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EuropeanTrainMan t1_j1maahw wrote

That does not sound too bad. Glad it all worked out at the end.

I'll admit it was confusing to read that this happened near 50 years ago.

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Oddlot0930 t1_j1mb1q6 wrote

Given you're still together, doesn't sound like a FU to me

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GingerIsTheBestSpice t1_j1mcoh1 wrote

This is one of the best "first Christmas together" stories ever! What a terrible yet great family memory

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Capable-Site-301 t1_j1meqdg wrote

r/wholesome

At least, as wholesome as it can be thinking about your GF, mom, and sister all peeing while standing up.

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AcrobaticSource3 t1_j1mhjsc wrote

Did she ever try using it? She has had 47 years of opportunities...for easy math, let’s very conservatively say that a person pees 1,000 times a year (that’s less than 3 times a day), she’s had 47,000 opportunities

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margo_plicatus t1_j1mktr8 wrote

What I’m inferring is that you are still with with the first person you ever dated - is that right? If so, that’s kindof impressive… don’t think that happens much anymore.

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HotSupermarket3682 t1_j1mlhhc wrote

Your dad was strategizing on how he would never have to remember to put the seat down again

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ooooooooooooolivia t1_j1mnfen wrote

>Not on the spectrum really... just unaware of social norms?

OP, I hate to break it to you, but this is exactly what people with autism were described as before ASD became a diagnosis. And it's nothing to be ashamed of, this is a funny story and I'm sure your dad was a lovable guy.

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Vast_Reflection t1_j1mntg8 wrote

I had no idea that she-wee was invented that long ago! A guy friend gave me one for a birthday present once

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notsureiftwins t1_j1mtfv2 wrote

Two dates and invited to Christmas morning? My how times have changed.

Very sweet you've been together for 47 years, congratulations and happy holidays.

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ScotnCan t1_j1mwkrp wrote

Replying to iJuddles (#1,058,692)

Well making sure to not choose a urinal directly beside someone, ensuring there is at least one open one between you and the other person. But your code rules are good too.

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Svartdraken t1_j1mx3ig wrote

Are you sure this gift isn't the exact reason why you're still together?

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velofille t1_j1mx53f wrote

i thought she wee was newish, like 2000's ?

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kagalibros t1_j1mxfo1 wrote

the real question is: Did she keep it and use it?

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ThrobbinGoblin t1_j1myi05 wrote

Replying to Smirkydarkdude (#1,055,877)

I'm pretty sure that autism of some sort runs in the men in my family because they are all like this, and nowadays if I take a psychological test they see it in me. I think that the only difference is that they didn't test for it or really know much about it back then, so men just had to mask their entire lives and deal with it or die single and childless.

I know this because when I was growing up it wasn't really a well tested for thing and I had to mask. And OPs story sounds like something I would do.

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Xrgonic369 t1_j1mz1i6 wrote

Replying to Robobvious (#1,057,840)

“Spectrum” is a poor word because it implies a number line type deal, ranging from “not autistic” to “extremely autistic.” It’s more like a color wheel, where each color represents a symptom, and each color can be thought of as its own number line, where each autistic has more or less of each individual symptom. I am autistic.

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virji24 t1_j1mzpgz wrote

Meanwhile I can’t even remember what I had for dinner the other night

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WaddleWobble t1_j1n1zo0 wrote

My dad was awkward, and had zero fucks, the first girl I brought home for my dad to meet, I was 17, and my dad looks at her, then at me, literally smacks his lips very smugly, and says "so, you fuck her yet?!" That girl did not stick around.

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tragicworldrecord t1_j1n2ju4 wrote

47 years ago?

"SHEWEE is a British company that creates Female Urinary Devices (FUDs), which allow women to urinate while standing, with no need to remove clothes. The original Shewee was invented in 1999 by Samantha Fountain while she was at university. Her idea won Sam the 1999 James Dyson Product Design Award."

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Doomgiven t1_j1n3frj wrote

Shee-wee's are clutch at concerts and festivals though!

