, why not.

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QorstSynthion t1_iu7kteg wrote

thats ... one hella depressed lookin kid ...

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tester33333 t1_iu7l5ak wrote

This is my every day for years 😂 my youngest is two now so he knows better about some stuff, but he also thinks my worried face is hella funny so he will run scream-laughing toward windows

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Fr00shy t1_iu7n57s wrote

Sometimes celebrating their birthdays is more like a pat on the back that you were able to keep them alive another year.

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Sengakuji t1_iu7n5gg wrote

Who won the candle race?

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NotThisTime1993 t1_iu7oiga wrote

I’ve never understood why people insist on putting fire in front of infants

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jagdtiger721 t1_iu7rbbn wrote

I was about to say let him touch it. He'll learn really fast.

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Teddy_Icewater t1_iu7t2w9 wrote

Just let the kid burn himself, it'll only happen once lol

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AhhAGoose t1_iu7tkbq wrote

Mine will say “hot!” As she grabs for hot things

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Bad_but_Learning t1_iu7vhr5 wrote

Whenever I'm watching younger family members I let them do stuff like this, only momentarily. Enough for them to feel the pain, but not long enough to have lasting effects. I then repeat something like, "Hot!" or "Owie!" then exaggerate pain with a loud wince or inhale. I repeat it until they understand.

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thecichos t1_iu7vunz wrote

record scratch

But each parent pulled to themselves and broke the toddlers arm

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NumbFuzz t1_iu7z3oe wrote

here baby, have a cake with burning candle. Oh no! Stop! proceeds to grab baby instead of blowing out the flame....

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LightsoutSD t1_iu80qoq wrote

Stupid parenting in one pic.

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Admetus t1_iu812ow wrote

Depends. Warn first. "HOT! Touch it. Ouch!" Then if child tries, you give them a good prompt. "HOT! Don't touch! Ouch!"

Now, controversially, some parents will then let the child have free will and find out what it means to put your hand in the flame. Yes, there will be blister burns. But that will be a lesson learned for life.

I once touched a soldiering iron. I learned to be careful of soldiering irons for life. 🤭

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LightsoutSD t1_iu824bn wrote

Replying to capt-bob (#308,264)

I have 4 and you’re an idiot if you don’t realize that the baby doesn’t know it’s supposed to blow the candle out and will probably try and touch the fire to see what it is. Don’t use less sleep as an excuse for lack of common sense.

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Amorphophallus-T t1_iu82m02 wrote

Nahh, you gotta let them. So they know to not do it again ;)

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ill_litter_it t1_iu82zad wrote

Are the parents hands rushing towards or away from the babies hand?

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Aldoc3 t1_iu837ca wrote

Looks like someone is about to learn a valuable lesson.

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EndZoner t1_iu86nnf wrote

The child attempted to harness the power of the sacred flames. Their parents were of the opinion that they were not ready for the affinity. The Prepubescent Being of Prophecy will test that heretical hypothesis!

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rowejl222 t1_iu89b0g wrote

I thought this was my friend’s kid as this is something she totally would do

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OldLevermonkey t1_iu8b1qi wrote

What, allowing a child to get into a situation where they could hurt themselves and then over-reacting?

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Myrddin_Naer t1_iu8emoi wrote

Why not just let the kid burn their hand a little? It'll heal in a few days, and they'll never touch fire again.

Also they will start crying either way.

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Sloeberjong t1_iu8fc2z wrote

Not sure what they were expecting. This is something I would totally expect my daughter to do and I’d just not light a candle, because it’s completely useless.

On the other hand, this is how they learn…

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tempski t1_iu8ghkt wrote

I guess people will do anything for internet points, even endanger their kid.

How do I switch timelines?

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Freddit- t1_iu8hggq wrote

As a father of two I wonder daily how such an idiotic, hopelessly stupid species like our own was able to survive.

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EstorialBeef t1_iu8jd91 wrote

Replying to MarioToast (#306,650)

I still remember my parents orchestrating teaching my and my sibling 'fire burns", at about 5/6 they took us to a fireplace store (we did need/have one), eventually I touched hot glass of an on display one and cried, my sibling the copied me lol and parents took us both out to get us ice-cream, stopped crying and lesson leaned.