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Atze-Peng t1_j1n3jzg wrote

Replying to iJuddles (#1,058,692)

A few years ago a bunch of friends and i were clubbing. Club was rather full and so were the toilets. So us 3 guys ended up going together into a single stall, starting to pee and all simultaneously yell to not cross the streams. 3 guys having the same stupid idea at the exact same time.

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Smirkydarkdude t1_j1n40od wrote

Replying to velofille (#1,058,819)

Technically that may not have been the literal name of the product. I had to Google to find a name for a female urine funel thing. Plus the brand names in Canada may have been different from US names. The closest match I could find was the "she-wee". But for sure it was a plastic lady pee gizmo.

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arcanum7123 t1_j1n5l2l wrote

The thing that surprises me most about this is that she-wees existed 47 years ago

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Paechs t1_j1n6spl wrote

Replying to tragicworldrecord (#1,059,459)

OP isn’t making shit up, just probably couldn’t think of the name. My dad and his brothers made an ad for one far before the 90s that they called the “shoe-dry” but it was intended for old dudes that had trouble not pissing on their shoes. Not a new concept by any means.

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Foinatorol t1_j1n7fom wrote

Replying to ooooooooooooolivia (#1,057,588)

But..hypothetically someone could have had a somewhat isolated or informal upbringing and have less “socially guarded/careful” oriented approach to life without being “on the spectrum”, no? I mean is everything really about adhd and autism? What about, i dunno..general diversity of human experience?

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dr_goodvibes t1_j1n7ss3 wrote

Damn I really didn't expect you to still be together after all those years! The she-wee must be more powerful than any of us think.

50'th is coming up soon OP, wish you all the best and merry Christmas!

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Ben62194 t1_j1n8oa3 wrote

He wanted to make her feel like number 1

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ooooooooooooolivia t1_j1n9bn5 wrote

Replying to Foinatorol (#1,060,036)

What, like the diversity of humans within the autism spectrum? We're all technically at some point within it.

Yes, there are "weird" people and also people who were raised in a very secluded environment. But there's also just people who exhibit many symptoms which make ASD a very understandable explanation to anyone who knows what having autism is like

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general_3d t1_j1naaej wrote

Replying to AcrobaticSource3 (#1,056,854)

It's not exactly a product meant to be used at home with a toilet. More of a "camping or stuck in traffic emergency but want to expose self as little as possible" product.

Definitely worth practicing with in the shower to prevent unforseen mess in case of actual use though.

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BleedingTeal t1_j1nafcn wrote

Replying to tragicworldrecord (#1,059,459)

Not to mention that Google was founded in 1998. Prior to Google there really wasn’t an easy way to search out knowledge, let alone e-commerce being a thing. But the first credited search engine that I know of is Archie, which was created in 1990. This story takes place 6 years before I was born: in 1975. Either this story is completely fabricated, or the names & details have been changed to protect the innocent. Such as the “dad” in the story is actually OP, and this story actually happened within the last few years.

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ph4mp573r t1_j1nahhm wrote

Replying to Foinatorol (#1,060,085)

I can't find any device on the market at that time. In fact the first device to market seems to have been in 1993, a few years before the SheWee.

However, there are two parents of interest in the right time period:

https://patents.google.com/patent/US3177500A/en

https://patents.google.com/patent/US3964111A/en

The second, from 1975 has the exact purpose as the SheWee, and it's patent expiration of 1993 coincides with such products hitting the market. It's theoretically possible the original inventor sold some small scale in the decades between 1975 and 1993, and the sudden adoption when the patent expires shows there was intetest, but no way to prove it that I can find.

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Paechs t1_j1nb0o4 wrote

Replying to BleedingTeal (#1,060,379)

I said far before the 90s, I don’t know when it was, but my dad is also 63 like this guy and they were quite young. Wasn’t when he was a kid, but I don’t see any reason the idea couldn’t have existed before it caught on in America

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azvitesse t1_j1nc0yh wrote

BEST Christmas story ever! 😂😁🤣

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hi_im_sefron t1_j1nc69n wrote

Yeah, I'll be that person; that's not how you use a semicolon!

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crispytacofan t1_j1ndaxv wrote

This is adorable. He sounded like a great dad!! Mine never got me a present. He also yelled at me one year because he didn’t like my wrapping paper.

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gwaydms t1_j1ndh78 wrote

I'm almost your age. All's well that ends well! May y'all have many more happy years together.

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SarahNaGig t1_j1neaqr wrote

Yesterday I was given socks and two self help books I certainly didn't ask for by my mother. I actually think your dad's gift rocks!

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moons_of_neptarine t1_j1nfad5 wrote

Btw the modern equivalent is awesome when hiking or using gross portapots

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angry_cabbie t1_j1ngp22 wrote

Replying to Paechs (#1,059,971)

The Urinelle was the first mass-produced female urinary assistant device, per Google. It came out in 1996. It definitely was not the first such device, but it was the first mass produced device.

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twitchy_taco t1_j1nhemt wrote

The she-wee was actually really popular among trans men back when I first came out in 2009. I think because there's more realistic looking prosthetics readily available now they're less popular. They were known for being very effective. I had no idea they'd been around so long. I still have mine from back in the day. It's green and made from silicone.

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NorCalAthlete t1_j1niwf3 wrote

I remember a friend got one of those as a serious gift one year (she’s a competitive cyclist). By the end of the night we were playing cards against humanity and taking shots from the she-wee. It was a pretty funny night.

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Nutz_of_Brin t1_j1nix4i wrote

I'm slightly confused. You googled what a SheeWee was, 47 years ago when he gave it to her?

Nevermind, you googled it recently to figure the name. I got it now. Redditing while tired here.

Hey, his heart was in the right place!

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Smirkydarkdude t1_j1nj3mj wrote

Replying to Nutz_of_Brin (#1,061,355)

No I googled it today to figure out what on earth a lady funnel pee thing is called. :) But if you want to know what it looked like feel free to Google She-We. That's it exactly (although that brand wasn't around back then)

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24nicebeans t1_j1nj85r wrote

Hell I’d be so glad to be gifted a she-wee. I need to know what I’m missing

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ckohn99 t1_j1njp61 wrote

If thats true, its one of the funniest and sweetest story I ever heard

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Splitsurround t1_j1nko6k wrote

Homestly sounds like a fun bonding moment for the gf and the ladies in your family. I’m sure they all shared an awkward look together- that probably started things off in the right direction.

Anyhow congrats. Staying married is hard, I’m on year 24.

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chantendo64 t1_j1nkqgy wrote

Replying to ThrobbinGoblin (#1,058,970)

I think there’s also something to be said for it going on for generations and that being the normal for the family. My boyfriend and his dad act so similarly in some ways. Early on in our relationship I very gently suggested to him I thought he might have autism and he didn’t believe me at first because of how his dad acts and that that was their family’s normal. He ended up getting tested and was diagnosed. So I think along with the lack of testing there’s also a component of not thinking that testing is needed.

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BananaGarlicBread t1_j1nn8bc wrote

Replying to lolatu54 (#1,058,964)

Right on. I'm 99% positive my dad is autistic (as sure as someone who isn't a professional can be), but back in the day if you were verbal and relatively high functioning you weren't "autistic", just quirky or eccentric.

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r3dditor12 t1_j1nnvhx wrote

You're still together, so maybe dad actually knew what he was doing !! ... Nah, on second thought ... probably not.

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Loxatl t1_j1nod3w wrote

Thank you for the white elephant gift idea for my wife and friends.

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lavoid12 t1_j1npusi wrote

This is Gold. The fact that y’all remained together, made me smile.

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MissAnthropoid t1_j1npwc4 wrote

These things are fantastic if you need to work long shifts alone in a boom or scissor lift. I used to avoid lift calls (a type of lighting work in film and TV) until a male supervisor cracked open a supply drawer and gave me one. He liked to send the Teamsters (big burly biker types mostly) to pick them up, so that he could put the women on the team in the air. Life changing. I ended up loving lift calls - hours and hours either driving these big fuckoff machines around or tucked up cozy in a sleeping bag watching Rick and Morty with a panoramic view of the whole city while the ground crew busted their asses. Highly recommended!