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Vindovilles t1_iu8kmem wrote

I love how people who don't even want kids are giving their stupid ass advice as to what the parents should do

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twentyattempts t1_iu8kv7r wrote

Oh, just let the little one learn the lesson

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YoRt3m t1_iu8l0c9 wrote

This kid will grow up to save his people from the Egyptians.

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Caedes-chan t1_iu8mnty wrote

Let it touch fire once, it won't do it again

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Supersized24 t1_iu8n45c wrote

On my first birthday they let me play with the candle. That's the first time I learned fire was hot.

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Popcorn179 t1_iu8n5pq wrote

As a father to a now 18 month old. I can confirm. They are practically hard-wired to try to kill themselves. Give them a room full of toys, they will go straight for the power outlet. Leave a door open for a second, they will bolt straight in there. You have to be constantly vigilant.

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socokid t1_iu8nfow wrote

Why is the baby not in a high chair?

This entire picture is ridiculous and that cake is headed for the rug in 3... 2...

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jizzlevania t1_iu8ovoo wrote

Kind of bad parenting in a pic. Kids hand is closer to the flame than her parents hands are to her arm, indicating her parents weren't planning for the grab, which is fucking dumb. But what's a little baby burn when you have might get a perfect pic for the gram?

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sapporo12 t1_iu8pszx wrote

I say let the kid burn themselves they won’t do a second time

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HotBoatMan t1_iu8q7vh wrote

This was literally me on my first birthday, but no one was able to stop me in time

It’s on that good old VHS somewhere

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Azulanze t1_iu8ql1t wrote

Everyone has to do it at least once to learn. I learned my lesson as a baby when I used a radiator to try and stand up while I was learning to walk. Hot is bad.

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aroumani t1_iu8rnkx wrote

This kid is a scientist

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zaxmaximum t1_iu8s6jb wrote

I'm in the camp that would let this experience happen. I'm there if it gets out of hand, and I would say that not to do it, but I wouldn't stop it.

A couple reasons:

  1. Fire is hot and shouldn't be touched, and a moment of discomfort will teach that lesson

  2. It helps demonstrate that I say "No" for a reason

My goal as a teacher is to have my advice/lesson be applied in the moments when I'm not there to reinforce them.

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[deleted] t1_iu8sd9o wrote

It would be helpful if it had burned to know, fire is hot.

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AlfredPetrelli t1_iu8vk3m wrote

Most animals instinctively know that fire hurts. Here we are as toddlers trying to grasp it.

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andhowsherbush t1_iu8wgmf wrote

when I was really little my mom made me some mac and cheese and after she took the pan off the burner I slammed my open hand on it and that was the last time I intentionally put my hand on something that hot. She just gave me a look like I was a idiot.

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Wbcn_1 t1_iu8wylw wrote

I remember when I finally accepted that my son was going to damage my Eames chair eventually and I couldn’t get upset when he did.

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Significant_Ant_2607 t1_iu8x5bw wrote

Replying to izwald88 (#312,938)

This literally happened to my 78-year-old great uncle this year.

Crushed to death under one of his farm machines, because he didn't follow the basic safety precautions.

The exact same basic safety precautions that he taught all of us.

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MyStationIsAbandoned t1_iu8y0ry wrote

man. baby humans are probably the most helpless baby-anything on the planet, huh?

it seems like most baby animals are born with the needed instincts to just survive basic things like not setting itself on fire

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PM_ME_TRICEPS t1_iu8z12n wrote

What a cute little baby. Look at that face! I wish I could touch fire with such a neutral expression.

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mOdQuArK t1_iu8zj4r wrote

Replying to BirdEquivalent158 (#305,706)

I have a distinct memory of my mother giving me one strong warning to not touch the glowing burners on the electric stove, then watching while I did so anyway. Then reinforcing the lesson with "what did we learn?" while running cold water on the burn.

This kid seems a little too young to get the right lesson, but sometimes kids are just little assholes who won't really learn boundaries until they experience severe enough negative consequences. It's the parents' job to make sure those negative consequences aren't severe enough to cause permanent trauma.

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Redgreen82 t1_iu8zocl wrote

We have a home movie of my sister's first birthday 36 years ago where she reached for the flame and then started crying hysterically. The family is divided on whether she is crying because she touched it or because of all the yelling for her to not touch it.