Also popular with pilots apparently.

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Corgiverse t1_j1nqwnn wrote

Replying to Loxatl (#1,062,002)

Honestly I’d be thrilled to get one. Road trips would be so much easier/ I’ve got the bladder of w cocker spaniel puppy and sometimes if you’re driving in the middle of the night … it’s hard to find a bathroom

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nixiedust t1_j1nrlcf wrote

My father-in-law showed me a petrified possum corpse he found stuck in his barn the first time we met. We loved each other instantly.

Those She-Wee things are pretty great...your wife knew a good thing when she saw it!

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kaceFile t1_j1nsqag wrote

…Wasn’t the she-wee invented 20 years ago? 😬

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AndrewFrozzen30 t1_j1nsxmx wrote

>That which doesn't kill a relationship makes it stronger? Anyway we are still together today - 47 years later.

I'm curious what she thinks about it today!

I'm sure, in all those years, she had many things like that from your dad. So she in the end realized that's the way he is, that's his normal and he has no bad intention behind it.

So, what does she think of it now? I'm sure she finds it funny, because if she didn't you would probably have broke up long ago.

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karateema t1_j1ntqpa wrote

Did the man get better at that?

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LillianIsaDo t1_j1nv6cj wrote

I would have loved it! I have a similar funnel now, for road trips, festivals, and concerts. He was very considerate.

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jmdavies98 t1_j1nve37 wrote

I got my girlfriend one for her stocking this year lol, definitely a gag gift for me tho

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MangosArentReal t1_j1nzcwq wrote

Replying to BleedingTeal (#1,060,369)

>Not to mention that Google was founded in 1998. Prior to Google there really wasn’t an easy way to search out knowledge, let alone e-commerce being a thing.

Re-read the post. OP is telling Redditors to Google it. He didn't say they Googled it in 1975.

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Legal_Eagle_1155 t1_j1nzyr4 wrote

Everyone’s questioning wether the dad was or wasn’t on the spectrum, all I know is my man invented those things and was shot down by his family but nowadays they’re sold everywhere

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whiskeyjane45 t1_j1nzys9 wrote

Replying to margo_plicatus (#1,057,238)

I was 18 and described as a butter face. I graduated and moved out of my parent's house at 17. Couldn't get anyone to go on a date with me. I had one dinner date with a guy and hung out at his house a few times before he ghosted me

Then I met my husband. I was 18. We've been together for 17 years now.

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Rancor_Keeper t1_j1nzzh7 wrote

My GF from college, a Bar Harbor girl from Maine, wanted me to come back with her for winter break to her home town in Bar Harbor Maine. To make a long story short, the conversation of snow shoeing came up with her Mom and Dad and younger sister, because I guess that's one of the fun things to do when there's a foot of snow on the ground during the winter. I don't know when or how the outdoorsy, snow shoeing conversation took a strange turn, but it did when her Mom started talking about how a woman goes pee with all that clothing on, while wearing snow shoes and all the other gear. Just like a bolt of lightning the mom jumps up and runs into the other room and returns clutching something in her hand. "Ya, see.... You don't have to take your pants down or worry about falling in your own pee with this device...." She produces a funnel of some sort like what OP was describing. I thought it was a joke and looked over at the family (GF, younger sister and the dad), my GF's head in her hands, with both the younger sister and father red-faced, dying of laughter. Then the mom proceeds to show me how to use it. That was a really interesting dinner.

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Brave_anonymous1 t1_j1o0ckk wrote

Your dad used the top notch cognitive dissonance techniques to make you look really different than other average boring boys and their families. Even if she would be able to break up with you after such a bonding - she would never forget you.

Something to remember when your grandson will bring his first girlfriend to your Christmas party.

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peanutsfordarwin t1_j1o0uhh wrote

1975? If you are 63, 1999 is when it was invented. Or 39? Not 16.

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tobydiah t1_j1o3g52 wrote

It’s not a FU. This is the timeline where you’re happily together with her.