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BirthdayWooden t1_iu8zqdo wrote

Looks more like the inspiration for the ceiling of the sistene chapel

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meowman911 t1_iu922sn wrote

Replying to zaxmaximum (#312,156)

Dad here. Unless you end up raising some kind of super savant everything you wrote about your goals as a teacher literally amounts to nothing for kid this age. The kid in the picture looks like a 1 year old. They don’t comprehend and remember concepts well. Regardless if it hurts. Don’t do this with infants and young toddlers unless negligent parenting is just your style.

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Literally_-_Hitler t1_iu95cjt wrote

Typical first child reaction. When you have your third you won't even bother filming or stopping them.

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turikimaru t1_iu95q0e wrote

A test of your reflexes... slaaappee.

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CaeciliasFeet t1_iu98deq wrote

Haha I used to hide so I could eat pure salt in peace, no not sugar, salt

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cmdrsamuelvimes t1_iu98fbs wrote

Replying to Sengakuji (#306,053)

Baby got close for it to hurt and her reflex reaction withdrew the hand before it burned. Dad then came in and missed and started to hurt on the candle but before he can withdraw mom smacks down on dad's hand smushing him on to the candle and into the cake. Baby cries.

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Holiday_Classic_472 t1_iu98mgy wrote

Yes when kids are toddlers it's mainly about keeping then alive til bedtime

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Lonnie_T t1_iu9javu wrote

Toddler: "how can I attempt to harm myself today?"

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hughiesghost t1_iu9kh8r wrote

Fuck that kid. I want that Eames chair.

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Useful-Feature-0 t1_iu9kzee wrote

Replying to MyStationIsAbandoned (#313,301)

There's some truth to this. But the other aspect is that human parents are the most deductive and predictive parents on the planet, and all that intellect leads to extreme vigilence - which is good, because we accept 0 offspring loss.

If human babies were less protected after weaning (left alone for hour stretches, able to explore dangerous things) -> most would still survive.

We just don't accept the most model lol

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Stevexnyc t1_iu9la56 wrote

It will never learn. Learn to see the loser at a early age.

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Bleachsmoker t1_iu9mmsv wrote

Parents, stop doing this. My nephew decided to grab his candle on his first birthday as well. He burned his hand a little bit and cried for an hour. Your baby is not going to learn how to blow out a candle in one day so you can get a nice Facebook pic. Wait till next year, maybe. I just had a daughter and on her first birthday I will hand her a fan or something. Babies plus fire = bad. I couldn't imagine letting her get burned like this.

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Teddy_Icewater t1_iu9n8ri wrote

Replying to Tall-Cantaloupe608 (#317,858)

Lol just imagine how damaged and scarred they would be compared to all these helicopter mom babies. Truth is I just look at these things logically. Chance of actual harm from a candle, 0. Chance of learning why mom and dad don't want you touching the candle, 100%.

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Dmartinez8491 t1_iu9wpjg wrote

Mine never did same. Pretty calm and chill but so am I. Kids take after their parents so it says a fair amount

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Weary_Ad7119 t1_iu9ybe5 wrote

Replying to Bleachsmoker (#318,037)

🙄

My two year old blew out her candles and counted them while doing it. She also know don't touch on the stove and will regularly repeat it while saying hot.

Reddit, as a whole really doesn't have a clue about kids.

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Thijs_NLD t1_iua9g9x wrote

Should be in r/kidsarefuckingstupid

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Rellmein t1_iuacazv wrote

That kid does not look happy

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Tall-Cantaloupe608 t1_iuaknyk wrote

Replying to Teddy_Icewater (#318,163)

Actually for a child that young, not possible to teach it anything and it won't just touch the fire and back ofd it'll grab it and get burnt and scarred before it backs off and even then it'll just do it again because it's not possible for it to learn at such a young age

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rell7thirty t1_iuaw4gn wrote

Hope the baby is ok but real quick, this looks like the baby has pyro powers and lit it with the help of the sorcerers teaching it.

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toastspork t1_iubfrva wrote

Replying to ravenous_fringe (#303,980)

We used some ASL sign language with our kids, before they could speak. It helped quite a bit. The usual stuff, appropriate to what they'd be experiencing. Milk, more, I love you, diaper...

We used "hot" to also mean "sharp" and just plain "dangerous", because babies aren't long on subtleties.

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topgun2582 t1_iubl8vo wrote

That's your DNA reaching for the hot flame.... let that sink in.....

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