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Plantsandcats1 t1_j1o3tio wrote

Thank you, this made me smile and I really needed it. I also think the gift is a bit sweet as well. I have had to pee quite a few times out in the wild and having to squat and worry about pee splashing on my ankles was quite a disadvantage in those cases. The newness of the relationship does make it awkward though haha

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Godofwar512 t1_j1o44w1 wrote

My brother in law got one for my mom for Christmas one year because my parents camp. I was laughing. So hard. It was a gag gift kinda. But I think she probably brings it camping. Perfect gift for the ladies in your life. 😂😂

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slotheroni t1_j1o6cby wrote

The way in which you described that this GF is now your wife after 47 years would make your quirky dad proud.

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ThrobbinGoblin t1_j1o6ost wrote

Replying to Adjectivenounnumb (#1,062,727)

Dude, it's pretty normal. At least in America.

I mean... Isn't it? At least like weed or mushrooms at some point if you're in the midwest. Unless your parents are the most super conservative people or they didn't have you until they were in their thirties. At least in my experience there's a good proportion of them that at least dabbled.

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Mindraker t1_j1o83g4 wrote

> Anyway we are still together today - 47 years later.

Do you still have the "she-wee" giggidy

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erriuga_leon27 t1_j1o8b7s wrote

I mean, things went mostly fine if you guys are still together

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moeman32 t1_j1o8ui4 wrote

Is the she wee really a 50 yr old invention?

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xxthursday09xx t1_j1o9mqs wrote

Omg I would have LOVED if that was my first Xmas experience with my husband! Its so sweet and hilarious!

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eyeswideshut935 t1_j1oc1bn wrote

I am looking for the comments about Google and the shewee where both not around 47 years ago when you say this took place.

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IResentment t1_j1of8jr wrote

I need to slow down reading. I thought the beginning said your gf was 16 and you were 63🤦🏽‍♂️

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LilCurlyGirly t1_j1ofuiv wrote

Omg I'm ngl that's a great start to a relationship. And hey at least he tried!!! Thoughtful in his own way ☺️🤣

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twitchy_taco t1_j1ogxdl wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#1,062,790)

No, he was simply a first relationship. I met him online through a friend and dated him for a month online before I met him in person when he dumped me for looking my age (16). He started trying to hook up with my younger friend that looked 10. He was nearly 19.

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Bike_Chain_96 t1_j1omcsk wrote

Replying to Elrokk (#1,063,125)

No; Google as a company began in the late '90's. Like, I'm 26 and am older than Google I know. Before that there were other search engines. But 50 years ago, in the '70's? Not sure that home internet was really even a thing back then

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shoulda-known-better t1_j1omg87 wrote

I mean it's always been a secret dream of mine to piss standing up.... I would have married you also!

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Jexthis t1_j1onbk5 wrote

You didn't google shit 47 years ago.

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ThatRedheadMom t1_j1ooopd wrote

Still together, wow!! Congratulations and Merry Christmas!

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gotterfly t1_j1opuxf wrote

"And to this day, she still uses her She-Wee"

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Smirkydarkdude t1_j1oqoqs wrote

Replying to eyeswideshut935 (#1,064,875)

Omg I can't believe I keep seeing this comment. Lol. Clearly I need to work on how I phrase things. No of course Google wasn't around then. But if you would like to see what it looked like you can Google that term today with Google now and see what it looked like back then.

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Oh_No_Its_Dudder t1_j1oqvg1 wrote

Sounds like a She-Wee for the chicks in your life is the way to go, present wise. Now they can experience the joy of writing their names in the snow, without the hassle of having to scuttle around like a crab to do it.

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ooooooooooooolivia t1_j1oseer wrote

Replying to asonicpushforenergy (#1,062,820)

What I meant was: all people are neurodiverse to some degree. We all have traits that would be considered signs of autism, but some people have more than others or are impacted more by them, and that's when it gets diagnosed as a disorder.

Autism is not a clearly defined genetic or physical trait; the line we draw to say someone has it is artificial. Autism being a complex disorder almost necessarily means some factors will occur in nearly all people. There's like hundreds of genes that relate to it

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prontoon t1_j1q6cr5 wrote

I hate these tifu posts that start with "this happened 50 years ago". Totally sounds like they fucked up today.

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